Saying "I love you" too much is meaningless?

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How? What if that person really meant it? How would it be "meaningless"?What if that person couldn't show it good because they were in a long distance relationship?
 
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Because it loses value if u actually say it 20 times a day. Actions speak louder than words, if you mean it prove it, stating it more than once doesn't have the same effect as it does the first time, you must say it limitedly while actually proving it to the point where u don't need to overuse it
 

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Because it loses value if u actually say it 20 times a day. Actions speak louder than words, if you mean it prove it, stating it more than once doesn't have the same effect as it does the first time, you must say it limitedly while actually proving it to the point where u don't need to overuse it

Value is determined by the individual not the actions.
 

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love isnt something you say. its something you proof.
 

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Because it loses value if u actually say it 20 times a day. Actions speak louder than words, if you mean it prove it, stating it more than once doesn't have the same effect as it does the first time, you must say it limitedly while actually proving it to the point where u don't need to overuse it
Yea I know but what about people in long distance relationships?
 

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I don't know if it becomes meaningless. I have had someone tell me "I love you" more than my mother has in my entire life.
 

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think of it this way: if saying "I love you" X amount of times causes it to lose all meaning, and saying it less makes it more meaningful, then by that logic not saying it at all gives it maximum meaning. now that simply doesnt make sense . . . thing is, the word by itself doesnt mean anything (regardless of how many times its said. or not) if the person isnt sincere. and their sincerty is proved through their attitude, behaviour and morals - not only towards you, but ANYONE. for example, if that person makes it a habit to be nasty, hateful etc towards others, remember that you can easily become one of those "others" at any time . . . just try to keep a level head when judging their character. this can easily clouded by feelings though. also, being able to excite your feelings isnt proof of love in any way
 

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Some people need to hear or say it more often than others.
The frequency has nothing to do with the depth of the feeling.
 

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I'm in a long distance relationship and I say it a lot.

Eh, we both do. We don't have a problem with it and it doesn't necessarily lose it's potency because we both know the feeling is there.​
 

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I don't think saying it too much is meaningless if you mean it, but it's commonly used without the true feeling of love behind it nowadays. If I tell someone I love them, it's rare because I take my love of people seriously, the people I love can be counted on one hand.
 

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Supply and demand. Say it too much and it is no longer a rare commodity. Say it at the end of every text or something and it becomes a formality. Value goes down, therefore they stop desiring it.

Love is always about leaving the other wanting. People don't love each other without wanting something. Devaluing a phrase that has such emotional pull when its value is high, is unwise if you want them to stay. (or in other words, if you want them to "want.")

Regardless I personally don't take much stock into words anyways.
 
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I prefer not to spam it to my gf. I only want to say it when I'm really in the moment, emotionally or else it has bo meaning. Still I have to say it to please her
 

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If you say it too much, it loses it's meaning because it's holds no brevity, it becomes the norm - like taking a shower or eating.
 

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Let's say for some those three words are like a jewel that will sparkle forever but for some it's like a Rose that withers after a week and they want to keep it fresh .

and saying it many times a day will make it like a normal 3 words, we use too often .
 

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I'm in a long distance relationship and I say it a lot.

Eh, we both do. We don't have a problem with it and it doesn't necessarily lose it's potency because we both know the feeling is there.​

Eh...

With "her" I used to say it a good amount of the time, and it was only when we'd both reciprocate it.
 

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You're the only one who can give the word meaning. If someone tells you it's meaningless show them it's not.
 

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Saying anything too much becomes meaningless.
 

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Supply and demand. Say it too much and it is no longer a rare commodity. Say it at the end of every text or something and it becomes a formality. Value goes down, therefore they stop desiring it.

Love is always about leaving the other wanting. People don't love each other without wanting something. Devaluing a phrase that has such emotional pull when its value is high, is unwise if you want them to stay. (or in other words, if you want them to "want.")

Regardless I personally don't take much stock into words anyways.
I disagree; love is about how much you can give, not how much you can take. True love, that is. However, with a lot of people, there is merit to this post.

Some people grow accustomed to saying it habitually and use it in commonplace of goodbye, for instance. Others still claim it holds the same value every time.
I'm in a long distance relationship and I say it a lot.

Eh, we both do. We don't have a problem with it and it doesn't necessarily lose it's potency because we both know the feeling is there.​
Like Crossroads here. It's not the words that matter per se, it's in how you say them and the feeling behind it.


My girlfriend and I say it quite often, and it's still very fresh to us despite being together for over over 4 years now. But we both say it with pride and take the phrase itself quite serious. It's very special to have somebody's love and just because it's expressed often doesn't have to decrease it's value.
 
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