should I help her?

[AP2k]

Umm, make better life choices. That is my advice to you.

 

[Sasunarufan13]

Well, you only met her a week ago so your bond with her isn't that strong yet, I suspect.
I'd suggest you urge her to go talk to her parents about it. I find it strange that her parents apparently don't know she failed school - how is she going to explain that when the school year starts again? - so she needs to talk about that to them as well.
Ask her if the father wants to be with her - he's the father, so he should be the one who decides with her about the baby.
There's not much you can do: you don't know her that well yet and her family and boyfriend are better suited to help her with the baby, especially if she wants to have an abortion.
Besides, even if you brought her to a doctor, she would still get a week to decide whether she wants to go through with the abortion or not (at least that's how it's done here; you get a week to decide)
This situation is very delicate - you better tell her to tell her parents about this. She's going to need them during this time.
Of course you can support her and help her, but well, it's probably for the best if her parents knew about this situation. Especially because you apparently only know her for a week or so.
I hope this helped a bit ^^;

 

[Shinobi Train]

Well, personally I would contact the parents and inform them of the situation. Make her realize the consequences of her actions for once in her life instead of just letting her skip by and shove everything under a carpet. If you can't control your body, then other people need to control it for you.

Getting pregnant at 17 tells me this girl is out of control. She should raise the child and maybe through that experience she'll gain some sense of responsibility. Of course, the kid might suffer for it, but if the girls parents are there to help it might work out just fine. Abortion is murder. It would seem that every species on the planet gets protection from us, but we kill our own.

This girl seriously needs help, and the father also needs to take responsibility. If she's been sleeping around a lot, then that also needs to be brought to the attention of her parents. If her dad is any kind of a man, he'll deal with this. Otherwise I would suspect she'd headed straight for a stripper pole.

 

[Crocodile]

Stick it in before you stick the coat hanger in.

 

[Punk Hazard]

This may seem a bit harsh, but if it was me, I probably won't get involved much. You've known this girl for a shorter time than a fruitfly lives. I would tell her what I need to say: "That fetus in you is a human. No matter what the definition of "human" is, that fetus is a human You know that's it's, for a fact, a human because you are human and that's all that can be reproduced by you. The fact that it was formed from human sperm and human ovaries makes it human. Only humans can be made from humans. That human has done nothing wrong. It has been given life, there's no reason it should be taken away because YOU f*cked up. YOU made a mistake, if the baby will be a burden to you, then that is what you deserve, that is what YOU EARNED from your actions."

That would all I would say/ From then on, it's up to her.

I can't tell you what to do, but I can give you some advice on what NOT to do:

Don't take it into your own hands. If she decides to get an abortion, then that is her choice. If you think you have a shot to talk her out of it, then by all means, go ahead. Don't try to FORCE her to not have it.

 

[Chatte]

Why do I have the feeling that you're more into this, not just a simple friend? Usually people tend to say it's for a friend when their implication is more than that. Anyway IF I am wrong, please accept my apologies.

But, the thing is that you need to talk to her parents, that's the best you can do. Because think at the consequences that might follow if you help her abort the child. Are you sure you want to stand them out?

As well, is she sure she's pregnant? How late is she? There are a lot of factors when pregnant. Did she do a pregnancy test or a medical check? Even though rare, pregnancy tests might be wrong, whereas medical checks never are wrong.

If she really is, she should tell her parents or look for counseling.
As well she should talk with the boy she was left pregnant by. It's not like she did it by herself.

Once again, there are a lot of factors. You just don't get pregnant like this.
Maybe she just caught a cold and she's late. Trust me, I know what I'm talking.
But if not... her parents or some abilitated counselor or something.

 

[Grim]

hi,
So this girl (she is 17) I met just a week ago (but she just lives next door) contacted me a week ago. Being 21 myself, I though it was really strange.But I just played along and we (kinda) became friends. she texted me today and told me that she is pregnent and asked me if i could take her to a doctor and help her kill the baby.

I have never been in this kind of situation so i donno what to do.I can't tell my friends irl cause they "know" her.

What do u think?

It would be so easy to just mind my own business but would it but right?

PS: she also failled this year (at school) but lied to her parents about it


EDIT: I know this is a manga forum but tis the only only i visit. so please vote so I know what corse of action i should take

Do what she wants to do, she's 17 having baby in this age without father.. well her life could be ****ed pretty hard. help her :shrug:

 

[Finn]

have brutal *** with her

 

[Rice]

While this may sound mean you should not help her. It could lead to a misunderstanding and you could be in trouble. She should talk to her parents.

 

[ChrisWolf]

have brutal *** with her

There we go! I knew there was some golden oprah advice somewhere in NB

 

[DanUchiha57]

Personally I dont think you should get involved,she might think more of you and want you to take care of her baby.And you probably dont want that.Sorry if I'm being mean but i'm being honest.

PS:I'm the baby's father lmao: jk).

 

[EliteKakashi]

And also there is a reason why condoms were invented -.-

And birth control.

And Plan B.

There's just too many preventions for pregnancy for me to believe that "accidents happen" bullshit that so many teens give. I truly do not understand the majority of people in this world. The lack of common sense is astounding.

In regards to this, if she's dumb enough to get pregnant, she deserves the consequences that would come from telling her parents. And if she feels she's "responsible enough" to make decisions such as having sexual relations with someone else, she's "responsible enough" to go and take care of her own problems.

I hope that she either chooses the adoption path or abortion path, because no child deserves or asks to be put in to a situation like she's more likely than not to put it in if she keeps it.

 

[DanUchiha57]

And birth control.

And Plan B.

There's just too many preventions for pregnancy for me to believe that "accidents happen" bullshit that so many teens give. I truly do not understand the majority of people in this world. The lack of common sense is astounding.

In regards to this, if she's dumb enough to get pregnant, she deserves the consequences that would come from telling her parents. And if she feels she's "responsible enough" to make decisions such as having sexual relations with someone else, she's "responsible enough" to go and take care of her own problems.

I hope that she either chooses the adoption path or abortion path, because no child deserves or asks to be put in to a situation like she's more likely than not to put it in if she keeps it.

I agree I bet half the people on the base who are teenagers dont even know what Plan B is.For those of you who dont know what Plan B is search it (especially if your having ***) and do some research emergency contraception pills.

And on another point about being pregnant,what is happening to our generation, I mean people from our generation are idiots.They choose to have *** way too early and then the girl ends up pregnant.And then the girl's like "how could this happen?" and I'm like what dafuq "you know how this happened,you chose to have *** with your boyfriend(who was probably only using you for ***) and he chose not to use a condom.Now your pregnant and he probably going to leave you.And I'm sorry if I sound mean but it the truth.And then when you have your baby your going to have to drop out of high school and get a job to be able to raise your kid.

I also really hate tv shows on MTV like "Teen Mom" and "16 and Pregnant".I mean all the girl seem really "ghetto"(Sorry if that sounds racist I dont mean it to) or really stupid.Then the all girls complaining about not having a social life anymore,or how they have to stay up all night feeding/changing/taking care of the baby, and how much of a dead beat baby daddy their boyfriends are.

And that only the girl now to not seem sexist "because the girl didn't create the baby by herself".The guys on these show are also really "ghetto"(again what I say above) and stupid.They never choose to man up and take responsibility of their mistakes.They usually abandon the girl and baby or try to stay with the girl but are dead beats.And always start arguments or fight with the girl.And then there's the type of guy who stay in contact with the girl,but only come to see his kids once every blue moon.

I'm not saying that every teenage girl and guy will be like this if their going to have a kid.There are some guys like Me who are actually nice guys and will stay with the girl,and get a job and help raise their kids.And there are those girls who wont bitch or complain about having a kid and actually mature to be good mother.Praise to all of you teen guys and gals who actually mature to be good teenage parents.

 

[Anorien16]

Well legally speaking ur not a relative or guardian of that girl so there may be consequences if u take her there . . .

U wld be best if u tell her parents and ask them not to mention ur name in any case . . . . if not ask her if she ever heard of a condom and dont talk to her for at least 9 months.

 

[Rot]

its her body she can do what she wants, its up to you to decide to help her or not, but don't let dogmas cloud your judgement, its honestly none of your business as to why she wants an abortion, all she is asking for is a ride.

She can have it and give it up for adoption at the cost of her body going through hell

She can have it and keep it, thus ending her own life at the tender age of 17, so much work and money goes into taking care of a child

She can abort it (obviously she's decided) and try to move on with her life

All you have to decide is giving her a ride or not, not like you have to go in and hold her hand during it.

 

[Bulbasaur]

just help her out, you'll get over the guilt sooner or later...

 

[~Yubel~]

She wants help and your 21, think you can afford helping her kill the baby and don´t come to me with "it´s a life".
People die everyday, you shouldn´t get stuck up on your conscience, the baby is really none of your business anyway, it´s all for the greater good.

Or somehow have her gone for 9 months so their parents don´t know and adopt the baby once its born.

 

[benIncher]

Just drive her to the hospital, but don't make a thing of it. Treat as if you are simply giving her a lift, like, to a shop or something... If she doesn't want to keep the baby, then she isn't obligated to. I'm guessing you are in america, the girl being a minor, so, wouldn't the Doctor have to inform her parents that she had been knocked up?

 

[-God of War-]

hi,
So this girl (she is 17) I met just a week ago (but she just lives next door) contacted me a week ago. Being 21 myself, I though it was really strange.But I just played along and we (kinda) became friends. she texted me today and told me that she is pregnent and asked me if i could take her to a doctor and help her kill the baby.

I have never been in this kind of situation so i donno what to do.I can't tell my friends irl cause they "know" her.

What do u think?

It would be so easy to just mind my own business but would it but right?

PS: she also failled this year (at school) but lied to her parents about it


EDIT: I know this is a manga forum but tis the only only i visit. so please vote so I know what corse of action i should take

No! I know it might sound a bit mean, but you should think first.
She needed help so she became friend with you. She thinks you will say yes cause you are her friend. But stay out of this situation. Maby she will lie at the doctor saying that you did *** with her. You may get in trouble. A good suggestion of mine is, that if her parents don't know about this problem too, try to say this to them(her parents).