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Is it possible to be in a relationship and be happy and comfortable in it but still develop feelings for other people?

I have a girlfriend, and we're very happy don't get me wrong, but this summer I kind of developed some feelings for another girl (it feels like we're more than just friends - for both of us) (edit - I would never go as far as touching her etc, I'm just aware that those feelings have developed and are there)

I'm kind of confused as to whether I've been a total douche for allowing these feelings to develop. I am totally honest and open, I haven't hid anything from anyone at this point.

Your thoughts on the matter would be greatly appreciated.
 
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I would say it's not something I would find preferable in my relationship.
Even with that said, I suppose it's ok as long as you don't get too attached to her or touch her in anyway.
 

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Is it possible to be in a relationship and be happy and comfortable in it but still develop feelings for other people?

I have a girlfriend, and we're very happy don't get me wrong, but this summer I kind of developed some feelings for another girl (it feels like we're more than just friends - for both of us) (edit - I would never go as far as touching her etc, I'm just aware that those feelings have developed and are there)

I'm kind of confused as to whether I've been a total douche for allowing these feelings to develop. I am totally honest and open, I haven't hid anything from anyone at this point.

Your thoughts on the matter would be greatly appreciated.
Except your girl doesn't know you have feelings for some other chick..
 

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I'ts normal. Thousands of books has been piblished. Thousands of films has been made. And many bottles of wine has been sold. ♀•♂•



on a serious note. Good thing you're not married yet. I'ts a bad sign to your current relationship. Something is missing . Try to sort it out.

Dont play with the fire.
Flowers are very lovely to see, but once you pluck it, never be the same.
 
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it depends on how she feels about you because if you leave your girlfriend for this new girl and she is a total d-wad, then you done ****ed up.
 

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Except your girl doesn't know you have feelings for some other chick..
Actually she does, I'm 100% honest with her. Her view is it thats its natural to be attracted to different aspects of people, as long as you're honest and realistic with yourself. I still feel like a douche though, why is the mind such a tricky thing?
 

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Actually she does, I'm 100% honest with her. Her view is it thats its natural to be attracted to different aspects of people, as long as you're honest and realistic with yourself. I still feel like a douche though, why is the mind such a tricky thing?
If you feel like a douche, then you are a douche. But your GF is smart, she probably has her eyes on other guys and knows how you feel.
 

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If you feel like a douche, then you are a douche. But your GF is smart, she probably has her eyes on other guys and knows how you feel.
If its that black and white then I think I'm losing my faith in humanity, I would never cheat on or be dishonest with my girlfriend. I'm just trying to fathom how to deal with these feelings.
 
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we are all humans. it's a natrual thing to develop feelings and trying to push them away usually doesn't work.

here is what i think, a man can't be hold responsible for his feelings, but he can be hold responsible for his actions. you are only a douche if you actully cheated on your girlfriend.
 
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