I have always been infatuated with one girl in my class for the past three years, but have never had the courage to tell her for numerous reasons. Her friends are not my type of people, but she is heavenly. Also, I fear rejection so much. Finally, I'm not at all athletic or physically strong. Another thing was I don't get dreams often, but when I do, it usually predicts the future. (I know it's corny I believe they do) it showed her as obnoxious, and I was with another girl I'm not really attracted to. I thought that maybe the unattractive girl was for me, but I don't know. My love was still the original. When my feelings became really strong, I noticed she had a boyfriend for a little while. That crushed me a little, but I was happy for her. I even came to the conclusion of searching for a girl close to me, not one that kept on going farther and farther away from me. (Sorry, I read the "Sakura's Confession" chapter when I came to that.) Tonight, I just saw that the dirty bastard left her. So, she is single. What should I do? My insecurity is keeping me away.
Love advice? (Age 16)
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spaced monkey
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go for it. Some of the biggest things i regreted from high school was not telling any of the girls i liked how i felt. if you dont take a chance for the future then you will feel worse than you would if you where rejected.
Do it!
I'd do it.
Here is the thing, forget about everything, just go to her and tell her how you feel. Don't over do it and make the mistake to look like a stalker. Just smile and express yourself.
If by any chance sh*t hits the fan and she friend zones you then, oh well. Maybe one day she will come to sense and accept your love.
I'd do it.
Here is the thing, forget about everything, just go to her and tell her how you feel. Don't over do it and make the mistake to look like a stalker. Just smile and express yourself.
If by any chance sh*t hits the fan and she friend zones you then, oh well. Maybe one day she will come to sense and accept your love.
Read this carefuly.
Work out, get,"fit." Not buff.
Cut your hair, get a man or hipster cut. Girls do like long hair, if she's one of those cut it so it looks stylish but mature. I have medium, I have natural bed hair all the time, works good on me.
Just stop being timid, just stop. Don't hit on her, start being more entertaining, make her want to talk to you, be calm, nice, and collective, not cool.
Get to know her, she gets to know you.
Finally confess. If she rejects you, move on, if you got this far you WILL meet someone else. You will fall in love.
You're love strung, but not in love, you will know what I mean in the future.
Oh and smile when you talk to each other.
Why change for her?
I mean, its a good thing to stay healthy and hygienic. But why change?
That's like saying, "I will stop watching anime just for her." o__0 If I met a girl that would change just for me I'd be disappointed.
TheOrangeSage
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Self esteem, personally I have low self esteem on my self, but they come to me, you should ask who you think is best for you
Thanks guys! I will definitely try to, but it's more complicated. Put it this way. At my school there is no such thing as "populars" and "nerds", and she's really nice, but it's almost like a complete stranger walking up to you and saying, " I love you". Thanks for the support though. Why can't girls make the the first move?
I agree, if you find a girl that doesnt even notice you or pays no attention to you whatsoever then you shouldnt be together, besides wouldnt you rather be loved for someone you are, rather than for someone your not ?
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... Indeed.
I guess it all depends if you do love the way you are, or the person you love.
NEVERTHELESS!!!1
Its also weird to just tell her that you love her even if you don't know her. I got to meet with a girl I like and befriends with her even while she has a boyfriend.
How did I manage? Well, I just happened to be waiting for the bus in the same place she was, then I just made a comment when her friends left, "Easy test, eh?"
She looked at me and smiled, clearly she understood my sarcasm, but still. I befriended with her, and I can wait for her until maybe just possibly might fate put us together. I'm telling myself now that I wont find anyone like her but who knows...
"Fate, it seems, is not without sense of irony." -Morpheous
black uchiha
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no it goes he whom never try never fail..but also never succeedsRemind yourself that "He whom never tries, always fails"
and thats my 2 cents worth lol
no not at all...girls like a man day can fix (or try to fix), (@gaara)take a look at her ex and look at whats wrong with him don't change for anyone if u do u will hate ur self in da end
lol its always a balance of cool vs uncool u may not want to see it but its der...the ? is does she care about dat balance...some of the guys told u to tell her how u feel...don't do dat like u said it would be weird for her and u cant make dat her first impression of u...da key is to realize dat some things are out of reach, but u don't no whats out of reach until u reach for dem....i can't tell u what to say to her...i don't know her...but u do...just go up and talk to her, show interest in her and don't push the bf title so hard (she just broke up) and if she feels u have something to offer her den she will take it...but u have to try and put da rest out of ur mind.....good luck
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Ahahahaha ^^
No, It's like saying, "I've gotten no where, I will better my current situation and become better, cut my greasy messy hair or improve it so she can run her fingers through it, better my body so I can ptotect her and carry her, and get a stronger personality so she's always is comforted by me."
I didn't tell him to start acting like Edward or Sasuke, no I told him to become himself at his highest peak while he is still 16. He can still talk about pokemon dude just making sure he only talks about point they would both enjoy. Get it? haha
Btw I'm not 18 yet haha But I do know what a girl wants.
uzumakikenshin
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agreed... if you think there are things that are necessarily to change do it... not just for the girl but also for yourself... it doesnt mean that you are not being yourself.. you are just ready to change for the betterment of yourself... (but be sure that you are comfortable with the changes)
dont just go in front of her and say.. hey girl this is my feelings blah blah blah... if i were her, I would be shocked and just say "what the F*ck are u talking about?" or she myt just walk away... guys always think its cool but sometimes it becomes disrespectful..
have time to make her comfortable.. chit chat.... be TRUE... never pretend to be someone else if you are not.. or you might look like a NOOB...
and after that.. if you think she's ready to hear you out then say it... even she has or doesnt have a boyfriend.. just say it ... then with that time yiou can be a little more sweeter to her.. but if she rejects you and tell you that she only likes you just a friend.. then forget it man.. move on...
take advise on a guy who wasw know as a **** throught out high school and has a daughter and another kid on the way
there is no such thing as a faliure only early attemst at success rejection my be scary at first but its not somthing to be afraid of you dont even know if she will reject you
and if she dose just simply ask why not to be annoying to find why she personly dosnt preferr you because then you can improve on the subject matter not that it will every much increase your chanses if shedid reject you but to improve on future relationships
on a personal note its better to ask someone out in frount of there friends unless those people are really sadistic
your age people dont realise like i did at your age that even how you stand and what expresions your eyes make come intro account so PM me and ill help you out a fair bit i know thing most of the people on here wouldnt even think to look for in that department
pm me and ill give you my msn ill help out
there is no such thing as a faliure only early attemst at success rejection my be scary at first but its not somthing to be afraid of you dont even know if she will reject you
and if she dose just simply ask why not to be annoying to find why she personly dosnt preferr you because then you can improve on the subject matter not that it will every much increase your chanses if shedid reject you but to improve on future relationships
on a personal note its better to ask someone out in frount of there friends unless those people are really sadistic
your age people dont realise like i did at your age that even how you stand and what expresions your eyes make come intro account so PM me and ill help you out a fair bit i know thing most of the people on here wouldnt even think to look for in that department
pm me and ill give you my msn ill help out
You know nothing of girls, I'm sorry but imo, you've been watching to many movies, anime, shows.
You expect every girl to be a sugar mama HAHA xD
"Girls want a guy to fix them" Seriously. xD