[Discussion] Cheating

[Exaar]

In my experience Girls moan and b*tch about always going for ass holes who cheat and so on

But when they find a "good guy" they find him "boring" and go cheat on him

Then go for ass holes who are know for cheating then Moan and b*tch some more about not being able to find a nice guy

I find it rather amusing tbh

 

[Wildtangent]

meh, life is not black and white
you shouldn't judge others by yourself, what is natural for one is impossible for another
you people are too quick to judge how bad cheating is (or the other way around for some) but it's not just that easy and that apply for many things U_U

I am not sure I would call it judging I would call it someones opinion. It's like the simple saying "If you dont stand for something you'll fall for anything." What I stand for is that cheating is wrong no matter what the reason. Some may believe there reasons can be justified. I have never cheated on someone although I have been cheated on and no matter what reason he gave me it never made me feel any better about myself or about him and what he did. Not to mention the trust I had in him was lost. As you said life isnt black and white and I do agree that what is natural for one is impossible for another- therefore I wont flam someone that says cheating is ok within reason (unless they start saying sexist things like woman belong in the kitchen) Although I may debate it with them.

In my experience Girls moan and b*tch about always going for ass holes who cheat and so on

But when they find a "good guy" they find him "boring" and go cheat on him

Then go for ass holes who are know for cheating then Moan and b*tch some more about not being able to find a nice guy

I find it rather amusing tbh

I agree that some girls and even guys in a way bring it on themselves. why date a guy whos nick name is "hound dog".

 

[Phobos]

I am not sure I would call it judging I would call it someones opinion. It's like the simple saying "If you dont stand for something you'll fall for anything." What I stand for is that cheating is wrong no matter what the reason. Some may believe there reasons can be justified. I have never cheated on someone although I have been cheated on and no matter what reason he gave me it never made me feel any better about myself or about him and what he did. Not to mention the trust I had in him was lost. As you said life isnt black and white and I do agree that what is natural for one is impossible for another- therefore I wont flam someone that says cheating is ok within reason (unless they start saying sexist things like woman belong in the kitchen) Although I may debate it with them.





I agree that some girls and even guys in a way bring it on themselves. why date a guy whos nick name is "hound dog".

well but thats it, you think it is always wrong but i have to disagree im not a person who would cheat on a girl that im in love with but still i think im openminded.. alot.
I know some people for instance, a guy who just can't be only with one girl for too long he got a girl and love her as she loves him, but from time to time he goes out and have *** with random chick.
It makes him happy and make his relationship with his girl better, his gf don't know about this ofc so it is not affecting her in any way.
If i had GF who would love me but cheat on me few times, i woulndt want to know.
The thing is, people can think rationaly but still emotions are controlling us, some more and some less and because it doesnt do weird things with you it doesnt mean its the same for others. For instance I can think rationaly, Im highly logical person and my biggest flaw is that im lazy- superlazy i want not to be lazy but it just doesnt work like that, and the same way some people got urge to sleep with more people and can't stop it.
Mostly it is bad to cheat but not always there are situations in life that it might help, it can even get your relationship into better shape sometimes.

oh fkt thats alot of useless text lol

 

[Wildtangent]

well but thats it, you think it is always wrong but i have to disagree im not a person who would cheat on a girl that im in love with but still i think im openminded.. alot.
I know some people for instance, a guy who just can't be only with one girl for too long he got a girl and love her as she loves him, but from time to time he goes out and have *** with random chick.
It makes him happy and make his relationship with his girl better, his gf don't know about this ofc so it is not affecting her in any way.
If i had GF who would love me but cheat on me few times, i woulndt want to know.
The thing is, people can think rationaly but still emotions are controlling us, some more and some less and because it doesnt do weird things with you it doesnt mean its the same for others. For instance I can think rationaly, Im highly logical person and my biggest flaw is that im lazy- superlazy i want not to be lazy but it just doesnt work like that, and the same way some people got urge to sleep with more people and can't stop it.
Mostly it is bad to cheat but not always there are situations in life that it might help, it can even get your relationship into better shape sometimes.

oh fkt thats alot of useless text lol

well as I said you are entitled to your opinion. and if it works for you then it works for you. But you even say yourself you "wouldn't want to know" in which case if you did know it, it would bother you. I guess I feel that if someone is cheating on me (for whatever reason) I would not want to be with him any longer. I also would like to know what would happen if the gf of your friend did know( just so you know I feel REALLY bad for her and I hope she finds someone beeter)... I'm almost positive sh*t would hit the fan(which is why he doesnt tell her I'm guessing). If the guy is unhappy with the relationship and has to go and cheat in order to keep the relationship he has going then it needs to end ( in my opinion). All in all I guess what I'm trying to say is, is that if your with the right person you wont want to cheat. If you are truly in love and truly care about the person neither party would have the urge to cheat. But I guess we will just have to agree to disagree. I have to leave to give blood for my surgery I wont be on to respond for awhile.

 

[Phobos]

well as I said you are entitled to your opinion. and if it works for you then it works for you. But you even say yourself you "wouldn't want to know" in which case if you did know it, it would bother you. I guess I feel that if someone is cheating on me (for whatever reason) I would not want to be with him any longer. I also would like to know what would happen if the gf of your friend did know( just so you know I feel REALLY bad for her and I hope she finds someone beeter)... I'm almost positive sh*t would hit the fan(which is why he doesnt tell her I'm guessing). If the guy is unhappy with the relationship and has to go and cheat in order to keep the relationship he has going then it needs to end ( in my opinion). All in all I guess what I'm trying to say is, is that if your with the right person you wont want to cheat. If you are truly in love and truly care about the person neither party would have the urge to cheat. But I guess we will just have to agree to disagree. I have to leave to give blood for my surgery I wont be on to respond for awhile.

well good luck with whatever it is you are about to undergo.

but i think you did not get what i said
you say that if you are with the right person you won't have the urge to cheat on them- that might easily be true for many people but not for all... as i said people are different. Some people just have to grow up a little to undestand that and some people will never understand (no offence)

 

[Hawker]

(Most) relationships are, by definition, a special bond, both sexual and non-sexual, between two people. Cheating is a violation of that bond that implies that that bond should never have existed. I agree with you.

Perhaps your friends have never experienced cheating.

This. Well said.

But then again, cheating does happen. And is always gonna happen. Usually girls do it 'cause boys are treating them badly or not giving them (almost) no attention at all, while they are supposed to be in a relationship. But there are also those b*tches that do it for the heck of it. And guys usually do it just to prove their manhood, or to live like they are biologically designed to, or that they (we) are just douchebags.

All and all, cheating is wrong, but sometimes it necessarry for one part of the couple to realise that she/he is with the wrong person.

 

[Princess Sakura]

well i think cheating is bad because who wants to be cheated ? my answer is no one

 

[Jack Spicer]

well i think cheating is bad because who wants to be cheated ? my answer is no one

Agreed.

 

[Wildtangent]

well good luck with whatever it is you are about to undergo.

but i think you did not get what i said
you say that if you are with the right person you won't have the urge to cheat on them- that might easily be true for many people but not for all... as i said people are different. Some people just have to grow up a little to undestand that and some people will never understand (no offence)

i guess and no offence taken. and thanks

 

[Reborn]

I'm kind of late in this thread but I'll give my view regardless

If you have a problem with the person you're with, rather cheating on them simply break up with them. Either may hurt but lying and making the other believe that you're truely dedicated to them and destroying their trust in you hurts a lot more then simply ending the relationship and no longer having the obligation to worry about them (at least not in the manor you would when in the relationship with them). That's what I was taught and believe. I believe in a second chance, only and only if it was a one time thing but I don't believe people change all too quickly if they've been messin around multiple times, that's just me.

 

[Wildtangent]

I'm kind of late in this thread but I'll give my view regardless

If you have a problem with the person you're with, rather cheating on them simply break up with them. Either may hurt but lying and making the other believe that you're truely dedicated to them and destroying their trust in you hurts a lot more then simply ending the relationship and no longer having the obligation to worry about them (at least not in the manor you would when in the relationship with them). That's what I was taught and believe. I believe in a second chance, only and only if it was a one time thing but I don't believe people change all too quickly if they've been messin around multiple times, that's just me.

I agree. either way it will hurt- but if you lose interest, out of respect for the other person it should be broken off.

 

[protentiality]

i HATE cheating, its unfair to those that are loyal in a relationship ive been cheated on and it is one of the worst feelings ever for about a month i tormented myself with thoughts that i wasnt good enough that i didnt live up to her expectations, not only that but after my depression stage i used my training in martial arts and broke the guys arm because i was so pissed off.

nowadays i dont really let things get to me because i know what im capable of if im angry, my older brother for instance hes 5 years older than i am and took martial arts classes for two years more then i have but i repeatedly beat him an all out spars.

show off much???

 

[Jack Spicer]

I thought this thread was pretty simple, but the last two pages have been so in depth...

Simply put: Cheating is bad.

 

[~The Norwegian~]

MY love story
By Norwgian Kirabi.

When I started in 1.st. grade, 6 years old, I met a girl. Her name, was Ane Therese Pleym. I loved her from that very moment. I know it seems strange, but I loved her. I was after her in about 8 years, until she realy broke my heart. I never got her. When I quit chasing her I got a girlfriend... one day me and Ane was walking home from school alone, she tried to kiss me, and I didn't pull away. But we didn't kiss. I don't know if that count as cheating. Well, anyway, my girlfriend broke up, that ain't so strange

well, after a few months, I started seeing another girl. But at this point, Ane is my best friend, and she doesn't like this girl, so had to dump her Now, just three days ago, I've started to date another girl again, but Ane didn't like that either I don't know, should I dump her?



And to the topic, this is something Johnny Depp said:
"If you love two persons at the same time, choose the second. Becaues if you realy loved the first, you would never fall in love the the second"
I think that cheating is bad, but if you feel to cheat, brake up with you GF/BF.

NO FLAMING!

 

[Tsukune]

show off much???

not showing off im just explaining why i dont care what people say anymore because i dont wish harm upon others.
not only that but please stay on topic, what youve posted in here is considered spam. :flaw: noob

 

[Wildtangent]

MY love story
By Norwgian Kirabi.

When I started in 1.st. grade, 6 years old, I met a girl. Her name, was Ane Therese Pleym. I loved her from that very moment. I know it seems strange, but I loved her. I was after her in about 8 years, until she realy broke my heart. I never got her. When I quit chasing her I got a girlfriend... one day me and Ane was walking home from school alone, she tried to kiss me, and I didn't pull away. But we didn't kiss. I don't know if that count as cheating. Well, anyway, my girlfriend broke up, that ain't so strange

well, after a few months, I started seeing another girl. But at this point, Ane is my best friend, and she doesn't like this girl, so had to dump her Now, just three days ago, I've started to date another girl again, but Ane didn't like that either I don't know, should I dump her?


And to the topic, this is something Johnny Depp said:
"If you love two persons at the same time, choose the second. Becaues if you realy loved the first, you would never fall in love the the second"
I think that cheating is bad, but if you feel to cheat, brake up with you GF/BF.

NO FLAMING!

first off you shouldnt dump someone because another person doesnt like him/her. although you can/should listen to your friends opinions but at the same time they shouldnt be the ones calling the shots in your life. I would like to know (if I were you) what her reasons are for not liking these girls because it sounds to me like this ane has a thing for you or maybe its that she doesnt want you but doesnt want to see any one else with you either. If thats the case then she really isnt a true friend- she needs to figure out what she wants and stop messing with your feelings and your life. I would confront her about it if I were you.

 

[BigTDogg220]

cheating is simply a shame. One or both people who cheat just aren't mature enough to end a relationship they want out of.

 

[~The Norwegian~]

first off you shouldnt dump someone because another person doesnt like him/her. although you can/should listen to your friends opinions but at the same time they shouldnt be the ones calling the shots in your life. I would like to know (if I were you) what her reasons are for not liking these girls because it sounds to me like this ane has a thing for you or maybe its that she doesnt want you but doesnt want to see any one else with you either. If thats the case then she really isnt a true friend- she needs to figure out what she wants and stop messing with your feelings and your life. I would confront her about it if I were you.

yea, well, she has a boyfriend to... But you're right, she don't want to be with me, but when I flirt with other girls she gets very angry... The reason I let her decide. She is very special to me, just that. I can't loose her.

 

[Catalyst]

I thought this thread was pretty simple, but the last two pages have been so in depth...

Simply put: Cheating is bad.

agreed.

 

[Mercy]

Don't know why you should discuss this.
Cheating will always be bad!