I'm sorry for your loss.
Perhaps they don't teach this to peaceful muslims - but I know how to do this thing called "read."
It's fascinating when you read things and try to figure out what all of the patterns of scribbling and words is supposed to represent. To my surprise - I found that 'language' - particularly the written variety - means something.
Yes, that ayah is used from time to time to justify the fatwas regarding honor killings.
And do not kill the soul which Allah has forbidden, except by right. And whoever is killed unjustly - We have given his heir authority, but let him not exceed limits in [the matter of] taking life. Indeed, he has been supported [by the law].
The first phrase and preparatory in nature. Do not kill people from among the category of people forbidden to kill. Implied in the arabic is that there are those who muslims are permitted to kill.
There is an addendum to that preparatory phrase - except by right. This is establishing that one can have the right to kill from among those who are typically forbidden. There is an exemption to the protected status.
The rest of it essentially defines the exemption and describes it - explains when and how one may go about killing one of the people who is normally forbidden.
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Now, if you want to think Israel is some kind of mastermind in all of that - that's just your problem. A bullet will eventually conduct the lobotomy you've already administered to yourself if so.
The only debate is exactly -what- falls under the laws of Sharia, since the Qu'ran is a convoluted mess and the Hadith only add to the complexity of attempting to 'go to the prophet in regards to what differs between you.'
Frankly, you -can't- consider yourself a Muslim if you do not believe in the application of Sharia, or at least Qu'ranic Law. Islam must be dominant over, at the very least, the Muslim Community - and a proper society has Muslims within a ruling caste over non-muslims.
The reason why this is -absolute- within Islam is because the entire premise of Islam is that Muhammad was revealed the 'book of truth' from God. The verses of the Qu'ran are not the words of a prophet so much as they are direct mandates and dictations from God - as is claimed by the Qu'ran and as is the founding principle of Islamic theology.
If you do not believe the qu'ran to be the literal wisdom of god and to be a system commanded to be implemented... then, frankly, you don't believe Muhammad was 'rightly guided.' If you don't believe that - then you essentially can't believe the qu'ran. If you look at the qu'ran with skepticism and with the belief that it should be modified or its policies abridged - then you're not a believer and therefor not a muslim.
It isn't like Christianity, where you can accept the Bible as an account written by man and therefor draw inspiration from its message or use historical context within the interpretation of stated laws or commands.
The very concept of the Qu'ran is, itself, absolute. It's an all or nothing book.
Just because I believe Muhammad was, at best, schizophrenic or at worst a demon in his own right does not mean I can't understand nor argue from the perspective of someone who does believe the Qur'an to be the literal wisdom of God.
So, if I were to create a religion dedicated to purging the world of other religions and breeding women among warriors to spawn the next generation of warriors....
I have not created a religion based upon terrorism?
While terrorism is, itself, a concept and thus beholden to no religion or demographic in particular - terrorism is a concept that can be incorporated into religions as a matter of course.