Love advice? (Age 16)

[shadedcrow]

I have always been infatuated with one girl in my class for the past three years, but have never had the courage to tell her for numerous reasons. Her friends are not my type of people, but she is heavenly. Also, I fear rejection so much. Finally, I'm not at all athletic or physically strong. Another thing was I don't get dreams often, but when I do, it usually predicts the future. (I know it's corny I believe they do) it showed her as obnoxious, and I was with another girl I'm not really attracted to. I thought that maybe the unattractive girl was for me, but I don't know. My love was still the original. When my feelings became really strong, I noticed she had a boyfriend for a little while. That crushed me a little, but I was happy for her. I even came to the conclusion of searching for a girl close to me, not one that kept on going farther and farther away from me. (Sorry, I read the "Sakura's Confession" chapter when I came to that.) Tonight, I just saw that the dirty bastard left her. So, she is single. What should I do? My insecurity is keeping me away.

First off let me tell refer you to the episode of king of the hill where bobby has a girlfriend whos older than he is, becomes obsesive and gets jealous at a party and then gets dumped. (on the flip Boomheour(sp?) gets rejected a lot and then someone finally gives in and hes good to go dang ole tell you what man.)

If you truely love someone and all you want for them to be happy and you dont make them happy then its cool to just be friends. Unless it is detremental to your health(emotional.mental,physical). Then avoid/eliminate the person and you will meet your match eventually.

Opposites attract period, if you both can make it work then your sweet, life and definately love is not a easy road to travel on. There will be bumps, pot holes, and every other kind of crazy ass situation you can think of. If you can handle that then I wish you the best of luck sir!

Otherwise, be friends/boyfriend/girlfriend or not.( if you cant deal with her being with someone else) Those seem to be the only choices.If your in school and there is a dance GO(look nice and be ready to keep looking nice) if you ask her to dance(dance with other girls/get to know her friends and think about what you really have in common, and build on it)! And talk to her friends and become their friend and learn how to talk and get the info you want to know on the sly. (most girls love to talk about anything! be prepared to either really be intrested or pretend to be so they dont know your fake)

Lastly the internet might not be the best place to ask advice.I think your the only one who knows if your ready to enter the world of romance( kind of over rated, but enjoyable none the less) LOVE IS A DOUBLE EDGED SWORD IF YOUR NOT READY TO BE CUT(DEEPLY) BY IT YOUR NOT READY TO WIELD IT!

 

[Xylon]

This world is for the risk takers
2 things happen if you take the risk, either she agrees or rejects
Nothing happens if you don't,
at least you have a chance if you confess
btw our opinions shouldn't matter much all they'll do at best is give you the courage you need if it goes well that is. Its easier for us to say we aren't in your shoes, I never really had problems with girls nor do i feel that much of an attraction towards someone particular so who am i one to say this? You better decide this on your own.

 

[uzumakikenshin]

and forgot to mention.. rejection is part of life but it doesnt end there... it ends with what choice you make after the rejection..

"failures are for those who never tried"

 

[black uchiha]

You know nothing of girls, I'm sorry but imo, you've been watching to many movies, anime, shows.
You expect every girl to be a sugar mama HAHA xD
"Girls want a guy to fix them" Seriously. xD

I'm sorry we disagree...i don't want anyone to be a "sugar mama"....

 

[Mizutoki]

I'm sorry we disagree...i don't want anyone to be a "sugar mama"....

Just saiyan broo and sorry if that hit the spot. :/ I feel like a douche now

 

[black uchiha]

Just saiyan broo and sorry if that hit the spot. :/ I feel like a douche now

lol i took no offence to ur opinon..u feel how u feel...lol...but i don't have a problem with women because of what i posted...

 

[Mizutoki]

lol i took no offence to ur opinon..u feel how u feel...lol...but i don't have a problem with women because of what i posted...

Okay : D

 

[Daruny]

Ahahahaha ^^


No, It's like saying, "I've gotten no where, I will better my current situation and become better, cut my greasy messy hair or improve it so she can run her fingers through it, better my body so I can ptotect her and carry her, and get a stronger personality so she's always is comforted by me."

I didn't tell him to start acting like Edward or Sasuke, no I told him to become himself at his highest peak while he is still 16. He can still talk about pokemon dude just making sure he only talks about point they would both enjoy. Get it? haha
Btw I'm not 18 yet haha But I do know what a girl wants.

*nods*
Agreed.

 

[Zerabitu]

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[Trinky]

Give her time before diving in, she'll need time to get over the break up. There's always the risk of rebound if you try too soon D:

If you don't let her know how you feel, you can't expect anything to come of it ;P try becoming friends with her, and let it build from there. Wait until the time's right.

 

[Sweetie]

I would go for it and ask that girl out Everyone fears rejection at one point or another, but you have to be confident in yourself and go ask that girl out!

 

[NinetailedUzumaki]

Well, me being a girl, I have some advice for you
Just be yourself, and be into a long-term relationship. Most girls would rather be serious than just be a fling, if you know what I mean?

 

[kickassjutsu]

We have a choji on our hands. Confidence is what u lack, and it's what u need. Easier said than done, but if u can accomplish it life would flow so much smoother, chick dig confident guys ( not cocky). Not saying it will get u the girl but it will allow u to take the steps nesseccary to find out what u want to know.

 

[Pineapple]

I have always been infatuated with one girl in my class for the past three years, but have never had the courage to tell her for numerous reasons. Her friends are not my type of people, but she is heavenly. Also, I fear rejection so much. Finally, I'm not at all athletic or physically strong. Another thing was I don't get dreams often, but when I do, it usually predicts the future. (I know it's corny I believe they do) it showed her as obnoxious, and I was with another girl I'm not really attracted to. I thought that maybe the unattractive girl was for me, but I don't know. My love was still the original. When my feelings became really strong, I noticed she had a boyfriend for a little while. That crushed me a little, but I was happy for her. I even came to the conclusion of searching for a girl close to me, not one that kept on going farther and farther away from me. (Sorry, I read the "Sakura's Confession" chapter when I came to that.) Tonight, I just saw that the dirty bastard left her. So, she is single. What should I do? My insecurity is keeping me away.

Simple.
Man up and ask her.

 

[uzumakikenshin]

Simple.
Man up and ask her.

but give her some time...

 

[Pineapple]

Fine.
Ask her in a week.

 

[uzumakikenshin]

Fine.
Ask her in a week.

yeah.. be friend first... or be ready to be the rebound..xd

 

[Bhil]

I had the same problem, I never had the courage to ask out a girl but I was the athletic type and the stuff ,girls love but I kept waiting and waiting and then in a month she moved to another school, it was the worst day of my life and I almost committed suicide.

So what I suggest is just ask her, then probably you won't be suffering like me.

 

[perez221a]

Give her time before diving in, she'll need time to get over the break up. There's always the risk of rebound if you try too soon D:

If you don't let her knonw how you feel, you can't expect anything to come of it ;P try becoming friends with her, and let it build from there. Wait until the time's right.

yo bro i made a account just to give u advise... listen to what she said out of all these fools no offence to u all.... if u want a shot with this girl u got to get close to this chick somehow... dont base ur feeling on what u see ... u need to fined a connection ... take things slow once u get to know her.... dont jump the gun and tell her u love her... this is reality not anime... girls will just think ur creepy if u know what i mean.... fined a way to make a good first impression thats really important.... take things one step at a time... show her ur a nice guy ... if u do change the way u are make sure its for u and not for her.... and say u do fined out she only wants to be friends dont take it to hard... trust me there are alot of girls out there better in there own ways... just got to give them a chance ... ur never going to know what love really is until someone loves u back ... just be confidant and keep ur head high and keep moving forward... and i promise u will either get her or fined someone special to you

 

[SIGFOR]

My situation was like that, girl I liked for a few years but she liked me to then just before we decided to date she walked up to me and said I'm dating this guy I find ugly. Awkward...