Why do some parents think they can do anything to their kids?

[Sakura Michiko]

Like I understand a parent has to be an authority figure but what makes some of these people think it's okay to make their kids feel like crap, destroy their self-esteem, or beat them and expect the kid(s) not to react to this as if the kid(s) is some type objects. For example those video were people record themselves "disciplining" their kids by beating them or cutting their hair in a horrible way. Also why do some people feel like you have to respect your parent regardless of what they do to you? I've legit talked to people who felt that you should still respect your parents even if they are abusing you because "they are your parents".Isn't that a bit detrimental? Why do some people stick up for bad parenting?

 

[Alien X]

Creators are apparently the law in this universe.

 

[Claymantan]

For some parents, it's the way they were raised. I don't mean that in the dismissive way people usually mean, like "They don't know any better." But if you were raised a certain way, in order to not feel like your childhood was unfair, you might stand behind that parenting method in raising your own kids in order to justify the experience. "It was rough, but I turned out okay."

People stand up for parents because it's plainly popular and easy to do so. Easier than understanding more complex things like emotional and physical abuse, anyway. There's also a general idea that children don't really have legitimate responses to their parents' actions, either because they're too immature or because they don't understand "how much their parents really do care about them," or whatever.

People are also wary of judging other parents, because if you can judge other parents, then you yourself can be judged. America, for example, is pretty wary of outside forces interfering in how they're allowed to parent, and this holds true, or even more true, for most countries, I think.

Those discipline videos sound horrid.

 

[wanderingcactus]

you gotta understand sometimes these things are necessary.

They are kids afterall and sometimes they just plain dont listen. If you treat a kid like an adult when clearly their reasoning is that of a child, then the kid will grow up messed up and spoiled.

Remember, your parents have gone through a lot more difficult experiences than you and maybe they have experienced them even at a younger age than what you are experiencing.

Yeah, some parents are controlling manipulative and etc, but not everyone who do what you deem "unfair" is one of those parents.

Sometimes maybe you are just a plain **** and need to be taught a lesson. You know like if one is a stubborn child, sometimes you gotta hit em in order for them to listen.

They are children not adults, don't expect them to be reasonable.

IF you dont get what I mean, get a pet or simply be in a group project. You'll know how difficult to deal with people and sometime they'll only stop ****in around if they get hit.

So don't be all one sided when it comes to things next time. If they have no reason to do such actions, they are simply abusive and thus not required to be respected and be told on to the authorities.

 

[Gerkak]

Glad my parents aren't like that

 

[Sakura Michiko]

For some parents, it's the way they were raised. I don't mean that in the dismissive way people usually mean, like "They don't know any better." But if you were raised a certain way, in order to not feel like your childhood was unfair, you might stand behind that parenting method in raising your own kids in order to justify the experience. "It was rough, but I turned out okay."

People stand up for parents because it's plainly popular and easy to do so. Easier than understanding more complex things like emotional and physical abuse, anyway. There's also a general idea that children don't really have legitimate responses to their parents' actions, either because they're too immature or because they don't understand "how much their parents really do care about them," or whatever.

People are also wary of judging other parents, because if you can judge other parents, then you yourself can be judged. America, for example, is pretty wary of outside forces interfering in how they're allowed to parent, and this holds true, or even more true, for most countries, I think.

Those discipline videos sound horrid.

Well said

you gotta understand sometimes these things are necessary.

They are kids afterall and sometimes they just plain dont listen. If you treat a kid like an adult when clearly their reasoning is that of a child, then the kid will grow up messed up and spoiled.

Remember, your parents have gone through a lot more difficult experiences than you and maybe they have experienced them even at a younger age than what you are experiencing.

Yeah, some parents are controlling manipulative and etc, but not everyone who do what you deem "unfair" is one of those parents.

Sometimes maybe you are just a plain **** and need to be taught a lesson. You know like if one is a stubborn child, sometimes you gotta hit em in order for them to listen.

They are children not adults, don't expect them to be reasonable.

IF you dont get what I mean, get a pet or simply be in a group project. You'll know how difficult to deal with people and sometime they'll only stop ****in around if they get hit.

So don't be all one sided when it comes to things next time. If they have no reason to do such actions, they are simply abusive and thus not required to be respected and be told on to the authorities.

Okay so sometimes a parent should record themselves beating and embarrassing their kids risking them for bullying and damaging their emotions? I'm not saying treat them like adults but treat them like humans instead of objects.I'm not being one side.Like I said I understand parents have to be authority figures but I don't believe a parent should emotionally damage and beat kids like leaving marks on them and bruises. Don't you think a mature parent can go by in disciplining their kids in a better manner than that?

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

Creators are apparently the law in this universe.

So deep, beautiful post.

OT: QI. To show who is in charge, assert dominance, etc.

QII. People who feel that way usually believe that because your parents brought you into this world, they deserve some respect.

 

[Insomniac Fueled Suicide]

People were raised differently so as a result punishments differ for people. I'm guessing you plan on punishing your kids(when or if you have them) by talking to them but some people such as myself don't see this as a way to reinforce that this is a negative thing.

For example if your kid gets in a fight regardless of outcome and all you do is talk to them only telling them not to do it again. That isn't considered a punishment because they have nothing negative to relate it back to but sitting on a couch and talking for like maybe 5 minutes at best.
Vs.
Same situation happens and it's established that you will get spanked or what have you plus a telling them not to do this or this will happen again. Gives the brain something to relate it back to aka pain.

Granted the people in the video can go to far sometimes or the reason for the punishment is stupid but nether the less it's a reason to them. It shouldn't be a matter of respect but teaching right from wrong and teaching the proper way to deal with situations.

Then again this is only my opinion with a loose understanding of psychology. And my background is both of these punishments but a little bit extreme imo. Things like not being able to eat, a whipping, no technology, etc things of that manner so a haircut in a stupid way is only as punishing as you let it be but I guess the same could be said of any punishment.

 

[Sakura Michiko]

People were raised differently so as a result punishments differ for people. I'm guessing you plan on punishing your kids(when or if you have them) by talking to them but some people such as myself don't see this as a way to reinforce that this is a negative thing.

For example if your kid gets in a fight regardless of outcome and all you do is talk to them only telling them not to do it again. That isn't considered a punishment because they have nothing negative to relate it back to but sitting on a couch and talking for like maybe 5 minutes at best.
Vs.
Same situation happens and it's established that you will get spanked or what have you plus a telling them not to do this or this will happen again. Gives the brain something to relate it back to aka pain.

Granted the people in the video can go to far sometimes or the reason for the punishment is stupid but nether the less it's a reason to them. It shouldn't be a matter of respect but teaching right from wrong and teaching the proper way to deal with situations.

Then again this is only my opinion with a loose understanding of psychology. And my background is both of these punishments but a little bit extreme imo. Things like not being able to eat, a whipping, no technology, etc things of that manner so a haircut in a stupid way is only as punishing as you let it be but I guess the same could be said of any punishment.

So you don't believe that emotional abuse is a real thing?

 

[chintu234]

The kids who always do some kind of stupid thing to make other's day miserable even after fair no of warnings deserve to get their ass kicked.
My mom was pretty strict she used beat the shit out of me if i bunked classes or dint study or contantly did things which others dint liked turns out i grew up fine with alot of respect for my elders/people who do not piss me off. Hell i dont even back answer to someone older than me until absolutely necessary.
Some kids do not understand if you keep feeding your shit politely they need ass kicking to know its wrong.

There's saying in our country:- "Laaton ke bhoot baaton se nahi maante" English:- Some only understand the language of force.

 

[Sakura Michiko]

The kids who always do some kind of stupid thing to make other's day miserable even after fair no of warnings deserve to get their ass kicked.
My mom was pretty strict she used beat the shit out of me if i bunked classes or dint study or contantly did things which others dint liked turns out i grew up fine with alot of respect for my elders/people who do not piss me off. Hell i dont even back answer to someone older than me until absolutely necessary.
Some kids do not understand if you keep feeding your shit politely they need ass kicking to know its wrong.

There's saying in our country:- "Laaton ke bhoot baaton se nahi maante" English:- Some only understand the language of force.

Yea you might have grown up fine but not everyone grows up fine from stuff like that.

 

[chintu234]

To prove my point, I have a sister.
She was never treated the same way like me ie only a little strictness but she is tooooo arrogant and impolite towards her elder and doesn't like to study much and is always on her cell phone.

 

[chintu234]

Yea you might have grown up fine but not everyone grows up fine from stuff like that.

So you do agree some people needs ass kicking.
Its true some parents take it to the extreme but ass kicking for things which arent right should be mandatory for every child except for autistic kids.

 

[Insomniac Fueled Suicide]

So you don't believe that emotional abuse is a real thing?

Your sig hurts my eyes for some reason...._@:
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OT:
I believe that if your skin is as thin as paper to the point where you cry from a single insult then you probably believe you're being emotionally abused. Whoops I dodged the question with that answer. I mean no I don't believe emotional abuse is a thing if everyone keeps getting a trophy who's the winner. If you get yelled at or insulted and you feel you didn't deserve it do the same thing back to the ***hole who did it to you, it's that simple.
No one is emotionally abused you are just to weak minded to walk away.
I'm assuming this was going to lead to domestic abuse involving that or something.

 

[Fountain]

They're just bad parents?

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[chintu234]

I have seen many kids of age 13-15 having bf/gf instead of studying and doing what kids of their age should do and these kids are the ones who are pampered by their parents.

 

[chintu234]

Your sig hurts my eyes for some reason...._@:
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OT:
I believe that if your skin is as thin as paper to the point where you cry from a single insult then you probably believe you're being emotionally abused. Whoops I dodged the question with that answer. I mean no I don't believe emotional abuse is a thing if everyone keeps getting a trophy who's the winner. If you get yelled at or insulted and you feel you didn't deserve it do the same thing back to the ***hole who did it to you, it's that simple.
No one is emotionally abused you are just to weak minded to walk away.
I'm assuming this was going to lead to domestic abuse involving that or something.

Agree with this guy, if the kid doesnt like what hes getting then he probably shouldnt do the stupid thing he did to the said individual or disrespect them.

 

[Sakura Michiko]

So you do agree some people needs ass kicking.
Its true some parents take it to the extreme but ass kicking for things which arent right should be mandatory for every child except for autistic kids.

No that's sounds horrible.

Your sig hurts my eyes for some reason...._@:
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OT:
I believe that if your skin is as thin as paper to the point where you cry from a single insult then you probably believe you're being emotionally abused. Whoops I dodged the question with that answer. I mean no I don't believe emotional abuse is a thing if everyone keeps getting a trophy who's the winner. If you get yelled at or insulted and you feel you didn't deserve it do the same thing back to the ***hole who did it to you, it's that simple.
No one is emotionally abused you are just to weak minded to walk away.
I'm assuming this was going to lead to domestic abuse involving that or something.

You should probably take some psychology classes. That might make you reconsider.

 

[chintu234]

No that's sounds horrible.


You should probably take some psychology classes.

You are just weak ass kid who is too naive to know whats going on in the world.

So please, you know what go ahead have a child pamper him/her all you want and wait till he/she takes you for granted and cons you of things.
Personal experience of my mom:- Her own brother never came to visit our grandparents but came during their deaths to take part in the property distribution.

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

I have seen many kids of age 13-15 having bf/gf instead of studying and doing what kids of their age should do and these kids are the ones who are pampered by their parents.

I wasn't pampered by my parents and I did that and much worse around those ages. I mean if your parents never find out, you don't get in trouble. Doesn't mean you're not being disciplined well.