A life lesson for teens, from a teen.

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Often times it seems it's when we're alone, and we've exhausted our internal and external resources that we realize just how dependent we are on others. Even a hermit's identity is based solely on the existence of others.



The longer you live the more experiences you will have.

Some people live long as fk and my little cousin knows more. Some are just light headed Lol
 

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The lesson is that fame at this age isn't fame and that fame is only gained, by hard work. But at this point, fame is not real, just an illuson cast by society.

Oh God.

This reeks of pseudo-intellectualism and pseudo-wisdom. If there is anything I can't stand, it's unknowing children acting wise and insightful.

Fame is simply the state of being widely-known; there are no requirements nor standards for a person being famous. Whether said person is talented or not is totally irrelevant.
 

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I don't necessarily mean alone in that sense. It's more like realizing that you have been lying to yourself and everyone who you have ever known at a point in time where they are too far away (both literally and figuratively) for you to do anything about it. It's a feeling like no one has ever actually known you (even you yourself).

I've been fortunate to cultivate a good support system, but there are always a few people that are no longer in our lives (whether separated by death or our own stupidity) that we are indebited to.
 

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Often times it seems it's when we're alone, and we've exhausted our internal and external resources that we realize just how dependent we are on others. Even a hermit's identity is based solely on the existence of others.

Bullshít.

Many people do have to strive by themselves and for themselves, not everyone gets the picture perfect life with great family, friends and the attaché who are on hand to help. Many people live in solitude and have to struggle for everything they get by themselves, it's an insult to them to make such statements.

And like Immortal said, experience isn't based on time. It's based on the pattern of events called one's life, some people muddle through hard childhoods, offering a variety of challenges and events far surpassing what is expected from the norm. The result is wisdom, and lots of it.

And we certainly do not exist to help others, the harsh reality is that human beings are the by-product of chance, nothing more. Everything that we are, that which we do and create... it's nothing more than an attempt to fulfil an empty existence.

Alas, all we can do is try to maximize our happiness.
 
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Bullshít.

Many people do have to strive by themselves and for themselves, not everyone gets the picture perfect life with great family, friends and the attaché who are on hand to help. Many people live in solitude and have to struggle for everything they get by themselves, it's an insult to them to make such statements.

And like Immortal said, experience isn't based on time. It's based on the pattern of events called one's life, some people muddle through hard childhoods, offering a variety of challenges and events far surpassing what is expected from the norm. The result is wisdom, and lots of it.

And we certainly do not exist to help others, the harsh reality is that human beings are the by-product of chance, nothing more. Everything that we are, that which we do and create... it's nothing more than an attempt to fulfil an empty existence.

I would say that it is a combination of what you have been through and how open your mind is.
 

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Bullshít.

Many people do have to strive by themselves and for themselves, not everyone gets the picture perfect life with great family, friends and the attaché who are on hand to help. Many people live in solitude and have to struggle for everything they get by themselves, it's an insult to them to make such statements.

And like Immortal said, experience isn't based on time. It's based on the pattern of events called one's life, some people muddle through hard childhoods, offering a variety of challenges and events far surpassing what is expected from the norm. The result is wisdom, and lots of it.

And we certainly do not exist to help others, the harsh reality is that human beings are the by-product of chance, nothing more. Everything that we are, that which we do and create... it's nothing more than an attempt to fulfil an empty existence.

Alas, all we can do is try to maximize our happiness.

Your statement sounds like someone who thinks they have more experience than they do. Even those misuse and mistreat us define who we become, and influence our motivations for change or stagnation. No one is truly alone, and that mentality that "only I take care of me because no one else will," is a defense mechanism; a pretty basic one at that. If someone is afraid of rejection it is simple to reject others first and than build up their own self esteem through perceived autonomy. You should research Kohlberg's theory of moral development. That mentality that you have shared with us is similar to a second stage belief. Many of the greatest people in our world have suffered greatly. It is a human condition, and it is how our development is intertwined with each other. No one is an island onto themselves.
 

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Publicity on social media, believe it or not, is beneficial. For example, people on Youtube who make money on ads. One of my friends makes money off of Youtube. You could say that some people will become narcissistic from hoping to achieve some sort of fame, but it doesn't necessarily lead to that and narcissism can come from just general living anyways. This isn't really a life lesson. Perhaps it's just you deciding for yourself that the time you spend on social media doesn't amount to anything.
 

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Why are you so bothered about this? Anyone wanting to become famous can become one. It takes time and work. You shouldn't argue against that.
 

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The only thing I use FaceBook for is to keep in touch with friends I see rarely or not at all, as well as to talk with friends more often. Same with Skype. Needless to say, I care not for "fame", being that it's just a word to me, and nothing more than something that clouds the sometimes better judgement.
 

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lmao you people never gave the man a chance to walk out his own thread in peace.
 

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The lesson is that fame at this age isn't fame and that fame is only gained, by hard work. But at this point, fame is not real, just an illuson cast by society.

No, no, no. It's a hobby our generation has gotten into. Social media is part of life and a lot of people are into it just like NB. It's social media and our addiction is to chat with others on here much like Twitter, Facebook, Instagram etc.

Look at Vine. Random people like us got famous for posting funny vines of them doing normal funny stuff and people ended up really liking it and now they are partnered with Vine.

In some ways your "Lesson" is right but in some ways it's our generation. Like finding a 10 dollar bill on the sidewalk. We stumble upon it and take it. People who try to be famous because they want to be "popular" are just try hards. People like myself, you and other hard working people out there who work for such things as in music or acting try to get known is a different story and is the right way to attain fame.
 

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Your statement sounds like someone who thinks they have more experience than they do. Even those misuse and mistreat us define who we become, and influence our motivations for change or stagnation. No one is truly alone, and that mentality that "only I take care of me because no one else will," is a defense mechanism; a pretty basic one at that. If someone is afraid of rejection it is simple to reject others first and than build up their own self esteem through perceived autonomy. You should research Kohlberg's theory of moral development. That mentality that you have shared with us is similar to a second stage belief. Many of the greatest people in our world have suffered greatly. It is a human condition, and it is how our development is intertwined with each other. No one is an island onto themselves.

I would mirror that back at you.

Anyway, you still don't understand - and don't besmear this with psychological theory, because it's just that; multiple paradigms of which none can account for all scenarios and actions, believe me, I've studied it and critique sees that too. Not everyone has a ring of support, and not everyone is abused or mistreated. Some people are in a situation where they have neither and that can lead a whole new kettle of fish to unfold, one that is seldom understood by anyone, including you.

There are some in the world who have to define themselves, or some with a capacity enough to know that by not defining themselves, they would regress and/or, be stunted. The world is not so black and white as you seem to see it. Even I, have faced situations that most people never face in their lifetimes, and others that the average person would never face for many, many years.

You see, some people have a naturally deep and vast insight paired with empathy to match. That inevitably breeds a different kind of person from the norm.

Yes, a person will inevitably gather more experiences over time but no, that does not alone decide how experienced the person is. It is the number of experiences that fill one section of time. Some people go through life having experienced very little and grow old still nearly as green as the grass. For some people, it's not other people who define them, it's their experiences; whether or not that is done by them on purpose or not, is unimportant.
 

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I would mirror that back at you.

Anyway, you still don't understand - and don't besmear this with psychological theory, because it's just that; multiple paradigms of which none can account for all scenarios and actions, believe me, I've studied it and critique sees that too. Not everyone has a ring of support, and not everyone is abused or mistreated. Some people are in a situation where they have neither and that can lead a whole new kettle of fish to unfold, one that is seldom understood by anyone, including you.

There are some in the world who have to define themselves, or some with a capacity enough to know that by not defining themselves, they would regress and/or, be stunted. The world is not so black and white as you seem to see it. Even I, have faced situations that most people never face in their lifetimes, and others that the average person would never face for many, many years.

You see, some people have a naturally deep and vast insight paired with empathy to match. That inevitably breeds a different kind of person from the norm.

Yes, a person will inevitably gather more experiences over time but no, that does not alone decide how experienced the person is. It is the number of experiences that fill one section of time. Some people go through life having experienced very little and grow old still nearly as green as the grass. For some people, it's not other people who define them, it's their experiences; whether or not that is done by them on purpose or not, is unimportant.

Well, I'm far from seeing the world in black and white. My entire world, and everyone else's is grey area. This isn't black and white thought, its a complicated mess of reality. Whether someone's identity is based on their experiences or people is superfluous; our experiences are people. All aspects of our lives are touched by others in some way. Even situations where we are influenced by natural disasters are influenced in some way by others directly or by proxy (i.e., boss makes worker stay late even though it's starting to snow, the roads become unstable, and the person gets in a car accident and dies, which in turn changes the entire life of the child).

Perhaps you are alluding to something different with collective experience. I agree, that some people have natural insight and empathy. I'm a Buddhist, I believe in reincarnation, accumulation of past life experience, and karma. Of course even when taking past life experience into account, that is still time. When it comes to empathy, no experience is exactly the same, but the feelings are. All feelings are simplistically rooted into Sad, Mad, Glad, and Scared. The opposite is true of what you are saying as well: experiences do not equate to insight, wisdom, or empathy. Reactive Attachment Disorders are a good example; people with horrific trauma that few will ever know, but characteristized by their lack of insight and empathy due to disruption of their emotional development.

Anyway, we'll just have to agree to disagree. Everyone's worldview is different.
 

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it just reminds me of this U_U
 
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