were you parents in love or seemed in an arrangement

[HashiraMadara]

People around the world don't want to admit that majority of relationships are simply arrangements. A puzzle just piece joined to reveal an admirable picture to the public. <== This happens due to traditions , social and economic status and simply influence.

You would hear things like "he's not my type", "looks matter" and see generally celebreties marry each other, Royalties etc. Tell me how are these not arranged relationships(even you I am sure someone must meet some "requirements before you date him/her".

Even the economic status plays a huge role. Any guy would know if a girl is of a higher economic status than you and she KNOWS it, your work is cut in half to get her.

The biggest misconception seems to be "these kinda relationships never last". From what I seeing they seem to last longer the coined "true love". Since both know they're in it for something. Meanwhile "true love" seem to be mostly destroying both individuals within.

So I will ask: Did you parents looked like they are in love or seemed to be acting a lengthy movie around you.

 

[kowaiyo]

most of the times especially when we kids are around they;re just like other married couple for more than 10 years. A companion type of relationship.
But they have their moments especially when they are alone together where they are sweet like a new couple.
My two siblings move to another town and it's just the three of us now, they are more open to that kind of affection now.

Idk which i prefer more tho. When they were casual or when they are cringey.. But i love that they love each other.

 

[Kushina89]

they were and still are.. sadly you will see less true love if it keeps going like the way it is now..

media has manipulated us to the point that what only matters is, money, fame, sleeping around and doing it like brainless *** craved rabbits, if you don't follow the 'trend' you're ugly/outsider and being selfish...
not saying there isn't people out there who really care for their partner, but most of the time it ends like this

 

[HashiraMadara]

they were and still are.. sadly you will see less true love if it keeps going like the way it is now..

media has manipulated us to the point that what only matters is, money, fame, sleeping around and doing it like brainless *** craved rabbits, if you don't follow the 'trend' you're ugly/outsider and being selfish...
not saying there isn't people out there who really care for their partner, but most of the time it ends like this

Well your mistake is thinking arranged relationship partners don't care for each other. Each partner is protecting his/her reputation, so s/he won't let his/her partner fall to shame :sdo:

 

[Byakuya K]

Yeah, they were. At least I think they were because marriage doesn't always happen when people are in love. There are a lot of factors in life that can contribute to such decisions and I feel like it just depends on the couple

 

[DominiqueX]

My parents were in love and didn't care about what other people thought, what reputation they got or what their financial status was. Me growing up with a parental couple like this is one of the major reasons why I cherish true love so much and why I'll always fight against shallow arrangements and pitiful people who only care about their image in a society or their financial situation, even if it's the vast majority. I rather am an outsider than belonging to a crappy group of people.

 

[HashiraMadara]

My parents were in love and didn't care about what other people thought, what reputation they got or what their financial status was. Me growing up with a parental couple like this is one of the major reasons why I cherish true love so much and why I'll always fight against shallow arrangements and pitiful people who only care about their image in a society or their financial situation, even if it's the vast majority.

How's this going out for you at the moment
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btw your cat learned to love you. It was not a love in first sight.

I rather am an outsider than belonging to a crappy group of people.

Well the word crappy is relative :sdo:

 

[DominiqueX]

How's this going out for you at the moment

I've always been single so far, so what? I don't give a shit about people who think there has to be a time plan for such things, like, "the first kiss and first *** in teenage years, getting married in the mid 20's and then have children when around 30 years old." or whatever. I'm not in a rush and I don't waste myself and my love for people who are not worth it.

btw your cat learned to love you. It was not a love in first sight.

Please don't talk about things of which you have no idea. Out of all cats that were at the animal emergency relief center, our cat was the one that came to us and jumped on our laps and wanted to stay. It actually was love at first sight, from both sides.

 

[Mari Makinami]

Mine were and still are in love even after 25 years of being together

 

[HashiraMadara]

I've always been single so far, so what? I don't give a shit about people who think there has to be a time plan for such things, like, "the first kiss and first *** in teenage years, getting married in the mid 20's and then have children when around 30 years old." or whatever. I'm not in a rush and I don't waste myself and my love for people who are not worth it.

If NB was indefinite, I would quote you 10 years later and ask again "how is it going out for you"...

Please don't talk about things of which you have no idea. Out of all cats that were at the animal emergency relief center, our cat was the one that came to us and jumped on our laps and wanted to stay. It actually was love at first sight, from both sides.

very cute

 

[-PK-]

My parents had an arranged marriage so there's that.

As for me, I just want someone I'll be compatible with.
Relationships are kind of a hit or miss.
It might work out in the beginning but may fall apart later on.
Or it might not work in the beginning but work later on (this is usually rare from my experience xD)
Circumstances bring a lot of uncertainties.

So in my opinion, you can only try till it works out with someone.

 

[Bad Touch Yakushi]

I'd prefer a casual relationship. I hate the idea of marriage and am convinced the modern version of the relationship turns people against each other.

 

[HashiraMadara]

My parents had an arranged marriage so there's that.

As for me, I just want someone I'll be compatible with.
Relationships are kind of a hit or miss.
It might work out in the beginning but may fall apart later on.
Circumstances bring a lot of uncertainties.

So in my opinion, you can only try till it works out with someone.

A lot of people don't want to admit what you're saying. :sdo:

 

[Deadlift]

I'd prefer a casual relationship. I hate the idea of marriage and am convinced the modern version of the relationship turns people against each other.

You're the opposite of me lol

 

[HashiraMadara]

I'd prefer a casual relationship. I hate the idea of marriage and am convinced the modern version of the relationship turns people against each other.

I look at marriage as sort of time saver. Instead of building many relationships from start many times and wasting a lot of times on them, marriage enables you to put the "love life" time occupant aside and focus on other things instead of "I need someone to love/I need a gf" running through your mind every time.

 

[Callypigia]

People around the world don't want to admit that majority of relationships are simply arrangements. A puzzle just piece joined to reveal an admirable picture to the public. <== This happens due to traditions , social and economic status and simply influence.

You would hear things like "he's not my type", "looks matter" and see generally celebreties marry each other, Royalties etc. Tell me how are these not arranged relationships(even you I am sure someone must meet some "requirements before you date him/her".

Even the economic status plays a huge role. Any guy would know if a girl is of a higher economic status than you and she KNOWS it, your work is cut in half to get her.

The biggest misconception seems to be "these kinda relationships never last". From what I seeing they seem to last longer the coined "true love". Since both know they're in it for something. Meanwhile "true love" seem to be mostly destroying both individuals within.

So I will ask: Did you parents looked like they are in love or seemed to be acting a lengthy movie around you.

Who is denying that many cultures continue to perpetuate arranged marriages? That is an institution as old as civilization; using women as currency to increase monetary wealth, land, claim to titles, and even peace treaties. I wouldn't argue against "true love," but I do believe too many people get married confusing "true love" with temporary infatuation. It's fleeting, and often just physical. It's nice to see that older couple that has been married for 30 years that still acts like head-over-heels teenagers. I don't know enough couples in arranged marriages to really have an opinion about that side.

 

[Bad Touch Yakushi]

I look at marriage as sort of time saver. Instead of building many relationships from start many times and wasting a lot of times on them, marriage enables you to put the "love life" time occupant aside and focus on other things instead of "I need someone to love/I need a gf" running through your mind every time.

It's also just a very warped outdated medieval concept that encourages bad behaviour from both genders due to social conditioning :')

But thaaaaat's just me i'm aware. You're not wrong and i'm sure i'll succumb to it one day, but i'm not even going to date for another decade after my last attempt. Almost finished me. I just really don't want to deal with male-biased divorce settlement laws and growing to hate the other person I should cherish most. The part you want to save time on....is the best part IMO.

Imagine when the marriage fails and you're left with nothing because of the huge investment of time you've put into this one person through the years. I believe term is 'putting all your eggs in one basket' and can't even imagine what it's like post-marriage.

 

[-PK-]

A lot of people don't want to admit what you're saying. :sdo:

Some people need to look at examples from other places than the ones they are used to at times .

I look at marriage as sort of time saver. Instead of building many relationships from start many times and wasting a lot of times on them, marriage enables you to put the "love life" time occupant aside and focus on other things instead of "I need someone to love/I need a gf" running through your mind every time.

That can be termed as a matter of preference tbh.
Like you can even have a life long partner without even having to marry them.

Some people view marriage as a duty.
Where the couple is expected to just eventually have to work things out with each other for themselves and their families (usually the case in arranged marriages).
They can most of the times, but then again there are couple who can't and never will be able to.

Similarly other people might think that they want to marry someone with whom they have already worked everything out..
And again this can usually work but can change with some kind of accident in life, financial trouble, family pressure etc etc.

 

[HashiraMadara]

Who is denying that many cultures continue to perpetuate arranged marriages? That is an institution as old as civilization; using women as currency to increase monetary wealth, land, claim to titles, and even peace treaties. I wouldn't argue against "true love," but I do believe too many people get married confusing "true love" with temporary infatuation. It's fleeting, and often just physical. It's nice to see that older couple that has been married for 30 years that still acts like head-over-heels teenagers. I don't know enough couples in arranged marriages to really have an opinion about that side.

My friend arranged marriages are not only the discussed marriages. Have a "type" or having "looks matter" <== This is an arrangement because that "someone" met your requirements so you decided to date them but many people are too naïve to admit their relationship is just an arranged one.

Marrying a rich man, sexy man, intelligent man etc these are arrangements. You laid a requirement and it was met meaning you then had a relationship after ticking the box.

 

[HashiraMadara]

That can be termed as a matter of preference tbh.
Like you can even have a life long partner without even having to marry them.

Yeah, well sometimes people feel a ring will let the partner be reminded of her loyalties when thinking something. sort of like a leash on a dog.

Some people view marriage as a duty.
Where the couple is expected to just eventually have to work things out with each other for themselves and their families (usually the case in arranged marriages).
They can most of the times, but then again there are couple who can't and never will be able to.

Similarly other people might think that they want to marry someone with whom they have already worked everything out..
And again this can usually work but can change with some kind of accident in life, financial trouble, family pressure etc etc.

True