Why do I have low esteem ?

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Whenever a girl looks at me I look away immediately I can't maintain eye contact for more than 0.001 seconds without twitching. I always make these weird faces when people look at me intensely.

I always get told I'm "good looking" but I can't really believe it I just think they're bsing me no matter how much people tell me I'm handsome I still feel ugly for some reason . I don't know what to do ? Does anyone else feel this way ?
 

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Because you are a Pu$$y . :sdo:

"Be a Man " xd
 

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Because no matter what you do or what you are, there are people around you in society everyday who are more talented, better looking, smarter, and more popular than you are. And if you don't know someone like that in person, you probably know a famous person like that. So you realize how insignificant you are compared to others, and just suffer drowning in self pity, which eventually turns to shame.
 

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Being shy is natural for most humans. The low self esteem nature comes from many reasons maybe, I myself have self esteem issues, and to be honest, I haven't found a way of fixing things well enough. I would if I were you though, talk to someone about it. Friends usually help you with those issues, raising your confidence and boosting your moral.

And don't feel like you are alone is the most important things. Many people are like you, and there is no problem with being like that. Just as I said before, help is everywhere so don't be shy to ask.
 

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We are not your doctors u should ask Oprah
 

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Be direct.No need to be shy.I was like that before and Im laughing at myself for that.
 

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Because no matter what you do or what you are, there are people around you in society everyday who are more talented, better looking, smarter, and more popular than you are. And if you don't know someone like that in person, you probably know a famous person like that. So you realize how insignificant you are compared to others, and just suffer drowning in self pity, which eventually turns to shame.

@bold so true that's how I feel like I'm not good enough no matter how hard I try
 

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I was the same way growing up bro, but deep down I knew I was a handsome beast that can get any women. embrace that feeling bro and get out there.
 

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Stop caring about what other people think, focus on yourself, develop yourself, rely on yourself - not others, work out, gain knowledge, become smarter, don't waste time, don't wait for anything, attain absolute confidence.

When you wake up each morning, think of Lord Sasuke's greatness and you will feel better.

@bold so true that's how I feel like I'm not good enough no matter how hard I try

Stop being pathetic. Don't compare yourself to others, just continously improve upon yourself, and become better.
Be direct.No need to be shy.I was like that before and Im laughing at myself for that.

What if you were to meet an Erza type girl in appearance and personality, would you be able to handle her? Do you have the confidence?
 
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Bro you need to kiss yourself in the mirror to feel one with yourself.
 

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Shall I donate some of my confidence to you? Because I finish I a woman off by just looking into their eyes.
 

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There's something you really don't like about yourself. I don't know it is but that's the problem, I'm about 80% sure.
 

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There's something you really don't like about yourself. I don't know it is but that's the problem, I'm about 80% sure.

Yep that was pretty spot on I just don't like myself tbh

I try but I feel disgusting idk it's been eating me up for a while like I don't belong anywhere feels like I was here by accident
 

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Confidence looks good on anybody, but asking people to shore it up for you isn't the right way to get it, and you already know that. It's why you don't really believe their responses.

If you are self aware enough to identify your reactions, are you also able to identify the thoughts you are having when you have those reactions? Meaning, what words are you telling yourself that are undermining your confidence! All of us have an inner monologue, but some of us have helpful ones.

It sounds like your inner monologue is destructive.
 

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Confidence looks good on anybody, but asking people to shore it up for you isn't the right way to get it, and you already know that. It's why you don't really believe their responses.

If you are self aware enough to identify your reactions, are you also able to identify the thoughts you are having when you have those reactions? Meaning, what words are you telling yourself that are undermining your confidence! All of us have an inner monologue, but some of us have helpful ones.

It sounds like your inner monologue is destructive.

How the hell did you know ????
Idk whenever I try to bring myself up there's always that voice in my head that always says I'm: disgusting,ugly,stupid,waste of space,burden

I always feel it's true it hurts tbh idk my worth am I really a somebody ?
 
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