Why do some parents think they can do anything to their kids?

[Insomniac Fueled Suicide]

It depends because that too can cause a problem like the kid responding back to you.



If you understood psych you should understand emotional abuse and yea I understand videos like that are extreme.I mention that in my original post. Yes parenting can be a trail and error but I don't believe stuff like those videos and talking shit to your kids is good methods< this is legit what my post was about.

Everyone's psyche is different plus again people should learn that there are ***holes out there and to deal with it. I mean sure you could generalize it but that doesn't mean that there isn't a difference.

I'm not saying you talk while hitting that is stupid and the broken sentences won't make getting the point across. I mean you do maybe a hit or two then talk about the problem. So that the pain is fresh on the mind besides you don't want to mix frustration with a deserved punishment you aren't using the problem caused by the kid as a medium to vent. Which some people do. I'm rambling and forgetting what my goal was......

 

[chintu234]

You have some outdated ways of thinking.
EVERYBODY NEEDS A PARTNER TO HELP THEM THROUGH THE PAIN OF LIFE.

They are f*cking 13yrs old what pain of life they have?
Getting up in the morning to go to school? Wow i dint know getting up in the morning is such a pain in 13ys old life that they need physical relationship with someone to get over that pain.
No wonder teen pregnancy is high on the rise. Good luck having a daughter/son of 13yrs have a kid of their own!

 

[Insomniac Fueled Suicide]

It depends because that too can cause a problem like the kid responding back to you.



If you understood psych you should understand emotional abuse and yea I understand videos like that are extreme.I mention that in my original post. Yes parenting can be a trail and error but I don't believe stuff like those videos and talking shit to your kids is good methods< this is legit what my post was about.

Everyone's psyche is different plus again people should learn that there are ***holes out there and to deal with it. I mean sure you could generalize it but that doesn't mean that there isn't a difference.

I'm not saying you talk while hitting that is stupid and the broken sentences won't make getting the point across. I mean you do maybe a hit or two then talk about the problem. So that the pain is fresh on the mind besides you don't want to mix frustration with a deserved punishment you aren't using the problem caused by the kid as a medium to vent. Which some people do. I'm rambling and forgetting what my goal was......

 

[Sakura Michiko]

They are f*cking 13yrs old what pain of life they have?
Getting up in the morning to go to school? Wow i dint know getting up in the morning is such a pain in 13ys old life that they need physical relationship with someone to get over that pain.
No wonder teen pregnancy is high on the rise. Good luck having a daughter/son of 13yrs have a kid of their own!

I have a best friend who was raped around that age. Yes 13 year olds can deal with huge problems. I think she is still a little traumatized by that experience. Please be considerate.

Everyone's psyche is different plus again people should learn that there are ***holes out there and to deal with it. I mean sure you could generalize it but that doesn't mean that there isn't a difference.

I'm not saying you talk while hitting that is stupid and the broken sentences won't make getting the point across. I mean you do maybe a hit or two then talk about the problem. So that the pain is fresh on the mind besides you don't want to mix frustration with a deserved punishment you aren't using the problem caused by the kid as a medium to vent. Which some people do. I'm rambling and forgetting what my goal was......

Oh okay because I know some people who hitting their kids and try talking to them during that time and I really didn't see how that help.

 

[chintu234]

I have a best friend who was raped around that age. Yes 13 year olds can deal with huge problems. I think she is still a little traumatized by that experience. Please be considerate.

Oh okay because I know some people who hitting their kids and try talking to them during that time and I really didn't see how that help.

Getting raped at that age is sad and actually a very bad thing and should be handled with care i know from personal experience of two people in my life who were physical abused so i know.
But the 13yrs old I'm talking about are normal kids trying to show off not every 13yr old has gone to the same thing you mentioned. So really aside from waking up in the morning what other pain do they have?
More than half of these kids end up getting knocked up because they were tooo busy showing off than listening to others warning about that its bad.

 

[Sakura Michiko]

They are f*cking 13yrs old what pain of life they have?
Getting up in the morning to go to school? Wow i dint know getting up in the morning is such a pain in 13ys old life that they need physical relationship with someone to get over that pain.
No wonder teen pregnancy is high on the rise. Good luck having a daughter/son of 13yrs have a kid of their own!

Everyone's psyche is different plus again people should learn that there are ***holes out there and to deal with it. I mean sure you could generalize it but that doesn't mean that there isn't a difference.

I'm not saying you talk while hitting that is stupid and the broken sentences won't make getting the point across. I mean you do maybe a hit or two then talk about the problem. So that the pain is fresh on the mind besides you don't want to mix frustration with a deserved punishment you aren't using the problem caused by the kid as a medium to vent. Which some people do. I'm rambling and forgetting what my goal was......

Getting raped at that age is sad and actually a very bad thing and should be handled with care i know from personal experience of two people in my life who were physical abused so i know.
But the 13yrs old I'm talking about are normal kids trying to show off not every 13yr old has gone to the same thing you mentioned. So really aside from waking up in the morning what other pain do they have?
More than half of these kids end up getting knocked up because they were tooo busy showing off than listening to others warning about that its bad.

What type of kids are you meeting? I mean I rarely met kids like that.

 

[SIR HERDERP PRESIDERP SDO]

Parents need to discipline their kids or an Omelette will do it for them:

[video=youtube_share;O5_E1p_jbIw]http://youtu.be/O5_E1p_jbIw[/video]

 

[Venomous Cobra]

How is teaching your kid a lesson for bullying others for no reason is forcing your ideals on him??
Or taking things too granted or break things just cause your parents have money to buy new things or not studying instead having fun all the time?

What? I haven't mentioned any of that or included it in the context I was referring to

 

[Don Drama]

Like I understand a parent has to be an authority figure but what makes some of these people think it's okay to make their kids feel like crap, destroy their self-esteem, or beat them and expect the kid(s) not to react to this as if the kid(s) is some type objects. For example those video were people record themselves "disciplining" their kids by beating them or cutting their hair in a horrible way. Also why do some people feel like you have to respect your parent regardless of what they do to you? I've legit talked to people who felt that you should still respect your parents even if they are abusing you because "they are your parents".Isn't that a bit detrimental? Why do some people stick up for bad parenting?

Under this circumstance, most of these kids will take revenge by sending their old parents to a nursing home to rot.

 

[Insomniac Fueled Suicide]

It depends because that too can cause a problem like the kid responding back to you.



If you understood psych you should understand emotional abuse and yea I understand videos like that are extreme.I mention that in my original post. Yes parenting can be a trail and error but I don't believe stuff like those videos and talking shit to your kids is good methods< this is legit what my post was about.

Everyone's psyche is different plus again people should learn that there are ***holes out there and to deal with it. I mean sure you could generalize it but that doesn't mean that there isn't a difference.

I'm not saying you talk while hitting that is stupid and the broken sentences won't make getting the point across. I mean you do maybe a hit or two then talk about the problem. So that the pain is fresh on the mind besides you don't want to mix frustration with a deserved punishment you aren't using the problem caused by the kid as a medium to vent. Which some people do. I'm rambling and forgetting what my goal was......

 

[WalksInShadows]

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This talks about why spanking is bad for kids

the are some problems i have with articles like this one:

- The ppl who write these articles probably never had to raise children.

- The manner in which parents raise their children ultimately depends on whether the parent(s) in the situation are either liberal or conservative concerning their views on child discipline.

- Me and my siblings have been disciplined with everything from a belt to an extension cord, and none of us are no more screwed up than the average person as a result of it.

- Articles bashing spanking never mentions the fact that it is just as likely that not spanking a kid can result in the increase of criminal behavior. The kid's social circle or economic situation have a lot more to do with criminal behavior than spanking.

While i don't condone a parent using methods to destroy the self esteem of their kid, i do believe that a parent must use whatever means available to them that will help them establish boundaries. Personally, i'd rather resort to something other than spanking to set boundaries, but i don't think spanking a kid is arbitrarily bad or wrong either.

 

[Yubel]

Like I understand a parent has to be an authority figure but what makes some of these people think it's okay to make their kids feel like crap, destroy their self-esteem, or beat them and expect the kid(s) not to react to this as if the kid(s) is some type objects. For example those video were people record themselves "disciplining" their kids by beating them or cutting their hair in a horrible way. Also why do some people feel like you have to respect your parent regardless of what they do to you? I've legit talked to people who felt that you should still respect your parents even if they are abusing you because "they are your parents".Isn't that a bit detrimental? Why do some people stick up for bad parenting?

Toxic parents have their own issues and since it's their responsibility to raise you couple with their lack of education. It's obvious they will just do whatever they think is appropriate to keep you in line or snap at you because you're doing something that adds to the stress they've experienced all day untill they can't take anymore.

Regardless, if you have dysfunctional parents, I urge you to read Toxic parents by Susanne Forward. It'll help you create personal boundaries and the ability to communicate with your parents, the dact is no one has more impact on our lives than our family. Small events can follow you for decades and ruin your life in other ways. For example, a sexually abused child will have trust issues which in turn affects everything else in their life. A child that is constantly made fun of will develop low self esteem which will stop them from taking initiative while filling them with anxiety.

One thing we need to be aware of is that nothing exists in a vaccum, in other words, just because you're grown up doesn't cancel whatever happened in your childhood or what effect it had on you. There are no isolated events, and everything affects everything else.

 

[slimreaper]

The power dynamic of parent-child is weakened every day by soft liberals; Making a generation of disrespectful brats who demand safe spaces and dismiss opinions they don't want to hear.

 

[Monxstaa]

For some kids beating is the way others taking things they like is better but it depends on the parents they are the ones who fed and housed you for 18 yrs. @op did you get hit by your parents?

 

[DominiqueX]

Parents who harm their child, mentally or physically, to "put it back in place", are trash and don't deserve to be parents at all.
No matter what a child does, there is never a reason to beat it up or humiliate it with a bad haircut etc. Children often aren't reasonable, that is true. But it's not always like that, neither does it mean that you can abuse your parental position. It's the exact oposite actually. We all were children ourselves in the past, we know exactly in what kind of a situation the child is. We have to understand that a child often does not know better, which makes it our job as a parent to help them, without harming them.

And no, a child does not have to respect it's parents regardless of how they behave and what they do. They are humans like anyone else, if one parent or both behave like pieces of trash, they have to be treated as such and have to experience the consequences.

 

[slimreaper]

Parents who harm their child, mentally or physically, to "put it back in place", are trash and don't deserve to be parents at all.
No matter what a child does, there is never a reason to beat it up or humiliate it with a bad haircut etc. Children often aren't reasonable, that is true. But it's not always like that, neither does it mean that you can abuse your parental position. It's the exact oposite actually. We all were children ourselves in the past, we know exactly in what kind of a situation the child is. We have to understand that a child often does not know better, which makes it our job as a parent to help them, without harming them.

And no, a child does not have to respect it's parents regardless of how they behave and what they do. They are humans like anyone else, if one parent or both behave like pieces of trash, they have to be treated as such and have to experience the consequences.

vague as ****


There is a difference between beating a child and disciplining a child. Beating comes from hate and teaches no lesson, disciplining a child teaches them to respect the parent as a direct authority figure. It's the only way to deal with a mind as selfish as a child's, reasoning doesn't work for the stupid

 

[Ryu Kishi]

They shouldn't hurt their kids

 

[Sakura Michiko]

the are some problems i have with articles like this one:

- The ppl who write these articles probably never had to raise children.

- The manner in which parents raise their children ultimately depends on whether the parent(s) in the situation are either liberal or conservative concerning their views on child discipline.

- Me and my siblings have been disciplined with everything from a belt to an extension cord, and none of us are no more screwed up than the average person as a result of it.

- Articles bashing spanking never mentions the fact that it is just as likely that not spanking a kid can result in the increase of criminal behavior. The kid's social circle or economic situation have a lot more to do with criminal behavior than spanking.

While i don't condone a parent using methods to destroy the self esteem of their kid, i do believe that a parent must use whatever means available to them that will help them establish boundaries. Personally, i'd rather resort to something other than spanking to set boundaries, but i don't think spanking a kid is arbitrarily bad or wrong either.

Not everyone is you. No, you should not go by all means to "discpline" a child.Any means can damage a child. You assumed these people do not have kids and also you assumed professionals do not know what they are talking about.

Toxic parents have their own issues and since it's their responsibility to raise you couple with their lack of education. It's obvious they will just do whatever they think is appropriate to keep you in line or snap at you because you're doing something that adds to the stress they've experienced all day untill they can't take anymore.

Regardless, if you have dysfunctional parents, I urge you to read Toxic parents by Susanne Forward. It'll help you create personal boundaries and the ability to communicate with your parents, the dact is no one has more impact on our lives than our family. Small events can follow you for decades and ruin your life in other ways. For example, a sexually abused child will have trust issues which in turn affects everything else in their life. A child that is constantly made fun of will develop low self esteem which will stop them from taking initiative while filling them with anxiety.

One thing we need to be aware of is that nothing exists in a vaccum, in other words, just because you're grown up doesn't cancel whatever happened in your childhood or what effect it had on you. There are no isolated events, and everything affects everything else.

Interesting,I'll check it out.

 

[Deadlift]

Lots of parents see their adolescent kids as a threat to their power in the family. You know that adolescent people are sorta "rebel" towards their family, so parents see themselves in danger and need to remind them who's the leader, with the strong manners

 

[Sakura Michiko]

Lots of parents see their adolescent kids as a threat to their power in the family. You know that adolescent people are sorta "rebel" towards their family, so parents see themselves in danger and need to remind them who's the leader, with the strong manners

Don't you think they can do that in a better way without damaging their kids physically and mentally?