Heres my take on this. If a woman was raped or was a victim of incest, then they should have the choice to abort or not. If a man rapes a woman, that woman has no rights bestowed upon her if she is forced to keep the baby she didnt commit to having. Having a child is a labor of love, not a labor of unprotected ***. Basically, once a girl or woman is raped all her dreams are shattered. Going to college, furthering her interests or even earning more for her future are all lost if she is forced a life changing choice upon herself. Those are all taken out if a woman is forced to keep a baby that was a product of rape. She should have the choice more than anyone to keep it or not.
However, if its a product from senseless, promiscuous teens who just cant use a freaking condom then by all means make them keep it. They shouldnt toy around with lives by continuously having intercourse and then aborting over and over once a fetus has developed. That is the cruelty in the abortion discussion, where careless people just put lust over life and dont want to use protection. The murderers are the one who are voluntarily giving and taking life, while the victims are the ones who are not at fault for something they couldnt control.
Before any of you flag me down, my parents neglected me as a child and I was raised by my sisters, my grandmother and I looked out for my younger brother. They practically abandoned me over 12-13 years of my life and are now trying to come into my life as soon as Im a young adult. I look at them and want to ask, where was the love? Where was the life you were supposed to give to me while everyone was suffering. These two willingly played with the lives of my siblings and I as though we were merely just a burden to them. My grandmother, may she rest in peace, showed me the love and life that I lacked. I became a child of my own, and now I am proud of myself for turning out the way I did. Not once did I turn to the darker aspects of life.
The point Im trying to make here is that despite whether I was given life or not, it wouldnt have changed the way my parents treated me in the long run. I was given a death as life, a suffering to scar me for the majority of my entire life. However, the difference here is that if I had found out that my mother was a victim of rape I would have burdened all of her inactions on myself. I would have become this empty, hollow shell that is to blame for what is wrong with my mother. But my mother was not a victim, so all the blame was on her.
I wouldnt want to grow up having all of this hatred built up towards a woman who was never given a chance to live even her own life. That would have scarred me even more! At least with the life that I lived, I could learn something from all of that suffering and know not to be like the people who gave me life! If I was a product of rape and learned of why I was here, then it would have given me this sense of displacement. It would give me a terrible feeling as though I was the reason why my mother couldnt live her life, I wasnt born through love so im not loved, etc. etc. I would have become 'emo' if you put it that way. That could lead to suicidal thoughts or cutting to a terrible degree.
By giving victims a chance to look over themselves and decide whether or not they are in a position to care for their child would give them options. They could decide if they have the power to care for this child for many years or if a lifetime of suffering would only hurt this child more in the long run. But for those who are willing to toy with life, let their child learn from a bad example and deter themselves away from repeating what their careless parents did to them. Im here willing to say that my pain made me stronger and into the incredible person I am today. Not trying to sound conceited but I look at myself and see that no matter what I did, I always stayed the best because I didnt want to end up like my parents.
I would appreciate if no one would return any harsh or biting responses to this. Telling my personal story is something I hardly ever do at all, and it tears me up every single time. So if you have nothing nice to say or think Im siding with murderers then keep it to yourself.
