What do you think? Open fr advice

[ChrisWolf]

So I've been dating the love of my life for the past 6 months and everything has been absolutely perfect for the past 6 months we haven't fought at all and we are so perfect for each other, emotionally, logically,psychologically and physically......and everything was so good.....but this morning I may have seriously ****ed everything up.

We were skyping and she had to take a bath to get ready for work and I came up with the idea to keep skyping while she was in the bath which is something we do all the time anyway.....then her mom walked in on us skyping naked and talking pretty in appropriately.

Her parents are crazy strict and my girl, courtney is really angry with me cuz I asked her to do that and she got in trouble and now her parents hate me and don't want us to be together.....

I know NB is a stupid place to ask for advice but I mostly just want the opinion of the girls here.....do you think that if shes truly Inlove with me, which she is, that she will forgive me and fight to keep me even against her parents?

I am19 and she just turned 21 by the way so we aren't children and we are old enough to make these choices on our own.

 

[thesurvivor]

she wont forgive you just move on

 

[minatofan234]

well, im not a girl but i will give you my adviice any ways i say she will forgive you, givin some time just give her some space and say your sorry buy her some flowers bro, but i would have gone to her house and knocked and tell her im sorry face to face regardless of her parents

 

[AlexXx]

maybe talk to her parents

 

[-Carnage-]

be a brown-noser untill her parents forgive you

 

[BlueNote]

her parent need to gtfover it the girl 21 she can do whatever she want to

 

[Punk Hazard]

Well, if she truly loves you, she'll forgive you. After all, you are both adults. If her parents don't approve, then that shouldn't really stop your relationship. I think you should make it clear to her and her parents that you do intend on still dating her, while being respectful.

 

[ChrisWolf]

You see I have no doubt we could get through anything, but her step mom is abusive.....and VERY short tempered, soooo idk, and there is no moving on....

Ive had 3 serious girlfriends and dated many other girls, she's different....because we have an absolutely flawless connection, the ONE thing in the world that could make et not want to be with me by any chance is her abusive parents so telling me to move on, not an option, telling me to talk to her parents, definitely not an option.

And I don't care if anyone says that it's stupid to post is on NB because frankly its not, hundreds of thousands of people from around the world view this site.....so its not stupid when I could hear so many different point of views, ideas and theories from here.

Besides this is the general discussion area, so there's nothing wrong with this.

 

[Colonel Armstrong]

court her....she is older then you and likes you over a older guy for a reason..i say keep tryna talk to her......she will come around...just be very persistant

 

[ChrisWolf]

Well, if she truly loves you, she'll forgive you. After all, you are both adults. If her parents don't approve, then that shouldn't really stop your relationship. I think you should make it clear to her and her parents that you do intend on still dating her, while being respectful.

Thank you! I agree completely.

How many people agree with this?

 

[Punk Hazard]

You see I have no doubt we could get through anything, but her step mom is abusive.....and VERY short tempered, soooo idk, and there is no moving on....

Ive had 3 serious girlfriends and dated many other girls, she's different....because we have an absolutely flawless connection, the ONE thing in the world that could make et not want to be with me by any chance is her abusive parents so telling me to move on, not an option, telling me to talk to her parents, definitely not an option.

And I don't care if anyone says that it's stupid to post is on NB because frankly its not, hundreds of thousands of people from around the world view this site.....so its not stupid when I could hear so many different point of views, ideas and theories from here.

Besides this is the general discussion area, so there's nothing wrong with this.

Dude, she's 21. How can she just let her step-mom of all people control her like that?

 

[ChrisWolf]

Dude, she's 21. How can she just let her step-mom of all people control her like that?

That's what I tell her all the time. She pays for everything she's got and pays them rent for living with them plus hey make her pay 20 bucks whenever et beds not made! So she doesnt have the money to move out because of them. So she's stuck and I keep telling her be has to stand up to them but she's such a pushover when it comes to dealing with other people, she just can't fight back....it's like impossible for her.

 

[Punk Hazard]

That's what I tell her all the time. She pays for everything she's got and pays them rent for living with them plus hey make her pay 20 bucks whenever et beds not made! So she doesnt have the money to move out because of them. So she's stuck and I keep telling her be has to stand up to them but she's such a pushover when it comes to dealing with other people, she just can't fight back....it's like impossible for her.

Then fight for her. That will help win her over A LOT. Trust me.

 

[ChrisWolf]

Then fight for her. That will help win her over A LOT. Trust me.

Trust me dude I tried but she gets pissed at me, if i do that again I'll lose her forever.

You see she cares more about what her parents think of her then anything. That's the biggest thing she just was to make them happy and at this point there's no way I would make her parents happy.

 

[Punk Hazard]

Trust me dude I tried but she gets pissed at me, if i do that again I'll lose her forever.

You see she cares more about what her parents think of her then anything. That's the biggest thing she just was to make them happy and at this point there's no way I would make her parents happy.

I see. Then try this.

Openly tell her parents what she means to you and express how much you want to fight for her.

 

[ChrisWolf]

I see. Then try this.

Openly tell her parents what she means to you and express how much you want to fight for her.

I might do that, I mean if it really comes to that. But I would have to appeal to her dad only because her step mom literally does not give a shit about her.

 

[Third Sage]

There's nothing wrong with your question, who ever say something against it, is either a 10 year old who doesn't have smarter job to do or a person with no social experience (in other words, no lifers acting smart). +rep for feeling free to share this kind of problem with the Base.

I don't really know what to say, because it's never happened to me, but you need to know that if you really love each other as much as you said you do, there's nothing in this world to stand in between you, not even her step mother. I wish you all the best in your future.

 

[Jack Spicer]

Where you naked too?


Anyways, she's an adult, as are you. You two like each other alot, so just tell the parents to trust you/us. I hope it all works out.

 

[ChrisWolf]

The Idea of nothing standing in our way because we are truly inlove would be enough for me, but frankly I feel like she truly believes its my fault, but she agreed to it and she left the bathroom door open where we're doing it so how is it entirely my fault?

 

[ChrisWolf]

Where you naked too?


Anyways, she's an adult, as are you. You two like each other alot, so just tell the parents to trust you/us. I hope it all works out.

Yes I was naked too but she doesn't see me, she only heard us talking.