lol I didn't choose to move anywhere, I was just born here where I am now. When people immigrated to a certain area, they didn't have nice neighborhoods or bad neighborhoods. They evolved into what they are today and the descendants of those people who first arrived don't have the options to move out from where they were born.
Is that why everyone is disagreeing with you? You make the worst arguments to the point of face-palming myself literally.
The fact that you can't understand what is and is not in a person's control is beyond me.
a parent does have some control. if they move into a area/school with alot of gang violence then they risk there child being exposed to that. same for areas with alot of murders or drugs. if you choose to move your child into an area with alot of drug use and your child becomes a druggy then its your fault. same if you sent them to a bad school there are probably 5 schools in every area and if you choose the bad one its your fault. if your scared that your child mght get exposed to porn to early then either educate them on it or put up filters. a parent has more control then you give them for.
if your family settled in africa and you didnt want to raise your child in a certian area then leave that area.
again you still didnt reply to my last analogy.
scenario one: madara loved his brothers. he encouraged war with the senju's even though it was a losing fight. madara did not talk his brothers out of war, he did not attempt to stop them from fighting, he didnt even protect them during the war, they all were killed. madra did nothing to prevent this yet he loved his brothers so its ok right?
scenario 2 : itachi loved his brother. his clan was a bunch of jealous emos and wanted power. his option was kill everyone but your brother or let your brother watch his whole clan get murdered during a civil war in which sasuke would feel up with hate and likely be killed to. itachi decided option two because this is the only way for sasuke to live a normal life. sure he provoked sasuke to hate him and to kill him, but all of this was done for sasuke's sake. you may not agree with it but itachi did it with sasuke in mind and this didnt result in sasuke being murdered.
im saying this again, if you think someone who allows there brothers to die in war is better because he loved them over someone who loved his little brother and ultimately kept them alive but tortured them then who am i to judge your opinion :|. again i'll take the brother who ultimately kept there brother alive because sasuke wouldve died during the civil war