My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me

[Chihaya]

You could kill yourself

No, no, no.
Bad. Dun't say that.
-_-

 

[LustyLover]

That's mean you know? Dunno if it was a joke tho. But don't play like that, respect. But Meh is your choice you may feel good since your doing this on the internet.

Would you prefer for me to say it to you instead and to your face? That's doable, you know.

OT: I was joking, but in all seriousness there's nothing you can do if you truly loved this girl. My advice? Get out, no matter how hard it might be. If you stay too long wrapped within yourself you might not like the person you become.

 

[Derek1st]

I actually have advice. Maybe some day you can move on... but for now, you still have hope.

Giving her some space might be helpful. She might come back. Don't let her slip away totally though. keep a presence. Try to keep talking to her. seeing her. In a few weeks, she might realize that she can't live without YOU EITHER

 

[Joon]

"Overwhelm"? Most likely she needs space. Broking up was the only decision she could make. I don't think she was thinking about it. I think it just happen. Just give hr that space. In mean time, cope and move on.

 

[AlphaMaleLion]

You could kill yourself

Stop acting like the tough guy idiot

 

[LustyLover]

Stop acting like the tough guy idiot

Pretty sure you are. You didn't even bother to read what I said afterwards.

 

[Sageflash]

Just know that everything happens for a reason. Maybe this happened because she wasn't the right one for you. Maybe there's another girl out there, feeling the same thing, whose meant for you. You just were not meant to live your whole life with this girl. Your whole life. You'll find a different girl, who makes you happier and whose the right one. Break ups happen, you have to move on. Everyone goes through heartbreak. But who knows, maybe you'll get back together. Live is unpredictable.

This is perhaps the most comforting thought of all, that is was meant to be this way. I just have this eating feeling I'm letting something magical slip away and it reopens the wound.

Damn that sucks. My advise would be to take a break for a few months and just relax and attempt to move on. People always say that their first was their "one" but they rarely are. In time you will get over it and looks somewhere else. It won't be easy though and you have to remember that.

Thank you... I'll do my best.

I was about to make almost this exact thread. Here are my differences. My girlfriend was of 9 months, but i felt the exact same way about her. The feeling you're explaining, i'm feeling too.

The difference is, mine broke up with me because a few months ago, she woke up one morning and felt different. Depressed, uninterested in doing things, stressed. And she started feeling less affectionate. She started hanging out with her one guy friend more and more and doing it later and later.

She still promises that she doesn't love him, she doesn't even want to date him, but that she's been hanging with him because while she's feeling all disinterested, she doesn't want to put the effort into a relationship right now. She doesn't have the emotional enthusiasm to give 100% to the relationship and feels i deserve more than that.

She told me all the time how much she loved me, was IN love with me, sent me these wonderful love letters. But her feelings have been fading. not just towards me, but to everything. She still cares about me a lot, and still loves me, but just doesn't feel that overwhelming love she use to. We could keep trying, but she doesn't think she wants to be a relationship right now while she figures everything out. But she wants to be friends, because we've always been best friends. She even wants to still hold hands and cuddle.

That just makes things weird though

that we didn't break up because of a fight, or because someone cheated, or because we dont like each other anymore. She cares about me, and i care about her, i'm in love with her, and although she doesn't feel much of anything lately, I can tell that she still loves me too. Its just weird breaking up with someone but still being close to them

She said that when she gets over this weird depression and sorts things out, that we can be together again. I told her that there's no guarantee and that hurts, she said that if its meant to be, we'll find each other again.

The problem is, she hangs out with her guy friend literally 3-4 days a week now. I work all the time and never get to see her. How am i suppose to win her over if i never see her? Also he DOES like her. Even if she doesn't want to date him (or anyone right now), if he makes a move, she might get caught in the moment. They already hold hands and stuff

My deepest apologies for you, bro. I couldn't imagine feeling how I do, just like you are now, and having to deal with another dude in the picture, let alone stringing myself along on the hope it'll work later. I might PM you later, if that's cool.

You could kill yourself

I don't believe in that route no matter what happens. Why be such a **** anyway? You get your jollies kicking people when they're down?

True love doesn't exist, those Disney Movies lied. #scroogestatus

I don't want to believe that... love is what got everybody this far.

Your welcome. Just try to relax and talk to people to get you mind off of it.

I'll do my best... this is strangely therapeutic.

 

[Callypigia]

It's ironic if that's it, because she was the more possessive one between us. I never pushed for anything that would separate us or harm us as a unit. It's a mystery where I went wrong.

Maybe you weren't meeting her needs, whatever they were. Successful relationships are dependent more on timing than any other factor. If I had met my wife when we were both 16 our relationship would have failed miserably. It just boils down to timing and compatibility during that time. If you focus on your pain you'll just become bitter and distrusting. The last thing you want to do is become absorbed in self-pity. Use this time to explore your self, and help others. The more you help others, the better you begin to feel about yourself.

 

[Europa]

You could kill yourself

Wouldn't say that, but you better watch your back. The Black Knights will get you.

Stop acting like the tough guy idiot

You wont hit him though

 

[UCE]

Would you prefer for me to say it to you instead and to your face? That's doable, you know.

OT: I was joking, but in all seriousness there's nothing you can do if you truly loved this girl. My advice? Get out, no matter how hard it might be. If you stay too long wrapped within yourself you might not like the person you become.

1.well no duh, 2.im just saying, you shouldn't joke like that you feel me?

im just saying that the same could be said about every true love some1 experiences...when you truly love some1 that person gets a part of your heart(=your brain....) even if you break up, or hate each other afterwards, if it was true love it will always be remembered.

people keep saying that about the first love, only cause when its the first love its a completely new feeling and a huge sensation... but later loves are usually far more developped and deeper...in the end we remember them all....except they werent loves but just shallow relationships

Give me 18 minutes. I will edit the post

 

[Crossroads]

Every situation, no matter how bleak, has it's positive and negative aspects. I'm going to save you a giant ear full, because you'll get a ton of those as time progresses. The negative here is obvious, you lost someone you love and you don't know if you'll get her back. It's terrible, I've been through it myself and I haven't really been the same since. Moments like this define us and even shape us as a person for the better, which would be a positive of this situation. Another positive thing about this is, you didn't propose yet. What if she were to accept your invitation to be soul mates then weeks after the marriage she decided it wasn't meant to be? Better you know now while your heart isn't as invested as it could be.

It's going to suck, and you're not gonna be over her for a while. But time goes on, and you'll find someone for you.

 

[Arian]

1.well no duh, 2.im just saying, you shouldn't joke like that you feel me?

Give me 18 minutes. I will edit the post

lol what a random number, why 18mins? couldnt decide between 15 and 20?
XD

 

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[Arian]

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thats true...there is no wound that time cannot heal....but you have to allow it to. if you dont want it to heal, it will neveer heal...but if you let it heal, no matter how bad youre hurt, you will heal eventually....

 

[Derek1st]

Wouldn't say that, but you better watch your back. The Black Knights will get you.



You wont hit him though

I'm alerting the other black knights as we speak

 

[Trúth]

I'm alerting the other black knights as we speak

I saw that Black Knight leak....too funny you guys really take this place seriously.

 

[Edward Snowden]

There, there.

 

[ComplexCity]

This is just a phase. I was in the same predicament as you a couple months back. The only difference is my ex used a phony excuse because she basically cheated on me. Focus more on yourself and make yourself better, follow your dreams and I promise you, it will be just another memory because of the success and happiness you have for yourself

 

[Its sasukebase]

I saw that Black Knight leak....too funny you guys really take this place seriously.

Yup they do but thats none of my business.

I said what I had to say hope it all works out for you

 

[Europa]

I saw that Black Knight leak....too funny you guys really take this place seriously.

Yeah these kids don't know what the sun is

I'm alerting the other black knights as we speak

Good, you need all the backup you can get. One of you fodder isn't an adequate challenge, "free premium if you find our intruder". Pfft losers