[Discussion] What Can a Low Sense of Self-Worth do to you?

[ZK]

As the title says. Does anybody else have this problem? Does it affect your day? if so, how? Do you do anything to prevent it from getting too bad? In that case, what do you do?

I'm 16, and yeah, i don't think too much about myself.
I'd really hate to write a lot of personal stuff here, because i have this feeling that there'll be non-serious talk in this thread soon.
But generally it affects my day pretty much, i really have have this need for people to acknowledge my work and what i do. I'm easily depressed, not terribly depressed or anything, i've never cut myself or anything of the sort. But i can really become quite gloomy when it gets bad, and sometimes i take it out on the people i'm near at that moment. I say terrible things and overreacts, and especially music can provide me with a 'mood' to support my gloominess. I try to act high and mighty sometimes, and i almost get nausea over myself when i think about the stuff i've said and done. NB, for example, is one of the places i go to get a little boost in my confidence, it's a nice feeling to help people here, or beat someone in a fight. But it's become far too serious for me lately, i snap at the people i know from here because of insignificant things, and it's cost me some of the people i usually talked to a lot. What's your thoughts on people with this problem? Have you ever had this problem? etc.
Discuss freely.

(Please excuse my terrible grammar and spelling)

 

[Gin-San]

what problem?
This is something that everyone suffers, even a little

The necessity of being acknowledge is something that everyone strives for, and people try different styles to become known by a community.
What people fear is oblivion, the fear of being forgotten, with no one really caring about you. Some teenagers have expressed that they would do something negative in their lifes just to be acknowledged.

You are only acting like a normal teenager that feels the necessity of attention, that's all. The thing that you have to work on is how you gain the attention, which can bring negative or positive experiences depending on how you act.

 

[Passion]

*Zero's sitting on my shrink chair* It seems that you have been ignored when you were a child or you haven't gotten enough attention. Maybe that is why you're too hard on yourself... As for NB, you're getting addicted most likely.

and *takes a look at watch* this is the end of our session. Thank you for being here and I expect you to come next week again

 

[ZK]

what problem?
This is something that everyone suffers, even a little

The necessity of being acknowledge is something that everyone strives for, and people try different styles to become known by a community.
What people fear is oblivion, the fear of being forgotten, with no one really caring about you. Some teenagers have expressed that they would do something negative in their lifes just to be acknowledged.

You are only acting like a normal teenager that feels the necessity of attention, that's all. The thing that you have to work on is how you gain the attention, which can bring negative or positive experiences depending on how you act.

Maybe this is all a plot designed to gain attention?
No, but seriously, i think it's fair to call it a problem. Not all teenagers suffers from this, many find a way to give some confidence and take some, like a big trading triangle or something similar. But some people (myself included) just can't take a compliment for what it is. It becomes a problem over time.

*Zero's sitting on my shrink chair* It seems that you have been ignored when you were a child or you haven't gotten enough attention. Maybe that is why you're too hard on yourself... As for NB, you're getting addicted most likely.

and *takes a look at watch* this is the end of our session. Thank you for being here and I expect you to come next week again

I don't want to visit a psychologist...

 

[Kakashii]

ermmm i dont really get your problem there : /
thats typically the way all teenagers are so whats the problem xD
well im a teenager but i got to be honest that iv never had that sort of problems cuz im kinda arrogant and im not really ambitious so i don't try to look mighty or superior cuz iv already got good friends and i didn't have to do anything to have them on my side so thats what makes friends special
just be you and stop being ambitious when u got everything you need to live happy

 

[Wildtangent]

As the title says. Does anybody else have this problem? Does it affect your day? if so, how? Do you do anything to prevent it from getting too bad? In that case, what do you do?

I'm 16, and yeah, i don't think too much about myself.
I'd really hate to write a lot of personal stuff here, because i have this feeling that there'll be non-serious talk in this thread soon.
But generally it affects my day pretty much, i really have have this need for people to acknowledge my work and what i do. I'm easily depressed, not terribly depressed or anything, i've never cut myself or anything of the sort. But i can really become quite gloomy when it gets bad, and sometimes i take it out on the people i'm near at that moment. I say terrible things and overreacts, and especially music can provide me with a 'mood' to support my gloominess. I try to act high and mighty sometimes, and i almost get nausea over myself when i think about the stuff i've said and done. NB, for example, is one of the places i go to get a little boost in my confidence, it's a nice feeling to help people here, or beat someone in a fight. But it's become far too serious for me lately, i snap at the people i know from here because of insignificant things, and it's cost me some of the people i usually talked to a lot. What's your thoughts on people with this problem? Have you ever had this problem? etc.
Discuss freely.

(Please excuse my terrible grammar and spelling)

Well, I am no expert on this type of thing, but my opinion is that this type of thing happens to all people at least once in there life. Everyone likes to be acknowledged and given prays on the things that they do well or just the things that they do in there life. So its not not normal. Girls like attention what can i say... I love it when I get attention or when people just talk to me even if I dont know them. And its fun when other people think your a great person when maybe you dont think that greatly of yourself. I dont think there is a person (except for a select few) who think greatly of themselves. By all means I dont think I'm that great of a person but there are some people, believe it or not- that do think am an awsome person.

As for the not saying nice things to people well... I think we all have our moments where maybe we dont say the nicest of things for no reason. This may seem lame but my mom is one of my best friends (among a few others) and she is probably one of two people that knows every detail there is to know about me in all honesty. And just the other day I went off on her because she called when I wasn't in the greatest of moods. U_U

So I dont think that you have a problem I just think that your going through what just about every person goes through. And just maybe you need a hug :hug: and someone to talk too

 

[ZK]

ermmm i dont really get your problem there : /
thats typically the way all teenagers are so whats the problem xD
well im a teenager but i got to be honest that iv never had that sort of problems cuz im kinda arrogant and im not really ambitious so i don't try to look mighty or superior cuz iv already got good friends and i didn't have to do anything to have them on my side so thats what makes friends special
just be you and stop being ambitious when u got everything you need to live happy

Just be me? Why thank you. But what i've just explained IS me, so that won't work.
Stop being ambitious? I'm being ambitious because when i do something good, or learn something new and gets a pad on the back for it, i feels good, and it makes me feel good about myself.
I got everything i need to live happy? But i don't, that's the whole point o_o I want to have everything i need, but i don't. That's why i work to become better at stuff.

 

[Kakashii]

Just be me? Why thank you. But what i've just explained IS me, so that won't work.
Stop being ambitious? I'm being ambitious because when i do something good, or learn something new and gets a pad on the back for it, i feels good, and it makes me feel good about myself.
I got everything i need to live happy? But i don't, that's the whole point o_o I want to have everything i need, but i don't. That's why i work to become better at stuff.

for god sake why the hell do i try to help teenagers when they haven't got any fcking problem -_-
the most stupid thing that happens to a person when alive is be a fcking teenager!
i dont hate myself i hate the others because they can't think like i do and believe me if u knew me really well u would know what im talking about -_-

 

[Gin-San]

Maybe this is all a plot designed to gain attention?
No, but seriously, i think it's fair to call it a problem. Not all teenagers suffers from this, many find a way to give some confidence and take some, like a big trading triangle or something similar. But some people (myself included) just can't take a compliment for what it is. It becomes a problem over time.



I don't want to visit a psychologist...

In this case you are suffering from low auto-esteem
All teenagers (which I have talk too, I have been studying psychology) always strive for acknowledgement.
Some just don't have a problem doing so because they are talented talking to other people, and trying to solve the problems of others before their own, but this way is easier for them to solve their own.
Some just prefer to stay quiet and solve them in their own, afraid that they will be mocked or judged. If they are unable to do it in their own, they go somewhere were their identity is disclosed, like a forum.

I suggest that you get to know yourself better, try to meditate or look for your personality trait, which will help you understand who you are.

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After this, you should talk to a family member or a friend you deeply trust, this would play a major factor in your life.

 

[Wildtangent]

Just be me? Why thank you. But what i've just explained IS me, so that won't work.
Stop being ambitious? I'm being ambitious because when i do something good, or learn something new and gets a pad on the back for it, i feels good, and it makes me feel good about myself. I got everything i need to live happy? But i don't, that's the whole point o_o I want to have everything i need, but i don't. That's why i work to become better at stuff.

Everyone is like that. Everyone likes doing well and everyone stides/dreams to have everything they want in there life.

 

[Sonne]

Maybe this is all a plot designed to gain attention?
No, but seriously, i think it's fair to call it a problem. Not all teenagers suffers from this, many find a way to give some confidence and take some, like a big trading triangle or something similar. But some people (myself included) just can't take a compliment for what it is. It becomes a problem over time.



I don't want to visit a psychologist...

Well,now a Psychologist visits you.

It is not anything of the likes Perry mentioned,it is Puberty.

 

[Gin-San]

Well,now a Psychologist visits you.

It is not anything of the likes Perry mentioned,it is Puberty.

you just hit the jackpot there

 

[Passion]

Well,now a Psychologist visits you.

It is not anything of the likes Perry mentioned,it is Puberty.

Athazagoraphobia is all that there is to say.

 

[Sonne]

Athazagoraphobia is all that there is to say.

Or a severe case of JustinBieberlicious.

 

[Passion]

Or a severe case of JustinBieberlicious.

Good god! Better shoot him before the singing starts.

 

[Kakashii]

Or a severe case of JustinBieberlicious.

HAHAHAHAAHHAHAHHA xD

 

[meimei]

As the title says. Does anybody else have this problem? Does it affect your day? if so, how? Do you do anything to prevent it from getting too bad? In that case, what do you do?...

(Please excuse my terrible grammar and spelling)

I do the opposite and just take everything and can't react... I think your way is healthier and you can overcome this, no problem ^_^

Don't internalise too much. Deal with how you feel straight away in a calm way or it will get worse. If you feel depressed or upset (we all do from time to time), do something nice for yourself or go out for a walk... this does help.

Whatever happens, don't let anything make you feel this unhappy and you write really well!!! ^_^

 

[Wildtangent]

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I'd really hate to write a lot of personal stuff here, because i have this feeling that there'll be non-serious talk in this thread soon.

Or a severe case of JustinBieberlicious.

Good god! Better shoot him before the singing starts.

HAHAHAHAAHHAHAHHA xD

looks like you called it there Zero... U_U

 

[Kurisutina]

As the title says. Does anybody else have this problem? Does it affect your day? if so, how? Do you do anything to prevent it from getting too bad? In that case, what do you do?

I'm 16, and yeah, i don't think too much about myself.
I'd really hate to write a lot of personal stuff here, because i have this feeling that there'll be non-serious talk in this thread soon.
But generally it affects my day pretty much, i really have have this need for people to acknowledge my work and what i do. I'm easily depressed, not terribly depressed or anything, i've never cut myself or anything of the sort. But i can really become quite gloomy when it gets bad, and sometimes i take it out on the people i'm near at that moment. I say terrible things and overreacts, and especially music can provide me with a 'mood' to support my gloominess. I try to act high and mighty sometimes, and i almost get nausea over myself when i think about the stuff i've said and done. NB, for example, is one of the places i go to get a little boost in my confidence, it's a nice feeling to help people here, or beat someone in a fight. But it's become far too serious for me lately, i snap at the people i know from here because of insignificant things, and it's cost me some of the people i usually talked to a lot. What's your thoughts on people with this problem? Have you ever had this problem? etc.
Discuss freely.

(Please excuse my terrible grammar and spelling)

This is normal, everyone experiences this gloominess. Especially around our age, 16, hormones begin to change as everyone says and this can affect how our brain perceives things. So if things get you down more easily, it's not just you but a lot of other people your age too. The music doesn't help much either, music directly affects the brain so depending on the type of music and how you respond to it, it can easily change your mood. Music has been shown to change one's mood and when you are still growing, it can more easily change things within your brain.

If you feel that your gloominess is affecting those around you, maybe you should try and step out of the room for a few seconds and let it pass by, I know that is what I do. Acting high and mighty is normal for teens, it's almost built-in from generation to generation so the way you're acting is probablly normal. Now, you feel nausous when you think about what you have done but I think that you're thinking about the negative things that you've done and not the acomplishments that you've done or the friends and family you have. And maybe explaining this to them like you have with us, could help them understand this "problem".

As a final note, I too have experienced this problem so I know what it's like to snap at people that are close to you. I know that you will probablly get past this and I bet that you're probablly a really nice person in truth and can help those around you.

 

[Kakashii]

my advice...just go with the flow and become a emo xD
u just need to feel really sad and isolate ur self from the world and then get a bunch of friends that really care about you and problem solved
but seriously wake up cuz the sadness will do the job -_-
(btw iv never been a emo)