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[UchihaBrat]

Well, three years ago it kind of started. I was always early at school, so I had some spare time. My sister came early at school too.
We had a friend, Rick, and at the later half of the year he came earlier at school

He would sit with us, and talk. But only with my sister, so I felt ignored at the start of my day....
One question popped in my mind. Does he have a crush on my sister or does he hate me?

At Valentine's day two years ago he gave my sister chocolate and said it was just for a friend. He only gave my sister chocolate, so I knew he was in love with her.

It was the first, since yesterday was their year and a half anniversary.

But because of three years ago, I still can't get it out of my mind. I hate him while I don't hate him. What should I do?

*Remembers that I could sit on the comfy couch and sits down*

Hmmm.. This is a tough one, but to simplify things, people are selfish and that you can see everywhere.
So I don't think his behaviour is that surprising, and as you say, the signs point that way(him liking your sister).

Your problem here is, what do YOU WANT to do?

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[elefytje]

And how old is that "Rick" ?

He is sixteen.

Hmmm.. This is a tough one, but to simplify things, people are selfish and that you can see everywhere.
So I don't think his behaviour is that surprising, and as you say, the signs point that way(him liking your sister).

Your problem here is, what do YOU WANT to do?

They are already dating for a year and a half, but my problem is I get irritated by him to fast because of the past.

One time, I was downstairs, my sister and he too, and he has a loud voice. So I went to my room. And just when I was in my room, they went upstairs too. My sister's room was next to mine, so I had no peace in my room and went back downstairs.

And he burrowed my headset and after I got it back, one part was missing... I didn't like that.

 

[Sonne]

He is sixteen.

Question answers itself.
She is 16, he is 16...

 

[UchihaBrat]

Question answers itself.
She is 16, he is 16...

Hmmmm~ It only serves to explain, but doesn't deal with the main problem, which is what she wants to do about the whole thing, be it getting rid of the hatred or break them up etc.

 

[elefytje]

Hmmmm~ It only serves to explain, but doesn't deal with the main problem, which is what she wants to do about the whole thing, be it getting rid of the hatred or break them up etc.

I don't want them to break up

 

[UchihaBrat]

I don't want them to break up

Then you want to deal with your hatred?

 

[elefytje]

Then you want to deal with your hatred?

Exactly! He is kind, I know that, but I hate him... While I don't want to hate him, because he is kind. It's a circle.
But I can't find the answer to break the circle.

 

[UchihaBrat]

Exactly! He is kind, I know that, but I hate him... While I don't want to hate him, because he is kind. It's a circle.
But I can't find the answer to break the circle.

I think your first impression of him is bad, and what he did afterwards has only strengthened it, let me ask you an important question here, why do you think you hate him?

 

[Swizzik]

Exactly! He is kind, I know that, but I hate him... While I don't want to hate him, because he is kind. It's a circle.
But I can't find the answer to break the circle.

You hate him because he paid more attention to your sister...sounds to me like your jealous of your sister and taken the anger out on him.

 

[UchihaBrat]

You hate him because he paid more attention to your sister...sounds to me like your jealous of your sister and taken the anger out on him.

oi, this is a sensitive matter, try to be more tactful.

 

[Swizzik]

oi, this is a sensitive matter, try to be more tactful.

I'm not really good at tactics I just go straight to the point.

 

[elefytje]

I think your first impression of him is bad, and what he did afterwards has only strengthened it, let me ask you an important question here, why do you think you hate him?

It was my first year at school, and since I was early at school and my sister too, we would talk before the first class. Sometimes Rick came, but it was the edge of early, so the times were exceptions. But when he came, he talked to my sister and me.

In the later half of the school year, he came earlier, and he wouldn't even look at me. He only talked to my sister... I didn't have many friends in my first year, so when he ignored me, I had the feeling I was friendless.

That is the reason why my subconcious (?) hates him. It wasn't first impression. I knew him for half a year or so.

 

[UchihaBrat]

I'm not really good at tactics I just go straight to the point.

Yeah I noticedxd
I'm just trying to say that, people don't like seeing/knowing how they are themselves, it's a very sensitive matter, we always prefer looking elsewhere.
So letting them understand this step-by-step is easier on all of us.

 

[elefytje]

You hate him because he paid more attention to your sister...sounds to me like your jealous of your sister and taken the anger out on him.

I have had more time to analyze my feelings than you had, so I can say I am not in love with him, for 100 % sure. I don't have a problem with them as a couple.

 

[Swizzik]

It was my first year at school, and since I was early at school and my sister too, we would talk before the first class. Sometimes Rick came, but it was the edge of early, so the times were exceptions. But when he came, he talked to my sister and me.

In the later half of the school year, he came earlier, and he wouldn't even look at me. He only talked to my sister... I didn't have many friends in my first year, so when he ignored me, I had the feeling I was friendless.

That is the reason why my subconcious (?) hates him. It wasn't first impression. I knew him for half a year or so.

Can I ask you a question? Did you like him or did you get the impression that he liked you when he first started talking to him.

 

[Swizzik]

I have had more time to analyze my feelings than you had, so I can say I am not in love with him, for 100 % sure. I don't have a problem with them as a couple.

So your basically saying that, you see this guy all the yet he doesnt even talk to you. I get why you would be mad though it happens try having nice conversations with or smething get him in situations were he cant ignore you.

 

[elefytje]

Can I ask you a question? Did you like him or did you get the impression that he liked you when he first started talking to him.

I didn't like him, I didn't get the impression that he liked me.

So your basically saying that, you see this guy all the yet he doesnt even talk to you. I get why you would be mad though it happens try having nice conversations with or smething get him in situations were he cant ignore you.

It happened three years ago. It just made an impression because even if I said something, he still wouldn't even look at me. I am not and wasn't in love with him, I think everyone hates being totally ignored by someone.

 

[Swizzik]

I didn't like him, I didn't get the impression that he liked me.

Maybe you should go out with other people more so you see him less often maybe the hate will ebb away.

 

[UchihaBrat]

It was my first year at school, and since I was early at school and my sister too, we would talk before the first class. Sometimes Rick came, but it was the edge of early, so the times were exceptions. But when he came, he talked to my sister and me.

In the later half of the school year, he came earlier, and he wouldn't even look at me. He only talked to my sister... I didn't have many friends in my first year, so when he ignored me, I had the feeling I was friendless.

That is the reason why my subconcious (?) hates him. It wasn't first impression. I knew him for half a year or so.

Ah, if this is a topic too private, you're welcome to private message any of us, but if it's fine with you, we will continue here.

You're close to your sister, yes?
And having known him for a while until he started ignoring you, as you said, made you feel left out as you already had few friends right?
I realize that when he's with your sister, that you will have see him more often than usual, and what he did, and if that's really the problem as you describe it, I wonder whether you should bother much with him at all.

Some people just don't mix, and sometimes it's better to just try to interact as little as possible.
I'm not sure as to why he ignores you though, have you had any fights or something? Or did he just suddenly start ignoring you like that?

 

[Swizzik]

Ah, if this is a topic too private, you're welcome to private message any of us, but if it's fine with you, we will continue here.

You're close to your sister, yes?
And having known him for a while until he started ignoring you, as you said, made you feel left out as you already had few friends right?
I realize that when he's with your sister, that you will have see him more often than usual, and what he did, and if that's really the problem as you describe it, I wonder whether you should bother much with him at all.

Some people just don't mix, and sometimes it's better to just try to interact as little as possible.
I'm not sure as to why he ignores you though, have you had any fights or something? Or did he just suddenly start ignoring you like that?

I don't think he's purposely ignoring her just more focused on his girlfirend and that means less interaction with her cause and affect kind of thing.