They sided with you because you they advocate for Gaara. Nothing more, nothing less. Don't even try to use Argumentum ad Populum to justify your argument.
Other than that, that's essentially the point. If the potency differs, then SM Kabuto's feats cannot apply to Tayuya.
The argument of ignorance is one only used when speculation can only be used. I'll never use that regardless.
Dude, lol. I'm not saying Kabuto can use her Genjutsu at the strength level as Kabuto. What I'm saying the execution, and symptoms will always be the same no matter how much power you add to the technique.
Simple breaking out will be harder if someone with more potent chakra uses it. But that isn't the case here, because Tayuya's jutsu restricts ALL movement. As seen when Shikamaru blatantly said he was going to go all out with his chakra, then proceeds to waste much needed chakra to break the Genjutsu.
Why use a ninjutsu when you can simply break out of Sound Genjutsu that doesn't restrict your oral movements by biting your lip/tongue? Simple, he couldn't move. So he had to use Kagemane. This is deadass set in stone, and obvious. His usage of Kagemane was literally what made it obvious.