Tired of my mom

[Horus]

Just keep it clean here guys. No spam and insulting.. Clean discussion please.

 

[Cohle]

not sure if just dumb or really serious, but your post is also just an assumption.. like all the other posts in this thread with the every little detail the op has given


the post that are similar to mine are because we have seen alot of these posts on here where people had stupid reasons to hate their parents and/or just lied and told it afterwards
so next time before you wanna act big atleast make sure to not end up as a complete joke with your post

But I tried to be nice and attempted to not put you down

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[Sasuke tyeezy]

not sure if just dumb or really serious, but your post is also just an assumption.. like all the other posts in this thread with the every little detail the op has given


the post that are similar to mine are because we have seen alot of these posts on here where people had stupid reasons to hate their parents and/or just lied and told it afterwards
so next time before you wanna act big atleast make sure to not end up as a complete joke with your post

I don’t believe the basis of the problem with what you said was simply because of you assumed something, It was because the multitude of the assumptions you made. Coupled with the fact of you acting like you know the OP’s situation personally & then trying to passively bash him.

 

[Misо]

Dont leave. You've endured 23 years with her, you can survive a couple more. But once you're done, don't leave with the mindset that you'll finally be free, and wont have to live through her nagging anymore. If she suddenly dies tomorrow, would you want your last moments with her to be negative?

Even when I am extremely angry at my mom, thinking about what I'd do if she suddenly died always reminds me of how much I love her.

 

[Kushina89]

But I tried to be nice and attempted to not put you down

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ohh, the usual reply from a person who totally sucked with his respond :/

 

[Azarath Metrion Zinthos]

not sure if just dumb or really serious, but your post is also just an assumption.. like all the other posts in this thread with the every little detail the op has given


the post that are similar to mine are because we have seen alot of these posts on here where people had stupid reasons to hate their parents and/or just lied and told it afterwards
so next time before you wanna act big atleast make sure to not end up as a complete joke with your post

Took you long but you finally got there.

Assumptions everywhere buddy. :axedance:

 

[Kushina89]

I don’t believe the basis of the problem with what you said was simply because of you assumed something, It was because the multitude of the assumptions you made. Coupled with the fact of you acting like you know the OP’s situation personally & then trying to passively bash him.

just the way you guys made assumptions about his mother being the one in fault here?

 

[Kushina89]

Took you long but you finally got there.

Assumptions everywhere buddy. :axedance:

git gud you fail troll lmao

 

[Azarath Metrion Zinthos]

git gud you fail troll lmao

But seriously. I'm maybe just guessing but Heni was probably having a heated moment.

Like he got into a argument with her or something and then came here to vent out a little of his frustration.

If it was that big you would have gotten responses from him by now. Except you're arguing with each other.

PS: I like that everyone tried though.

 

[Lyke]

I'm inclined to agree, but I don't think he could fork over $40k unless it comes from his wages... if he started lending her money at the age of 16, that's over $100/week, every week. It's true that the money's insignificant compared to the amount needed to raise a child, but it's also something to be expected raising a child. If a random stranger gave me a 1 million dollar check, I don't need to feel entitled to give them any money back since they were the ones giving it to me.

At the age of 23, some parents may feel the need to charge their children rent for staying at their home (also depends where the OP lives culturally). That may be OK... as long as that's the agreement and not just some sort of guilt trip mechanism. At this point in his life, I'm of the opinion that he should be building up a life for himself, and I think that's what he wants too. The best situation would be to come to terms with his mother, I just want to find the best way to reach there while living comfortably, or at least find some alternatives. I do hope he doesn't harbor resentment to those that raised him.

Of all the possibilities he listed, what do you think would be the best for him?

Yes, we both agree that if she takes his wage every month, then he should negotiate with her, since her husband should give her money, not her son. But, he should still stop counting every cent and every now and then pay for her needs. Thats the least he could do.

If the mom should except her son not to owe her any money, it has to be the other way around aswell. Theyre family after all. This also cant be compared to a random stranger giving you 1 million.

I agree with you, that he should slowly live his own life, since he is 23, BUT he shouldnt be like "im out of the house, i dont need to take care of her anymore".

An example would be my mothers family: She immigrated to Germany in the early 90s, while her 2 siblins and mom are still in the other country. She still transfers money to her every month and says that she must visit and stay at hers every summer (vacations), because she could die any moment, leading to her regretting, and, a mother is the most important person in ones life. Of course, her siblings also take care of her.

(Btw that 40k is most likely a made up amount given the troll threads of OP)

 

[Belserion]

That's really harsh to say something like that. I bet at times she was tired of you too but she still kept you for 23 years.

And I don't believe she wasted 40000$ on drugs/alcohol etc.
No amount of cash can compensate the things she did for you. Pregnancy is a bïtch. Waking up in the middle of the night to feed her Baby. And I'm pretty sure it was her who watched over you when you got sick and I bet she still does.

 

[Mori Jin]

I don't think this is a fair argument. Consider somebody without a mother like you say, seeking help on their struggles, just to have somebody else reply "Oh, at least you had a dad in your life...". Or just replace that with any "worse" equivalent. Another example: If a deaf person is looking for advice, and somebody else replies "Seriously? At least you're not blind AND deaf...". See what I mean? The list goes on. I think there needs to be context involved.

Must be how ungrateful people sound.

 

[Cohle]

ohh, the usual reply from a person who totally sucked with his respond :/

Well if you think so, then that's ok. Carry on

 

[Ves]

They've been through exactly what you did.

Elders dont have a problem. They are 100% right to be ashamed of this constantly dumbing population.

Ignorance. This statement alone proves everything you've said thus far is ignorance at its pinnacle.

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[Azarath Metrion Zinthos]

That's really harsh to say something like that. I bet at times she was tired of you too but she still kept you for 23 years.

And I don't believe she wasted 40000$ on drugs/alcohol etc.
No amount of cash can compensate the things she did for you. Pregnancy is a bïtch. Waking up in the middle of the night to feed her Baby. And I'm pretty sure it was her who watched over you when you got sick and I bet she still does.

I'll pretend I didn't see this incredibly huge assumption. U_U

 

[Sasuke tyeezy]

just the way you guys made assumptions about his mother being the one in fault here?

Go read my post kid, I used hypotheticals. You made many baseless assumptions, more than anyone else in this thread. You also talked like you know the entirety of this guy’s situation and, passively tried to bash him.

 

[Azarath Metrion Zinthos]

Ignorance. This statement alone proves everything you've said thus far is ignorance at its pinnacle.

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Dude, tell me about it.

 

[Drakengard]

not sure if just dumb or really serious, but your post is also just an assumption.. like all the other posts in this thread with the every little detail the op has given


the post that are similar to mine are because we have seen alot of these posts on here where people had stupid reasons to hate their parents and/or just lied and told it afterwards
so next time before you wanna act big atleast make sure to not end up as a complete joke with your post

I think it's best to give advice that applies on a wider scope.

On one side, OP could be someone who's been enduring abuse for several years. Maybe he woke up today in tears because his mother found and took his hidden stack of funds he'd be hiding in hopes of attending a concert for the first time after a stressful work week. Or maybe he's been leeching off his mother's wages with no hopes on things changing in the near future (which would contradict what he posted in the OP, but we could assume he was lying about it).

In either case, OP obviously thinks that something is wrong, regardless of how we view his situation. In either case, however, there seems to be a destructive relationship at home that should be either remedied or cut off. In my opinion, the best way to approach this is to try having a loving connection with his mother (IF possible) while simultaneously researching how to live on his own. That way, he's still better off if he really is that "inconsiderate child", but can also have a relatively guilt-free escape route if the home life is really starting to suck. For more details on how to approach this problem, OP can PM people who are willing to help or seek help elsewhere!

 

[Belserion]

I'll pretend I didn't see this incredibly huge assumption. U_U

Who the hell is going to look out for a sick kid who's just 5 for example?

 

[Kakooli]

do something petty.........put salt in her coffee for revenge!