[Discussion] Why are men sooo superficial?

[wargear]

Just be yourself and stay true to yourself everything works out!!

 

[Edo Odin]

bitch please..

:rofl: /thread

 

[Hikari Uchiha Senju]

Whats the dif?.

Emo/goths look the same to me

Well,emo's are pretty much "fancy" & "swag" people only with dark/neon colors on their clothes and they are always deppressed because they don't fit in the society. They usually listen to rap and scremo metal. And some of them cut themselfs... :S
And goths are people who like medeval and dark stuff (e.g. angels,wichcraft,blood,corsetes,paisson) and,even tought they don't fit in,they act cool about it. We usually listen to symphonic metal The only bad thing is that some goths drink/take drugs so that makes ppl arownd them verry jugemental :/

 

[HadouKage]

What? I thought women were just as superficial (if not more) then men....

 

[edo x edo]

I prefer men in face paint and have clear psychological issues. It keeps things entertaining.

Haha awesome! I like the way you think, it must be very interesting to be you

 

[SoulKiller]

Are you showing off by making this thread to let everyone know that some people are after you and so you can tell us how your body looks like BITCH PLZ

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[kmrasengan]

Oh come on, this again? lady not every guy is the same, yeah i care a little about looks, but if you have a great personality and you're fun to be with, then you cool with me, so my advice to you, be more confident, some guys dig goth chicks so you may be lucky.

 

[The Great Narumaki]

Reproduce ! Reproduce before it's too late !

hahaxd
Actually thats not the full story. Ofcourse at first look any guy would prefer hinata type O.O over sakura type(body wise, no offence) but for the long run(read relationships) everyone chooses a good and nice person over some hinata bodytype without character.
So you dont have to worry.:y

 

[zinescience]

don't worry they will try to be deep.

 

[kmrasengan]

Seriously i saw your photo on the show yourself thread, and you're gorgeous, just sayan, so i don't know why you can't get guys.

 

[YowYan]

Seriously i saw your photo on the show yourself thread, and you're gorgeous, just sayan, so i don't know why you can't get guys.

Let go of that sausage boii. real quick!

 

[The First TsukiKage]

Haha I prefer my woman more like Noomi Rapace, Hinata and sakura are too 2D for me xd

 

[kmrasengan]

Let go of that sausage boii. real quick!

lmao, now i have to. going to the gym, trying to stay fit.

 

[Jack Spicer]

Thanks for putting everyone male on Earth into one category. Now, that's superficial.

 

[Jin Hayami]

If personality was a visible trait the world would be so much simpler. But it's not so the first thing you are forced to decide when meeting someone is if you would mate with them or not based on their looks. Lets all be real here we know in the first ten seconds of meeting someone if they're gonna get friend zoned or not. If personality was all that mattered you would just end up sleeping with all of your friends.

 

[Hikari Uchiha Senju]

OMFG. I know that not ALL men are the same. It's just the most of men I know are like that -.-'''''''''

 

[Ventalus]

OMFG. I know that not ALL men are the same. It's just the most of men I know are like that -.-'''''''''

Then you have gotten into a wrong company.

 

[Soul Reaver]

Both sexes are primarily attracted to physical. What that physical is depends on the personal preference.
Some girls here said they are attracted to smart guys. I bet that, if we could take a look at one of those smart guys, he'll be a version of Brad Pitt with glasses U_U

 

[Aim64C]

I'm a girl,not verry pretty but not ugly either,and I'm verry anoyed by the fact that every guy that was or wants to be with me looks only at my body wich is funny since I have Sakura's body looks,if u know what I mean,and I don't dress as all the other girls at my sourownding (kindda slutty if you ask me) - in fact I'm a goth.... I have to admit that I am pretty shy as well so that might be a reason,but it dosn't make any sence at all to me...! I know I not the only one with this kind of problem,but Its really hard to deal with! Do you have any advices for me?

I'd imagine you're in your teens. Not meant as derogatory or anything - just an assumption which puts my advice into the context of me speaking to someone still on the other side of the 'divide.'

I know this advice will be frustrating... but don't worry about relationships. Guys at your age are really only capable of getting you pregnant and not much more. It'd be rare to find one capable of offering much in the way of emotional support (and even then, that's best left as friends).

A lot of things will eventually change after you get to college and/or the working world. The highschool drama will go away, somewhat. The cliques break down - "jocks" are no longer unapproachable, the 'preps' no longer as exclusive, and people as a whole become much easier to interact with.

Guys start to change, as well, and begin to look beyond the trending supermodel ideals.

That said, do not, for any reason, believe that it is okay for a guy to "just be attracted to your personality." Physical attraction is important, and if a guy isn't attracted to you, physically (or you can't be to him) - then don't get involved in a relationship.

Just give it some time. Relationships in the teenage years are mostly about "Oo! Shiny! Hey! Look who is dating me everyone! I'm socially relevant and will now be allowed, begrudgingly, to sit at a different table during lunch!"

Once you start working part-time - it's highly likely that some guy(s) you work with will find you cute and start making passes at you. It will be up to you whether or not you wish to entertain their requests.

 

[Scooby Doo]

If personality was a visible trait the world would be so much simpler. But it's not so the first thing you are forced to decide when meeting someone is if you would mate with them or not based on their looks. Lets all be real here we know in the first ten seconds of meeting someone if they're gonna get friend zoned or not. If personality was all that mattered you would just end up sleeping with all of your friends.

There is truth in what you say. And if it were not up to society and made up morals, this would probably be going on, actually, many people are like that.

Both sexes are primarily attracted to physical. What that physical is depends on the personal preference.
Some girls here said they are attracted to smart guys. I bet that, if we could take a look at one of those smart guys, he'll be a version of Brad Pitt with glasses U_U

xd Coz that's represented in the media.

I'd imagine you're in your teens. Not meant as derogatory or anything - just an assumption which puts my advice into the context of me speaking to someone still on the other side of the 'divide.'

I know this advice will be frustrating... but don't worry about relationships. Guys at your age are really only capable of getting you pregnant and not much more. It'd be rare to find one capable of offering much in the way of emotional support (and even then, that's best left as friends).

A lot of things will eventually change after you get to college and/or the working world. The highschool drama will go away, somewhat. The cliques break down - "jocks" are no longer unapproachable, the 'preps' no longer as exclusive, and people as a whole become much easier to interact with.

Guys start to change, as well, and begin to look beyond the trending supermodel ideals.

That said, do not, for any reason, believe that it is okay for a guy to "just be attracted to your personality." Physical attraction is important, and if a guy isn't attracted to you, physically (or you can't be to him) - then don't get involved in a relationship.

Just give it some time. Relationships in the teenage years are mostly about "Oo! Shiny! Hey! Look who is dating me everyone! I'm socially relevant and will now be allowed, begrudgingly, to sit at a different table during lunch!"

Once you start working part-time - it's highly likely that some guy(s) you work with will find you cute and start making passes at you. It will be up to you whether or not you wish to entertain their requests.

This is well said, though I know couples who are together since their teenage years.
A question is if we are talking about relationship or love? One can start a relationship without love but simply based on attraction. But for true love you need to love the personality as well, besides, for a lifelasting relationship, even love is not enough alone, but sense of responsibility and patience are required as well.

Meh you cant really do this topic justice in this space but if youre really interested, do read into evolutionary psychology on this issue. Anyways briefly, sexual attraction is generally not something we can control, it is rooted in visceral psychological drives chiseled by tens of thousands of years of evolution in the primitive environments of our ancestors (its purpose to maximize reproduce success).

Males are more "superficial" than females because males have generally been the resource collectors (i.e. hunters and whatnot) and the dominant ***, for the male in pre-history, a partners personality was not as important as her fertility (a "curvy" body indicates fertility). Females, on the other hand, had to consider a partners ability for resource collection (yes this is why females are attracted to financially wealthy men but not so much vice versa) and because of the burden of children, they had to be much more selective in mate selection (i.e. they had to take into account their partners capacity for empathy, faithfulness etc etc).

This is about true.

It's an evolutional instinct.
Women want a dominant male whose offsprings will be dominant as well, so that the best features necessary to survival and engendering are reproduced. But at the same time, and for kinda the same reason, women also require that person to be reliable to help bringing up the children. But men's purpose is to fertilize more and more women so that he can have more offsprings. One woman can give birth only to a limited number of childrenm while a man can have hundreds of children.
I hope I didn't say too stupid things.
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But don't worry, not all guys after only looks, but after all, you cannot keep your eyes closed and you have an impression if someone is attractive to you or not. But that doesn't mean that you cannot love someone less attractive or vice versa.