My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me

[Sageflash]

And I'm crushed. She's my first love, and I thought she would be my last. I actually just bought a ring to propose to her with about 2 weeks ago. I was waiting for the right time to propose. She told me she can't handle this relationship, that she can't handle being with me. She feels overwhelmed by us, which I'm not entirely sure what that means. All I know is I love this girl and it's hard to breathe without her.

I'm not sure why I'm telling NB, but I just don't want to feel alone right now. How do you whether a break-up of this magnitude? How do you lose the love of your life? This empty feeling I have... like the world is ending around me. How does one possibly cope with that?

Any advice or personal stories or anything would be greatly appreciated.

Breaking developments... I just called her to see what was up.

My assertions were mostly on point, she felt enveloped by our relationship. She could only identify herself as being my girlfriend instead of as her own person. She told me she felt like she was a disappointment to her family, to herself, but most of all to me because she devolved like this. She says she needs to grow up and she can't do it with me... so she's leaving me behind, forever.

 

[Jin Hayami]

I'm divorced. It happens. Have a drink and drive on.

 

[Almighty Push]

Why did she feel "overwhelmed" in the first place?
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[Trúth]

I've never had a break up that bad i'm sorry. My worst one was when my girlfriend broke up with me last year after the best year i've ever had. I gave her some time, 2 months to be exact and she came back. We tried again but it just didnt work out, a week later it was over. Time heals all wounds bro.

 

[Europa]

Bought a ring to propose and she left you before you proposed? That sucks, move on.

 

[Sageflash]

I'm divorced. It happens. Have a drink and drive on.

But how can this just happen? How can a girl say such promising things and commit to you, then leave you in the dust?

I'd like to have a drink and move on. But I don't think it'll be that easy for me.

 

[Its sasukebase]

This is unfortunate 3 year is a long time. Wish you the best

 

[Tantalus Thief]

I feel sorry for you. Hope you find some one else there are plenty of fish in the sea. I don't want to sound rude but what does she mean by being overwhelmed.

 

[Seventh Sama]

Just focus on your life goals for now, Get married and have kids once you've accomplished those goals.

 

[Sageflash]

Why did she feel "overwhelmed" in the first place?
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She wouldn't explain it to me in depth. She said it was all just too much.... but she's the one who pushed us this far to begin with. I don't know if she's scared and this is a knee-jerk or she's been feeling this way for a while or anything. I'm really in the dark.

I've never had a break up that bad i'm sorry. My worst one was when my girlfriend broke up with me last year after the best year i've ever had. I gave her some time, 2 months to be exact and she came back. We tried again but it just didnt work out, a week later it was over. Time heals all wounds bro.

I don't mean to pry, but did you feel blindsided like I do? Was the damage irreparable?

Bought a ring to propose and she left you before you proposed? That sucks, move on.

It does suck... No offense, but I would appreciate some advice besides just "move on".

 

[AlphaMaleLion]

I'm sorry for you bro, you have to see other girls and have some fun, it will help trust me! You will forget her faster. She will think you will be sad all day, just be happy and tell her its good this way and that you already seeing other chicks, she will get jealous and she will try to get you back.

I did the same with my ex girlfriend, that was a year ago, she still wants me back lmao

 

[SayWhat21]

well i been dump once and it did feel like your describing it what i did was i started to do excercise and it help or just let time pass and you will meet someone else i met someone else im sure you will too

 

[UCE]

the First love is something you will never forget! Just focus on your stuff, you got things to do then just crying for a women. Good luck! Friend.

 

[TRE MERCER]

Aaaaaahaaaaaaaaaa tough luck.

 

[Arian]

i am very sorry for you. happened to me too, i had a 6year relationship and within one day it was over. but to tell you the truth, when one door closes, like 3billion others get open to you..... i would say go out and do whatever you please! it could be either crazy *** adventures or another love story.... life goes on and sometimes its better things end.. now i sure am very happy it happened, even though back then i was crushed.

 

[Sageflash]

This is unfortunate 3 year is a long time. Wish you the best

Thank you, my friend. I appreciate your words.

I feel sorry for you. Hope you find some one else there are plenty of fish in the sea. I don't want to sound rude but what does she mean by being overwhelmed.

I'm just spitballing, but I think our relationship as a couple was taking over identity. I think she's scared of feeling like we're two halves of whole instead of two wholes coming together, if that makes sense. We're too close and it scares her kinda thing.

Just my conjecture because things have been magnificent from day 1, minus 2 rough patches that ended pretty quickly.

Just focus on your life goals for now, Get married and have kids once you've accomplished those goals.

Good advice... but like I said, I was gonna propose. We were building our lives together, we shopping for homes together. I was prepared for everything with her. Now I'm just empty handed.

 

[Arian]

the First love is something you will never forget! Just focus on your stuff, you got things to do then just crying for a women. Good luck! Friend.

thats a stupid saying....any "true love" will never be forget tbh.... but whatever. i agree on the rest

 

[Trúth]

She wouldn't explain it to me in depth. She said it was all just too much.... but she's the one who pushed us this far to begin with. I don't know if she's scared and this is a knee-jerk or she's been feeling this way for a while or anything. I'm really in the dark.


I don't mean to pry, but did you feel blindsided like I do? Was the damage irreparable?


It does suck... No offense, but I would appreciate some advice besides just "move on".

Yeah it shocked me pretty bad. But i'm just about over it now. 2 years later and a new girlfriend.*_*

 

[Callypigia]

Relationships come and go. Learn from your mistakes, and her mistakes. By her words its sounds like maybe you were too overbearing or controlling. I don't know, none of us know because we weren't there. I'd use this time to grow personally. The healthier you are, the better your next relationship will be. You don't want to keep plugging away at the same mistakes and treading down the same paths over and over. The pain will go away eventually.

 

[CloyEscapade]

Sell the ring, buy a jetski