When did you choose your sexuality?

[Rekudakune]

by god's will. what else?
and you can only quit that game, but you cant change the rules.

 

[Bantos]

When I realized I get turned on by men and not women. :| No one ever did ask me would I like to be straight or gay though.

 

[Crepsa]

It's not a choice. When you develop yourself as a person, you just know what you like. It's simple as that

 

[Dannie]

When I was 4 years old starting my first day of Kindergarten when I stumbled upon a beautiful young girl who was supposedly showing her ass crack and I just happen to browse on by because I had to get another juice box. *sigh* good times..

 

[Joker]

thats what plauge is for dipshit

Lmfao, you have the audacity to insult others, yet a majority of your posts are stupid as shit. Kid, bye.

 

[Dannie]

I have no problem with gay people as they are just people with a different preference than me, but when a gay guy tries to come on to me (which has happened in real life before) then I draw the line. I'm not fond of liking another dude, but I can tolerate being friends with a gay guy, as long as they don't do anything stupid. Being a guy individual, I prefer lesbians over gays as they don't give a damn about me and they just look hotter in my opinion, as opposed to a guy who could find me attractive and try to hit on me..

Now, some people may try to call me a hypocrite for liking lesbians over gays but in a way, it would make a lot more sense for a guy that is straight to prefer lesbians as opposed to gays.

 

[Luesias]

When did it become a choice??

 

[Sasuke2]

When did it become a choice??

Since people became ignorant. Funny thing is, that even replies from those who believe it is a choice prove that it isn't. Things like "I saw a girl and I got an erection, since then" prove so. If it were a choice, the penis would ask them: "hey you up there, do you want to get erections from seeing girls or guys?"

 

[slimreaper]

Lmfao, you have the audacity to insult others, yet a majority of your posts are stupid as shit. Kid, bye.

My posts are stupid? you're the one inserting being gay is population control. Plague and natural disasters do that just fine. KID

 

[Aim64C]

When did I choose my sexuality?

I think people on both sides of this radically distort the issue.

When did you choose your degree, profession, or the types of classes you like?

You have as much control over the subjects you take interest in as you do over your sexuality. Not many people pay attention to the way in which they grow into their sexuality, though a few more pay attention to the way in which they grow into their professions, careers, trades, etc.

There are various factors that influence this - some are genetic and beyond our control. Most are environmental and only partially within our ability to control. Though our mentality and conscious decisions will always have an effect on the outcome.

For example - a video was circulating Facebook a while back where a guy dressed up in skin-tight athletic pants and pretended to work under the hood of his car - to mess with guys who walked by. And quite a few guys approached the figure fully expecting an attractive young woman - only to find it was a guy.

Which reinforces one of the theories I have developed regarding human sexuality: we aren't attracted to men or women. We are attracted to certain anatomical features. The difference between homosexuals and heterosexuals is our willingness to follow through with a recognition of attraction based upon the more complete knowledge.

This is why there are cross-dressers. If the men who seek out cross-dressers were really 'gay' - why would they be attracted to a female form?

It's these realities that complicate the argument of "I was born this way." While it is equally erroneous to say that someone "chose to be that way."

People grew up under the influences of genetics, environment, and their own cognitive choices over a course of a couple decades - and began to see certain things as attractive while other things were not as attractive.

I have always been more comfortable with females than males. There were two older girls who lived next door to me growing up, and I always seemed to befriend the girls through my early years in school. It wasn't until my brothers got much older that I really began to hang out with 'the guys.'

I grew up wanting to have a family - liking the way girls laugh... to say that I chose my sexuality would be erroneous - but to say I was 'born liking girls' completely neglects the realities of my upbringing where I was clearly influenced by my environment and my own decisions.

Consider many of the Arabic regions of the world - men are for pleasure, women are for reproduction. It was not uncommon in Iraq and Afghanistan to walk into one of their army store rooms and catch two guys in the middle of it. Generally - it was seen as self-indulgent and irresponsible after a certain age (men were expected to be thinking more of family by that point) - but it was far more common than political correctness would imply.

Are they all born that way?

Or is it culture that influences the development of a schism between pleasurable and reproductive intercourse?

 

[Aim64C]

Since people became ignorant. Funny thing is, that even replies from those who believe it is a choice prove that it isn't. Things like "I saw a girl and I got an erection, since then" prove so. If it were a choice, the penis would ask them: "hey you up there, do you want to get erections from seeing girls or guys?"

The realities of the internet conflict with your assertion.

There is a reason why pornography videos, increasingly, are tagged with "gay" or "homosexual". Because guys see the preview tile, see something they like - then get halfway through to see it's not quite what they originally thought it was.

People are attracted to characteristics. It's only after they learn the full picture of the features they are attracted to that they decide to pursue or disengage.

Being a Navy guy - I can tell you that there are a number of ports around the world where you deliberately ask whether or not the 'girl' really is a girl.

Not because their body is not attractive - but because you'll be in for a very unpleasant surprise. Unless that's your thing.

 

[Opiuchus05]

how was gay *** even made up

"oh hey bro yo give me a boner when i look at you but you dont have a vagina"
"just lube it and shove it up my ass instead"
"that's pretty innovative of you bro"

 

[Xāvî1]

when i kissed a girl at grade 2..

 

[Conspirator.]

I don't know when I chose to be straight.....it just happened. Same with when I went to uni and chose my degrees.

 

[Sasuke2]

@Aim64C, I'm not sure what you mean, may you please explain in more detail?

 

[Jack Spicer]

@Aim64C, I'm not sure what you mean, may you please explain in more detail?

You want him to explain in more detail? This must be a first for him. I imagine it's normally the opposite.

 

[YowYan]

When i was in 3rd grade seen a girl with a fat booty

That caught me offgaurd >___>

Anywho, yeah, I ask this question to religious nuts and homo-haters.

 

[Masterpiece7]

I didn't choose it I'm straight and Ik that U_U

 

[Ldude]

One day I just woke up and decided, "No homo." For real though, it ain't a choice.

 

[Aim64C]

@Aim64C, I'm not sure what you mean, may you please explain in more detail?

Let's say you are having a video chat with:

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Things go well, and you decide to meet up at a steak&shake or something. The conversation goes so well that things start to get serious.

When the clothes come off, though - we are presented with a sudden predicament as the outward anatomical features do not match up well with what's under the hood.

Let's say you're a girl who is into girls - or a guy who is into girls - you found the features of the body and the personality of the person attractive. If this person were a girl - you'd be in on it.

But they're not.

So you make the decision to 'abort operation' and 'return to base for debrief.'

The conscious decision was made: "I don't want a guy."

Everything up until that point made no difference.

"Straight" and "Gay" are different than "what you find attractive."

There are guys out there who like the idea of women with a penis - some guys even role-swap with their female partners using instruments purchased at adult stores. But those guys wouldn't pursue a relationship with another guy - no matter how effeminate he looks.

Then there are other people who just don't care. "It looks good attractive and I can make it scream my name - what's to turn down?"

The point I'm trying to make is that at some point, you've come to the decision: "I want to be with a guy." or "I want to be with a girl." Or - "I don't give a damned."

That decision is developed over time. It's based somewhat off of what you find attractive to begin with, and it's also based around your environment growing up. There are some genetic factors biasing all of that - but it also comes down to a conscious resolve that is continually reinforced throughout your life.

Which is why some people shift from heterosexual to homosexual and vise-verse. It's also why you have homosexuals attracted to guys who have surgery to look like girls - and guys who like to pretend their woman has parts she doesn't (but would probably pay for the surgery if they had it).

But you won't find many who actually want to discuss the issue intelligently.

They want a simple way of assigning blame for things. You have people who want to try and say: "you chose all of this" and you have people who want to say: "I am not in any way responsible."

Hardly anybody wants to come to understand how human sexuality and concepts of attraction work.