can a single mom raise a boy to be a man?

[Cunning Linguist]

A mother can teach her son to be a man if she raises him to protect those that are weak and be a good person. And never hit a woman. Not all fathers are good men so it shouldn't matter if you have a father figure in your life

 

[Blubbit]

I didn't think I would need to dumb myself down and explain my point specifically to benefit lesser minds but here goes.


I said a man can only teach a boy certain things. I should have been specific and digress to saying some men because not all men carry the characteristic that I already mentioned, just like not all women do either more so the majority. If your gripe with me is that I said not all women can raise great males then you gripe is with humanity and facts. It is more likely that a woman raising kids on her own is going to fail( bad word to use at the moment) when raising all of them. I know because I am a male and my mother had 3 kids, 2 boys and a girl and both my brother an sister are in prison right now and their troubles started very early in life. Me however I was raised no different from them and our mother provided for us everything that we needed and wanted still they failed so far but the only reason I haven't been subjected to the same end result is because I had male figures growing up not fathers but male figures to tell and teach me the responsibilities of being a man.

My up bringing was great as I stated filled with love as well as my other siblings but my mother was alone and she did it all alone just like many other minority mothers do and just like kids of minority the majority of them fail early in life because they lack a male role model. If you don't understand me then that's fine but I know other black people agree, black mothers have it hard on their own and facts show that young black males without male figures in their life fail a lot of times. Some women are successful in this process but not all women have the same means nor do they have the same things around them to ensure their kids grow the way they want.

It humors me that you think you're dumbing yourself down. I simply asked for you to explain your reasoning since I have an opposing view, because from my perspective you were presenting something I didn't understand because I see it differently.

Now here's something, from what you've told me it has lead me to believe that your belief stems from your own personal experience. Because your mother and some other single mothers raising boys failed to teach you some things because of a disposition related to gender, you believe that a father or a male figure is necessary. Well, what of the people here saying a mother is fully capable of raising their boy into a man who were raised by single mothers. Are they wrong? By saying these things you are 1. generalizing by saying because some cases are like yours, majority or all have to be and 2. gender stereotyping for reasons I don't think I need to explain. I'm going to bring this up again, scientific research has shown that it doesn't matter, and I've already told you just which sciences I'm talking about.

 

[Blubbit]

Da Best Ever I just noticed it says you live in Texas haha. I don't even think I need to continue this anymore. Not to stereotype Texans, but that already explained a lot to me.

Here are the actual facts. Acting "manly" is just a personality trait. There is no gender based disposition, meaning there is no reason a women wouldn't be able to teach her son how to be manly. All you're doing is adding a label on a personality trait, calling it manly. Girls can wear blue and boys can wear pink.

 

[Rioxnation]

what do you think? i personally think a mom can raise a child to be a good person but he will only learn to be a man from man(i.e father, male role model, etc).

I recently learned from my psychology class that that is true, the father is the one who cares for the child in the most behavior dynamic way. But pretty much anything is possible, so yes i do think that a mom can raise a child to be an outstanding person.

 

[Currahee]

from my personal experience no. my mum was overbearing a babied me, when i moved out i had a steep learning curve thank god i did still see my dad occasionally otherwise i would be messed up. the house was so feminine i was the youngest of 4 kids and i was the only guy.

 

[Trolling King]

So I can never be a man... thanks... this thread... ruined my night...

 

[NarutoB]

So I can never be a man... thanks... this thread... ruined my night...

Same here bro _@:

 

[ekichi onizuka]

most of the time when there is no man the boy takes charge in growing up and protecting his mom
i would even say that turns him in to a man than most people from the same age.

 

[cptenn94]

So I can never be a man... thanks... this thread... ruined my night...

I dont think ANYONE is saying a person raised by a single mother CANNOT become a man. This thread is just discussion if a single mom by herself can raise a boy into a man.(not includeing outside influences)

Soooo you can still become a man(or perhaps you are one)


Anyways here is my opinion.

A rare exception of a single mom could raise her son to be a man. However the majority, I think cannot do it without there being a outside influence on the boy. I fully think a mom can teach her son many things about how to be a man. But I think the kid NEEDS a male role model/mentor in order to become a true man. That role model may be a muscian. A actor. A tv character. A teacher.

Moms(from personal experiance) can teach their sons how to treat ladies right(or perhaps to well). They can teach their kids important lessons such as the value of hard work, and that they can do anything if they work hard enough at it. Moms out of their love also do all they can to protect their kid from the various bad things in the world.

They however do not teach the full spectrum that a boy needs to become a man.

To me, A man is someone who keeps his life in order. When he has a goal, he pursues it. He is always moveing in some direction. He will go one way, and if it was the wrong way he will move in a different direction. But he will never just wander aimlessly. He is able to maintain proper authority over people. He will punish when deserved and reward when deserved, the people under his authority. A man is someone who stands up for he believes in no matter what. Who does not back down from the words he says. Who takes responsibility for all his words and actions. He is candid and straightforward. He says what he means and means what he says.
A man is someone who provides for his family, and in return they support the man. A man MAKES MISTAKES. But he gets back up anyways, and learns from them. He uses his mistakes to grow. A man will do what he thinks he should do, regardless of what anyone else thinks.

Moms rarely are able to teach all of what a man is. Just as a Dad cannot teach all of what a woman is.(I specifically mentioned rarely, as there are indeed exceptions to every rule.)

ALL that said, just because you have a mom and dad, does not neccesarily mean you will learn to be a man any more than the person with a single mom. Your father may be emasculate.

Emasculate men, are not truly MEN. They lack a signifigant amount of manly qualities. That does not mean they cannot set a good example. Just that they will not be able to truly teach their son how to be a man. Perhaps the Emasculate father himself is pretty much a MAN. But he lacks the qualities to set a good example and teach his son how to be a proper MAN.

I love my parents very very greatly and appreciate all the many things they have taught me. However they did not teach me all I needed to learn about becomeing a man. My mom sheltered me a bit more than she should have. I was still able to grow some, but not to my full potential(while being raised).My father started off with being manly. However when my mom was deployed overseas, he was left to do both parents jobs. He was not able to maintain his authority over us kids. And he never did what he needed to to regain it, once our mom got back. And over time be became more emasculate.

I am a man(adult male). But I fully know I am not a MAN(aka i am still emasculate)




So if you are lazy and choose to ignore text walls, then just read this short summary.

MOMS(single and married) cannot usually raise a boy to become a MAN(a masculine male). There are exceptions, but to become a proper MAN, the boy needs a role model. It is possible for the boy to become a MAN, just through his life experiances over time(which would be a outside influence other than the mom)


Moms are amazing and Dads are awesome. I would never seek to replace them, or devalue how much they are worth.

 

[Bellion]

Yep women are perfectly capable of raising a boy into a man, my mom raised me and my bro into men. Its not about always learning from a male role model, I personally only have my brother to look up to. I learned by watching other people and not repeating their stupid mistakes. Sometimes in life, its not what you learn from someone but what you don't learn

 

[Anorien16]

Anorien16 are you blind or did you pick out things in my post to read instead of reading the whole thing. I clearly said woman have that characteristic of hard work...smh silly as kids trying to make themselves look good by fabricating others statements. Ignorance

Well if you reread your own statement "Yes a woman can have these characteristics but its very few women out of the 4 billion that exist that have those characteristics." .... It seemed to imply that such characteristics are in a minority in RL women .... then you went on like all men are of good quality .... That alone proves your delusional leanings. Sad that pretending-adults thinks they have seen the world.

 

[Forest]

IT Depends on the mother...

 

[-immortal-]

Yes eaily, a norml child will always wanne protect your mother when there is no other man who does.

 

[Jack Spicer]

I'll use myself as an example.

My parents divorced when I was young. It's been my mom and my grandparents and stuff, but just my mom. No dad. So, the question is am I a man? Everyone has a different definition of a man. I'm not psychically strong or know anything about cars or really even like the outdoors. I'm not manly at all, but I'm a good person. I'm functional in society. I'm 19. I may not be a man, I don't think I am, but I'm a good person and am on the way of becoming a good adult male. So, yeah.

Looking at other people, I think 100% a single mom can raise a man, one certainly manlier than I, but a man nonetheless.

 

[ShiroT]

Da Best Ever I just noticed it says you live in Texas haha. I don't even think I need to continue this anymore. Not to stereotype Texans, but that already explained a lot to me.

Here are the actual facts. Acting "manly" is just a personality trait. There is no gender based disposition, meaning there is no reason a women wouldn't be able to teach her son how to be manly. All you're doing is adding a label on a personality trait, calling it manly. Girls can wear blue and boys can wear pink.

its not just about personality traits, its also lessons and a mindset. and more or less woman will not know. i cant speak for all woman but i can only speak fro personal experience. im only the way i am due to male figure(s). yes my mom did a great job but i owe most of myself to male peers and a tiny bit to my dad(not so much him he sucks)

 

[sasukesworld]

yes ofc, why not -.-

 

[ShiroT]

I dont think ANYONE is saying a person raised by a single mother CANNOT become a man. This thread is just discussion if a single mom by herself can raise a boy into a man.(not includeing outside influences)

Soooo you can still become a man(or perhaps you are one)


Anyways here is my opinion.

A rare exception of a single mom could raise her son to be a man. However the majority, I think cannot do it without there being a outside influence on the boy. I fully think a mom can teach her son many things about how to be a man. But I think the kid NEEDS a male role model/mentor in order to become a true man. That role model may be a muscian. A actor. A tv character. A teacher.

Moms(from personal experiance) can teach their sons how to treat ladies right(or perhaps to well). They can teach their kids important lessons such as the value of hard work, and that they can do anything if they work hard enough at it. Moms out of their love also do all they can to protect their kid from the various bad things in the world.

They however do not teach the full spectrum that a boy needs to become a man.

To me, A man is someone who keeps his life in order. When he has a goal, he pursues it. He is always moveing in some direction. He will go one way, and if it was the wrong way he will move in a different direction. But he will never just wander aimlessly. He is able to maintain proper authority over people. He will punish when deserved and reward when deserved, the people under his authority. A man is someone who stands up for he believes in no matter what. Who does not back down from the words he says. Who takes responsibility for all his words and actions. He is candid and straightforward. He says what he means and means what he says.
A man is someone who provides for his family, and in return they support the man. A man MAKES MISTAKES. But he gets back up anyways, and learns from them. He uses his mistakes to grow. A man will do what he thinks he should do, regardless of what anyone else thinks.

Moms rarely are able to teach all of what a man is. Just as a Dad cannot teach all of what a woman is.(I specifically mentioned rarely, as there are indeed exceptions to every rule.)

ALL that said, just because you have a mom and dad, does not neccesarily mean you will learn to be a man any more than the person with a single mom. Your father may be emasculate.

Emasculate men, are not truly MEN. They lack a signifigant amount of manly qualities. That does not mean they cannot set a good example. Just that they will not be able to truly teach their son how to be a man. Perhaps the Emasculate father himself is pretty much a MAN. But he lacks the qualities to set a good example and teach his son how to be a proper MAN.

I love my parents very very greatly and appreciate all the many things they have taught me. However they did not teach me all I needed to learn about becomeing a man. My mom sheltered me a bit more than she should have. I was still able to grow some, but not to my full potential(while being raised).My father started off with being manly. However when my mom was deployed overseas, he was left to do both parents jobs. He was not able to maintain his authority over us kids. And he never did what he needed to to regain it, once our mom got back. And over time be became more emasculate.

I am a man(adult male). But I fully know I am not a MAN(aka i am still emasculate)




So if you are lazy and choose to ignore text walls, then just read this short summary.

MOMS(single and married) cannot usually raise a boy to become a MAN(a masculine male). There are exceptions, but to become a proper MAN, the boy needs a role model. It is possible for the boy to become a MAN, just through his life experiances over time(which would be a outside influence other than the mom)


Moms are amazing and Dads are awesome. I would never seek to replace them, or devalue how much they are worth.

Agreed while I'm not trying to downplay mother's I agree

 

[Saikyokami]

well..
My mom did a perfectly good job of raising me and my brother on our own.. I dun see why not.

 

[Calpal]

do you have any role models/ someone you like up to?

No, I look down upon everyone.

 

[NineSNS]

I dont think ANYONE is saying a person raised by a single mother CANNOT become a man. This thread is just discussion if a single mom by herself can raise a boy into a man.(not includeing outside influences)

Soooo you can still become a man(or perhaps you are one)


Anyways here is my opinion.

A rare exception of a single mom could raise her son to be a man. However the majority, I think cannot do it without there being a outside influence on the boy. I fully think a mom can teach her son many things about how to be a man. But I think the kid NEEDS a male role model/mentor in order to become a true man. That role model may be a muscian. A actor. A tv character. A teacher.

Moms(from personal experiance) can teach their sons how to treat ladies right(or perhaps to well). They can teach their kids important lessons such as the value of hard work, and that they can do anything if they work hard enough at it. Moms out of their love also do all they can to protect their kid from the various bad things in the world.

They however do not teach the full spectrum that a boy needs to become a man.

To me, A man is someone who keeps his life in order. When he has a goal, he pursues it. He is always moveing in some direction. He will go one way, and if it was the wrong way he will move in a different direction. But he will never just wander aimlessly. He is able to maintain proper authority over people. He will punish when deserved and reward when deserved, the people under his authority. A man is someone who stands up for he believes in no matter what. Who does not back down from the words he says. Who takes responsibility for all his words and actions. He is candid and straightforward. He says what he means and means what he says.
A man is someone who provides for his family, and in return they support the man. A man MAKES MISTAKES. But he gets back up anyways, and learns from them. He uses his mistakes to grow. A man will do what he thinks he should do, regardless of what anyone else thinks.

Moms rarely are able to teach all of what a man is. Just as a Dad cannot teach all of what a woman is.(I specifically mentioned rarely, as there are indeed exceptions to every rule.)

ALL that said, just because you have a mom and dad, does not neccesarily mean you will learn to be a man any more than the person with a single mom. Your father may be emasculate.

Emasculate men, are not truly MEN. They lack a signifigant amount of manly qualities. That does not mean they cannot set a good example. Just that they will not be able to truly teach their son how to be a man. Perhaps the Emasculate father himself is pretty much a MAN. But he lacks the qualities to set a good example and teach his son how to be a proper MAN.

I love my parents very very greatly and appreciate all the many things they have taught me. However they did not teach me all I needed to learn about becomeing a man. My mom sheltered me a bit more than she should have. I was still able to grow some, but not to my full potential(while being raised).My father started off with being manly. However when my mom was deployed overseas, he was left to do both parents jobs. He was not able to maintain his authority over us kids. And he never did what he needed to to regain it, once our mom got back. And over time be became more emasculate.

I am a man(adult male). But I fully know I am not a MAN(aka i am still emasculate)




So if you are lazy and choose to ignore text walls, then just read this short summary.

MOMS(single and married) cannot usually raise a boy to become a MAN(a masculine male). There are exceptions, but to become a proper MAN, the boy needs a role model. It is possible for the boy to become a MAN, just through his life experiances over time(which would be a outside influence other than the mom)


Moms are amazing and Dads are awesome. I would never seek to replace them, or devalue how much they are worth.

I agree with what you said here. Most of the bold text above applies to everyone: take ownership of your life, set goals, work hard, be responsible. I believe as long as you have one adult in your life that is close to you model those characteristics, you will be okay. Statistically, the more adults in your life, the higher the odds that at least one of them is a good role model.