When to love?

[HENI]

When should you find a life partner, or girlfriend or boyfriend? Should this be during high school, during college, or during your career? Which one is best? Let's discuss this.

 

[RuckenTM]

Why do you need someone?

 

[FreakensteinAG]

When should you find a life partner, or girlfriend or boyfriend? Should this be during high school, during college, or during your career? Which one is best? Let's discuss this.

Depends on how you want to shape your workforce life. Want to play with dyes as a job? Yeah, you can have steady relationships as early as highschool. Want a career? You best save that until after college, because grades (and who you know) determine if you get that high-paying job or not.

 

[HENI]

Depends on how you want to shape your workforce life. Want to play with dyes as a job? Yeah, you can have steady relationships as early as highschool. Want a career? You best save that until after college, because grades (and who you know) determine if you get that high-paying job or not.

I believe a man should be able to take care of himself first, before he tries to take care of a woman.

 

[Ricardo]

Depends on your testosterone levels kun:

 

[Don Drama]

The defining moment of True loves is when you are willing to give / donate your internal organs and body parts to that person.

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

Definitely get the practice in at school. When you're in school there's more girls your age that are cute, any grade, doesn't matter. But it's the perfect setup in so many ways to meet females or whatever. If you're in school take advantage, I've talked to a lot of people who wish they would've talked to more girls in school. You can only create opportunity by taking risk.

When you get out of school everyone has baggage from their school relationships and after. It's just a lot easier in school and there's a lot more to choose from. But at the same time if you do find a quality person as an adult that you like, it can be a bit more mature of a relationship, because I'd say middle school and high school the hormones and such beg for stupid situations. But you learn and can better know how you'll react to situations in a relationship. Learning as an adult and your partner didn't would put the experienced party at senpai status the whole relationship also.

 

[Arima]

During high School or college - girlfriend/boyfriend.
During career - life partner.

 

[GaaraXSakura4eva]

Definitely get the practice in at school. When you're in school there's more girls your age that are cute, any grade, doesn't matter. But it's the perfect setup in so many ways to meet females or whatever. If you're in school take advantage, I've talked to a lot of people who wish they would've talked to more girls in school. You can only create opportunity by taking risk.

When you get out of school everyone has baggage from their school relationships and after. It's just a lot easier in school and there's a lot more to choose from. But at the same time if you do find a quality person as an adult that you like, it can be a bit more mature of a relationship, because I'd say middle school and high school the hormones and such beg for stupid situations. But you learn and can better know how you'll react to situations in a relationship. Learning as an adult and your partner didn't would put the experienced party at senpai status the whole relationship also.

This is not good advice. People are not things. You don't need practice to be a good person to others. Also, you don't need practice to make and maintain deep bonds with other people.

Even if teenagers/young adults have surges in hormones, you are ultimately responsible for your actions. Discipline and wisdom are keys to note. Not everyone has this kind of baggage that you mentioned. Being in a certain age group does not absolve you of any consequences to any actions you take. Many people have lost out on great opportunities and meeting great people by taking your type of advice.

 

[Claymantan]

Whenever you have a plan for what you'll be doing in the next five or ten years in general is probably a good time. If we're talking about a committed, long-term relationship with the intention of marriage, anyway.

If you just want to date or whatever, it doesn't really matter

 

[RAMENATOR]

Depends on what you want in life and where your morals come from. Ideally, if you really want to go to university to have a career, then you should finish school before seriously looking. 'Cuz it doesn't take much in a hetero relationship to produce a child and if you don't think a person/kid will change your priorities, think again.

I disagree with experimenting in high school other than just socializing with people and understanding how to communicate and interact. I waited until after university to actually consider dating and I came out just fine

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

Depends on what you want in life and where your morals come from. Ideally, if you really want to go to university to have a career, then you should finish school before seriously looking. 'Cuz it doesn't take much in a hetero relationship to produce a child and if you don't think a person/kid will change your priorities, think again.

I disagree with experimenting in high school other than just socializing with people and understanding how to communicate and interact. I waited until after university to actually consider dating and I came out just fine

@bold: What does that mean?

 

[Jack Spicer]

You can't plan love. It just happens.

 

[CornyRainbow]

Whenever it happens. Love is not something you can plan out for it's exact date or time. It's not something you can force to be when you think it is the exact time. Love is not something that can be restricted to an age group or even how successfully you are in life. No one can tell you when or how to love no more than you can tell yourself.

You don't own or control it. It's the other way around so to answer your question: It's not up to you.

 

[Chie]

When you have a career and are financially stable.

 

[Deadlift]

When you are mature enough to really love someone

 

[JENchuuriki]

Hmm... be friends with them first and let's see what's next :snick:

 

[DominiqueX]

There isn't a "when". Because:

You can't plan love. It just happens.

In addition to that, in my opinion, you don't need to be "financially stable". Sure, it makes a lot of things easier, but I wouldn't call it necessary. Even without a career and without money, a partnership based on true love is possible. It just has to work out between the two people.

 

[RAMENATOR]

@bold: What does that mean?

It means I finished university and dated just fine without all the highschool bs. Some call it baggage, I call it bs. Sure, I had my fair share of crushes but I didn't need to date them for 'experience.' Some people might need that, but I didn't. Highschool and even university is full of drama especially in the dating scene. I waited until I finished school, got a job, had a place to live, and was stable. And it worked out because I dated a little until I found someone who was perfect for me and I for the,m and we've been married ever since.

Doesn't mean it's a perfect fairytale life but that's what age and maturity tell you. We are all human and we all have our good days and bad. With that being said, marriage isn't for everyone. So again, it all depends on what you want in life. I will give this bit of marriage advice for those who might want that: it is difficult. I say that because it will really test what kind of person you are. You will see the best and worst of your partner and they will see the same of you. You will have your lifelong commitment challenged and you will have to know enough about yourself to make yourself a better person if you want that relationship to survive. You are letting someone into your personal bubble and you are entering theirs. You will clash. It's human nature and we are all imperfect beings. If you don't take the 'love through good times and bad times' part of the vows seriously, you're gonna have a bad time.

I am happily married but that's because I knew what I was getting into. His all depends on your definition of love. If you can love them at their worst, then you might be able to love them for life.

 

[Waindo]

When you learn to love yourself, true love just hits you out of nowhere.