Well think about it like this.
I decided a while back that i was fine and perfect. I found a guy and we were in love. and then slowly I started to change. I began to get tardy, change my diet, and my life began to change alot over one year. I was in a poor relationship because I simply wanted attention. he was giving it to me and so I didnt care what else was happening.
But then once we broke up, and I was shattered, I decicded that I wanted to "find myself" and who I truely was. More to that fact of doing things that I wanted, doing them when I wanted and not trying to please other people or change for them. Ofcourse I was still being there for friends but I mean I wasnt goint out of my way in destructive habits to change myself for them. Eventualy I found a guy that liked me for me and so thats what made me happy. i didnt care what randoms though, only what friends thought. so thats just my story of why I wanted to change myself and find myself.