I need break up tips

[Avani]

I honestly can't help but notice the immaturity some people bring into this convo. Echopain touched the subject, and although you're already through with him, in an arguably immature way, I believe you have made yourself an enemy, and it could have been prevented, or the effect minimized at least

He made you feel guilty when you showed doubt right? It's clear as day that he was then lying, since normally, one would try to explain himself, not transfer the feelings of having been in the wrong to his 'loved' one. Explaining all this to him and telling him how it made you feel uncomfortable and then decisively breaking up, would have probably been enough, were he mature enough to grasp it. I shan't dig any deeper into this, it was solved in your way, and it's not a way I want to become more familiar with.

She said she tried this and was put on a gulit trip.. in short- was manipulated into continuing . For whatever reasons the guy was not interested in letting her go- at least not at her terms or did not want to be dumped by her.

Such people who are openly playing around and yet want to keep one steady GF on the side have their own personal issues. And frankly, they or the neutral people around have no idea what the other person in the relationship with such people goes through.

I agree with you that she could have tried it in more controlled manner but sometimes it's good to let your bottled up anger go. What's done is done- no use crying over it. She may explain that bit if he talks to her again but I think he already knows and not worth it.

 

[UchihaBrat]

been there tried that and all he would say is "its a shame you don't trust me" and bring me into yet another guilt trip. If anyone is in the wrong it would be him for talking to other girls infront of me...if I couldn't tell him how I felt the other option was to show him "action speaks louder than words"

Then you're weak for not following up on it. He set you on yet another guilt trip and you immediately submit to it? Why you have the proof right there!

@Isthat: I have serious doubts she even understood what I was trying to say, and ever tried it while putting her heart into it.
True, if he is that kind of guy, then that is most likely how he played, and I'm not trying to make anyone cry over spilled milk, what is done is done, move on.

 

[PandaMan.]

Thought it was easier for a girl to break up. Break up text blacklist and delete

 

[Avani]

Then you're weak for not following up on it. He set you on yet another guilt trip and you immediately submit to it? Why you have the proof right there!

Well since she couldn't do it that way she chose another manner which was more effective. What's your problem?

 

[Gyakusetsu]

Then you're weak for not following up on it. He set you on yet another guilt trip and you immediately submit to it? Why you have the proof right there!

@Isthat: I have serious doubts she even understood what I was trying to say, and ever tried it while putting her heart into it.
True, if he is that kind of guy, then that is most likely how he played, and I'm not trying to make anyone cry over spilled milk, what is done is done, move on.

Like I said before, and the cycle continues :flaw:.

 

[Avani]

Thought it was easier for a girl to break up. Break up text blacklist and delete

UNfortunately, many people do not even read text messages and and they most certainly do not live inside their cell phone that blacklisting will stop them from contacting you.

 

[Itachilover94]

Then you're weak for not following up on it. He set you on yet another guilt trip and you immediately submit to it? Why you have the proof right there!

Just because I have a heart it dose not make me weak...you know what I am not going to get into this because you are not me so you don't know the kind of person I am and what i went through nor do you know the kind of person he is but I will ask you this would you be able to break up with someone who had you believe that they were going to kill themself if you did?

 

[UchihaBrat]

Well since she couldn't do it that way she chose another manner which was more effective. What's your problem?

Yes, I read so, but regardless these happenings, I'm quite uninterested in it other than the pure inability to maturity the ex boyfriend showed, which is my "problem".

Like I said before, and the cycle continues :flaw:.

*body-slams lowest* Like you said~

@Itachilover94: Please don't misunderstand, the proof I'm talking about is the non-existent love, not the proof of your weakness.
However weak minded he is, basically what a relationship means nowadays is attachment and extension of yourself to another person, and it is in a selfish, not loving way, in most cases. Showing such selfishness as he did by saying that, I'd simply have a little chat with his parents on how suicidal their son is and let them give him the hell his own selfishness brought upon him.

 

[Avani]

Yes, I read so, but regardless these happenings, I'm quite uninterested in it other than the pure inability to maturity the ex boyfriend showed, which is my "problem".
*body-slams lowest* Like you said~

@Itachilover94: Please don't misunderstand, the proof I'm talking about is the non-existent love, not the proof of your weakness.
However weak minded he is, basically what a relationship means nowadays is attachment and extension of yourself to another person, and it is in a selfish, not loving way, in most cases. Showing such selfishness as he did by saying that, I'd simply have a little chat with his parents on how suicidal their son is and let them give him the hell his own selfishness brought upon him.

I understand what you are saying, Brat. I just think that the guy's dramatic stunts were suitably replied.

 

[Gyakusetsu]

*body-slams lowest* Like you said~

Oof, that's the second time this "weak"..

 

[UchihaBrat]

I understand what you are saying, Brat. I just think that the guy's dramatic stunts were suitably replied.

Naturally.

Oof, that's the second time this "weak"..

Week* And for that you receive the german suplex! *Suplexes your *ss, German style*

 

[Uchiha Riyo]

And the cycle begins again.:flaw: Don't you love how people feel like putting "no offense" in front of an insult somehow offfsets it? Dude, no offense your a d-bag.

It's to indicate I did not mean offense. It's my feelings. I'd look like more of a douchebag if I didn't put it up. By the way, you did it as well. :|

 

[Uchiha Riyo]

none taken...but you don't know the guilt trips he would take me on...it was one time he told me he would kill himself if I ever left him

Do you think he had the guts to do something like that? He's leading you on. There's nothing good about that. Just dump his ass.