Roomate at college.

Sakura Michiko · Oct 28, 2014

I'm not really sure how to word this. My roommate is a freshman (in college)and she is really reeaaaly inconsiderate. She likes to come in the room at like 2 am on the phone or with some guy or her boyfriend and wakes me up and tells me I have to deal with it.I feel really uncomfortable when she does that because sometimes I'm not dress appropriate at night and she come in with a guy or something. One time the guy didn't want to leave and I had to start fussing. I reported this girl to the RA but when the RA came to talk to her and me she couldn't find my roommate and I told her my roommate doesn't stay in the room.The girl slept here 4 times so far. She comes at like 1-2 am some nights and get clothes to go to her boyfriends dorm. I tried to reason with this girl and ask her to come ealier than 2 or make less noise or text me but she does like she can understand that or don't care. I also told her it's dangerous for her to be out late like that and coming in the room at those hours because it's possible that something bad could happen to us females but she had a "I don't care" attitude so I told her I was going to lock the door at 2 am because it was really late and she got mad and said "You can't do that because I live here too. I don't know what time I'll come in the room.What if I want to come in after 2 am?!" and I was like "Why don't you come before 2 am? We wouldn't be having this problem if you come earlier." And she was just mad and left. She does like I'm dirty and my friends are dirty and if one of my friend's is setting on her bed she does like my friend is dirty. I don't understand this because my roommate always come in the room with B.O and change cloths but never put on deodorant. This girl doesn't even clean the room or have cleaning supply. I clean up. What would you guys do if you had to deal someone like that? Would you lock the room door at 2 am?

HashiraMadara SenjUchiha · Oct 28, 2014

at least you have that in college #My_Brother is a nightmare at home

uchihamad · Oct 28, 2014

You should lock the door at 2 am and sleep. Sleep > Roommate.

Sakura Michiko · Oct 28, 2014

HashiMadds said:
at least you have that in college #My_Brother is a nightmare at home

Wow, when I'm at home I don't have to worry about that cause. I have no siblings.

Sakura Michiko · Oct 28, 2014

uchihamad said:
you should lock the doo at 2 am and sleep. Sleep > Roommate.

Okay thank you.

Oddity · Oct 28, 2014

Not really getting the last half of the post.Is she dirty or is it your friend that she is accusing of being dirty ?

Anyway,given that its a dorm you can talk to her and try and discuss a routine you can both abide and live by but,the thing is you can't force her into it.

She has equal rights to the dorm and she is not a child and is allowed to be out at night.
Unfortunate perhaps but,its not something you have a right to get mad over.

Sakura Michiko · Oct 28, 2014

Oddity said:
Not really getting the last half of the post.Is she dirty or is it your friend that she is accusing of being dirty ?

Anyway,given that its a dorm you can talk to her and try and discuss a routine you can both abide and live by but,the thing is you can't force her into it.

She has equal rights to the dorm and she is not a child and is allowed to be out at night.
Unfortunate perhaps but,its not something you have a right to get mad over.

I tried to discuss it with her.She thinks it doesn't matter and doesn't want to reason with me. I do have the right to get mad at her if she gets an attitude with me. My roommate is the one who accuses my friends of being dirty but she is a hypocrite because she is the dirty one.

Sakuto · Oct 28, 2014

Some things just shouldn't happen, and this is one of those things... Your roommate needs to grow the hell up.

Sakura Michiko · Oct 28, 2014

Sakuto said:
Some things just shouldn't happen, and this is one of those things... Your roommate needs to grow the hell up.

^^^^^^ this.

Oddity · Oct 28, 2014

SakuraMichiko said:
I tried to discuss it with her.She thinks it doesn't matter and doesn't want to reason with me. I do have the right to get mad at her if she gets an attitude with me. My roommate is the one who accuses my friends of being dirty but she is a hypocrite because she is the dirty one.

Well,if there is attitude involved then of course i was just talking of the subject itself.

But,if there is tempers flaring and no general courtesy to your plight then it seems that its best left to whomever is charge of your wing in that building.

HashiraMadara SenjUchiha · Oct 28, 2014

SakuraMichiko said:
Wow, when I'm at home I don't have to worry about that cause. I have no siblings.

stinking boots, more girlfriends than his old bro, smoking man I can count forever

razz143 · Oct 28, 2014

seduce her so that she stays with you forever leaving her boyfriend.....lol...XD

Sakura Michiko · Oct 28, 2014

razz143 said:
seduce her so that she stays with you forever leaving her boyfriend.....lol...XD

XDXDXD this is funny.

razz143 · Oct 28, 2014

SakuraMichiko said:
XDXDXD this is funny.

...........XD

sage of the 69 paths · Oct 28, 2014

Tell her, "Look at what you're doing and think about your future for a second." then ask her, "are you gonna get anywhere in life with your current *****y self? or are you gonna be some single pregnant mother with 2 children?" I think after this she'll probably apologies. If not then its better to move to another room because people like this don't know what they have till its gone.

Tennis Robot · Oct 28, 2014

sage of the 69 paths said:
Tell her, "Look at what you're doing and think about your future for a second." then ask her, "are you gonna get anywhere in life with your current *****y self? or are you gonna be some single pregnant mother with 2 children?" I think after this she'll probably apologies. If not then its better to move to another room because people like this don't know what they have till its gone.

Don't listen to that^. It's so instigative. Just learn about her. As much as possible. Figure out why she is the way she is. Then you will know what to do.

Erebus · Oct 28, 2014

you should get a room change, bare with it till the end of the semester, then get a room change, in my college they allow that, i don't know about yours, i know it's not an immediate solution, but it's better than nothing, since in college you're 'independent', it's up to both of you to work your stuff out as long as you're stuck together, but i'd lock my room if it were me :win:

sage of the 69 paths · Oct 28, 2014

Called a Genius said:
Don't listen to that^. It's so instigative. Just learn about her. As much as possible. Figure out why she is the way she is. Then you will know what to do.

Yeah you're right, it just p*isses me off when i come across people like this. The only way i've dealt with them is to shut them down emotionally by being agressive with my words. I apologies.

Aoihime · Oct 28, 2014

I know the feels, I go to boarding school and I have crazy ass roommates who play music loud until 3 Am it's super irritating. Just put her in her place, and lock the door. She will learn her lesson soon enough

Ryóma · Oct 28, 2014

Wait for a night when she is coming after 2 and when she comes, give her the biggest fright of her life! Like just do something that will scare her big time. After that, give her a good beating and then you'll both come to terms with each other. And everyone lives happily ever after

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