What should i do?

kmrasengan

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This is so easy: You don't want to be the one that makes the move. Instead strategically put yourself in a position where he (or any normal guy) should make a move on you. I'm assuming you understand how to do this & what this means, this is normal girl stuff. This of course is a test.

If he does make the move then you're in...but you should push him away because you don't want to be a rebound, you want to take things slow, blah blah blah. However, if he doesn't make the move then you just saved yourself embarrassment & rejection. You're welcome.

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best advice by far.
 
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Leave it be. He's still hooked on her so it's nothing but trouble. Just give it time and see how things go as just friends. If it seems like he has gotten over her then I'd say it's all right to put the moves on him.
 

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No, if your in high school he'll date you, because he won't wanna be a loner by being single, but say if your in college or Uni.. he'll probably think about it, and go after his ex .. just sayin that's how it goes BR0 U_U ..

Not nessisarily i bang anything thats got 2 sets of lips :) be it man women or animal
 

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he is the silent resevered type.

i have to force him too talk lol.

Find out what he likes to do (if you don't already know). If there are some things he likes to do (or does regularly) that you haven't tried (but would like to) - let him know you'd like to be shown/introduced to those things. If there are mutual hobbies/interests - try to share your time doing those with him.

Talking will be more spontaneous and vountary when he's in 'his domain.' Whether that be teaching you something or in the process of doing something together.

Though you may want to avoid things he and his ex used to do together - at least until he's healed.

That's one thing that drove a spike between myself and my ex - it was very difficult for us to have time to bond like that. It got under my skin a little - and she picked up that I was not happy (though I wasn't communicating what was wrong) - which probably fostered insecurities that fed into her decision to start fooling around outside of the relationship... which fed back into my own insecurities - and with a loop like that....

Just be sure to feel out the water a little bit. If he's like me - he's a little paranoid by nature, and his confidence in female integrity has likely taken a bit of a hit. He's going to see another girl making advances on him somewhat suspicous, and also be seeing you a bit like the guy his ex messed around with.

... Though it's hard to tell... almost all of my male peers that I have talked to understand a lot of the emotional phases I went through afterward - but quite a few of them are the ones that talk rather 'macho' and seem to go through girls like popcorn. Others don't talk macho and go through girls like popcorn, too.

Some of it could be age related... the older you get the more you're just like: "Eh, sure - we'll be boyfriend and girlfriend. ... Oh... well, not if you're going to act like that. Seeya." People seem to get a little jaded in that regard and are just happy to have someone who will humor a partnership for a while.
 

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Why are you guys telling her to make a move or subtly do it, to get with him.

What happens if this works, and then what happens if he's still in love with his EX that he'll get back with her. If you really like this guy, then sure - go a head and try to get with him. But let me ask you a few questions;

Has he ever noticed you before?
Are you both already friends?
Are you friends with his "now" Ex-girlfriend?
 

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You're gonna be his sideline chick... That's all
 

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Get him un-hooked! No, but seriously, maybe you should give him some time, maybe he doesn't want to jump right into a new relationship.
 

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Sooo... there is this guy that i like, but he just recently became single.

And is kinda hooked on her. {his ex }

What should i do?


Should i just stay friends with him or try to and make a move:flirty:?

Don't rush it. Wait a bit more. Right now he isn't interested. Don't be desperate, wait for a more convenient moment.
 

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You're a female. Just flash some cleavage and you're good to go. This shouldn't be all that difficult. It's usually the guy that has to work overtime, to capture the affection of female, not the other way around; still exceptions do exist, and in this particular case, you should probably go with what I call the "basic package", if you want to come off as a lady. Be a little more physical with him, laugh at any of his corny jokes, and offer to go out casually for anything (just choose whichever appropriate venue based on his personality). Any guy with an ounce of intelligence will get the message, and eventually ask you out for a proper date, or if you're lucky, make a move on you out of nowhere. If he doesn't, chances are he's not interested (you can of course ask him out as a last resort, and hope for the best). Lastly, though this sorta goes without saying, you want to avoid in being seen as desperate. Play it cool.

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If this guy likes someone it would be a little difficult for him to see anyone else. And if he's "hooked" ontok another girl, I'd say it would be difficult for him to see anyone else at the time. I say to not make a move but drop hints to let him know that your there and available whenever he shapes up and is ready to commit. You really must make sure that if he chooses you, too make sure he truly picks you. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't want to have someone who is drooling over someone else behind ur back (however it seems feelings can't exactly change sharply because to be honest, he might still like her anyways, but is willing to give you a chance :)) don't feel discouraged. You should go and test the waters :) I hope this helped a bit... Hahaha...
 

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I'm going to actually try to help...but I'm only just 14 (turning 15 soon tho), so I might just be describing kid love.

Okay, they just broke up. So it's likely he's still hung up on her. But um, you can probably be there for him for awhile...and maybe he'll fall in love with you.
 
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