Sorry if this is in the wrong section guys. But I'm looking for some serious help. 
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Met this girl back on February 20 and our first date was indeed 50 Shades of Grey. But anyway, she has a 3 year old kid with another man. Someone I thought was out of the picture until about May 16 when I found out she was in fact engaged and still technically dating him. It fell as a huge shock and from May 16 all the way until just recent, it's been one heck of a roller coaster. Over and over she told me, her mom, her other boyfriend, her friends and mostly herself that she didn't love him and she loved me and wanted to be with me. She would've left him a couple years ago if it wasn't for the child. How do I know this, she's sent me text message conversations with all the above people I just mentioned.
So I know she wasn't lying and she really did want me. But even then, I kept asking why she wouldn't just leave him and be with me and be done with him. The guy has cheated on her several times and has always been verbally abusive. Sounds like a jerk to my knowledge. But anyway, she never gave me a solid reason why she couldn't. She just said that she couldn't at the moment and she was "trying to end it". Well since May 16, a lot of messy text conversations have happened, but just last Sunday(July 12) she tells me the guy "surprised" her with a new house. She said she was angry about it, but she still tells me she's moving in with him in 3 weeks. (early August). She said it wasn't going to work and that they would separate and she would just afford the place alone and just start welcoming me over there. At this point I was just beyond pissed after dealing with everything. I gave her the ultimatum, "it's either him or me. choose now". She didn't text me for a whole day. Finally she called and wanted me to talk to her boyfriend. Obviously the conversation didn't go well and her boyfriend hated me. She was beyond freaking out herself at this point and cut contact with me for another day.
Then BOOM, within just 24 hours. I get a hold of her. She's mean to me. Telling me to leave her and her family alone. And she's moving in with him still. So then she didn't talk to me for about 2 days. But after about 2 days of no talking she finally texted me back on a private Facebook account apologizing and feeling bad about everything. She was still angry with the situation, but she would at least talk to me like we used to. She also confirmed that her boyfriend and her are still not doing well and it's not going well. So she said possibly in the future, she might take me back. Finally, today I gave her 1 more ultimatum. I asked if giving her space to finally make up her mind would help. She said yes. We stopped talking on a good note and the ultimatum is set for now. I know it might be 1-2 months until I hear from her. Or maybe never again.
Sorry I wrote so much, but this has been one hell of a 2 month period for me. Just wondering what y'alls take on it is? I would greatly appreciate some input guys. Thank you.
Very sincerely, Steinbiz!
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Met this girl back on February 20 and our first date was indeed 50 Shades of Grey. But anyway, she has a 3 year old kid with another man. Someone I thought was out of the picture until about May 16 when I found out she was in fact engaged and still technically dating him. It fell as a huge shock and from May 16 all the way until just recent, it's been one heck of a roller coaster. Over and over she told me, her mom, her other boyfriend, her friends and mostly herself that she didn't love him and she loved me and wanted to be with me. She would've left him a couple years ago if it wasn't for the child. How do I know this, she's sent me text message conversations with all the above people I just mentioned.
So I know she wasn't lying and she really did want me. But even then, I kept asking why she wouldn't just leave him and be with me and be done with him. The guy has cheated on her several times and has always been verbally abusive. Sounds like a jerk to my knowledge. But anyway, she never gave me a solid reason why she couldn't. She just said that she couldn't at the moment and she was "trying to end it". Well since May 16, a lot of messy text conversations have happened, but just last Sunday(July 12) she tells me the guy "surprised" her with a new house. She said she was angry about it, but she still tells me she's moving in with him in 3 weeks. (early August). She said it wasn't going to work and that they would separate and she would just afford the place alone and just start welcoming me over there. At this point I was just beyond pissed after dealing with everything. I gave her the ultimatum, "it's either him or me. choose now". She didn't text me for a whole day. Finally she called and wanted me to talk to her boyfriend. Obviously the conversation didn't go well and her boyfriend hated me. She was beyond freaking out herself at this point and cut contact with me for another day.
Then BOOM, within just 24 hours. I get a hold of her. She's mean to me. Telling me to leave her and her family alone. And she's moving in with him still. So then she didn't talk to me for about 2 days. But after about 2 days of no talking she finally texted me back on a private Facebook account apologizing and feeling bad about everything. She was still angry with the situation, but she would at least talk to me like we used to. She also confirmed that her boyfriend and her are still not doing well and it's not going well. So she said possibly in the future, she might take me back. Finally, today I gave her 1 more ultimatum. I asked if giving her space to finally make up her mind would help. She said yes. We stopped talking on a good note and the ultimatum is set for now. I know it might be 1-2 months until I hear from her. Or maybe never again.
Sorry I wrote so much, but this has been one hell of a 2 month period for me. Just wondering what y'alls take on it is? I would greatly appreciate some input guys. Thank you.
Very sincerely, Steinbiz!
