[Discussion] Relationships
- Thread starter The_Empire
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check it out.. i'm married with a son... i love them both...
i agree that on the first date you should pay, and from then on if ur in a relationship with the person it should be 50/50 considering the 2 should understand one another and know eachothers situations as far as money or whatever... when you get married it's a partnership... you split everything right down the middle 50/50 not just money...
when you are just dating and seeing where it's going do whatever you want... IMO if she isn't ur wife you don't have to pay for shit or even give a ****... unless you plan on marrying the girl or guy... if you plan on staying with the person forever then you should try your hardest to make it last and make it work... not all woman are controlling or sluty bitches and it's the same with men...
when your kids in high school i agree that dating is a joke... it's all just a popularity contest... take it from me people... like i said i'm married with a son... i love my wife and love my son... my wife is finishing up college and i'm in the army soo at the moment i'm bringing home the bread and paying for shit... and i enjoy doing it cuz it's for my family... when she graduates she will get a job and start helping out, out of respect for me for taking care of them for so long and not giving up on anything cuz life is hard when you are in the army and your wife and son isn't with you wherever you are at... but when she is done everything will be 50/50...
so after all my digressing... to sum it up... if you are not married then pay for the first date as a man and to show your respect or to be proper but from then on unless you have plans to marry the person you do not have to pay for everything.. she can get a job and not be a gold digger...
i agree that on the first date you should pay, and from then on if ur in a relationship with the person it should be 50/50 considering the 2 should understand one another and know eachothers situations as far as money or whatever... when you get married it's a partnership... you split everything right down the middle 50/50 not just money...
when you are just dating and seeing where it's going do whatever you want... IMO if she isn't ur wife you don't have to pay for shit or even give a ****... unless you plan on marrying the girl or guy... if you plan on staying with the person forever then you should try your hardest to make it last and make it work... not all woman are controlling or sluty bitches and it's the same with men...
when your kids in high school i agree that dating is a joke... it's all just a popularity contest... take it from me people... like i said i'm married with a son... i love my wife and love my son... my wife is finishing up college and i'm in the army soo at the moment i'm bringing home the bread and paying for shit... and i enjoy doing it cuz it's for my family... when she graduates she will get a job and start helping out, out of respect for me for taking care of them for so long and not giving up on anything cuz life is hard when you are in the army and your wife and son isn't with you wherever you are at... but when she is done everything will be 50/50...
so after all my digressing... to sum it up... if you are not married then pay for the first date as a man and to show your respect or to be proper but from then on unless you have plans to marry the person you do not have to pay for everything.. she can get a job and not be a gold digger...
Dukeofhell
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get used to it, they will milk us for all we have, a woman will spend all your money, always buy brand new things when you dont have the cash, she will talk about your private life to her girlfriends, and when she leaves you she will take all your cash and you wont get to see your kids, then next time you visit your kids will say "**** you".
girls might disagree, but they are girls, and will change when they are women.
girls might disagree, but they are girls, and will change when they are women.
In all my relationships I've never felt like I've had to treat her to everything she wants, and that whenever we go out it's written in the unofficial relationship-codex that I'm supposed to pay for it all. You ask her out on a date, it's your treat. She asks you out on a date, you will find out what kind of person she is if she asks you out and expects you to pay.
I'm 19, and I've had 4 girlfriends. I can't remember a single one I couldn't treat as a buddy. I don't want to be with girls who crave being constantly glued to my face in public places 24/7, but I don't want a girl who won't show me any affection, but rather play playstation and call me "dude" all day, either.
You need to find a balance. There's a time where you're supposed to be intimate, a time where you're the guy and she's the girl. But there's also time be friends, share things 50/50 and behave like best friends, cause that's what you're supposed to be. I could never be with a girl if I felt uncomfortable all the time and feel I have to use 70% of my brain capacity to adapt to however she wants me to be.
At my school (just finished), there used to be this couple who were constantly in each others faces with their tongues all over the place, practically dry-humping on the tables in the cafeteria. I do that as foreplay when I'm going to sleep with a girl, not anywhere.
Rule of thumb, though: Never become her bitch.
I'm 19, and I've had 4 girlfriends. I can't remember a single one I couldn't treat as a buddy. I don't want to be with girls who crave being constantly glued to my face in public places 24/7, but I don't want a girl who won't show me any affection, but rather play playstation and call me "dude" all day, either.
You need to find a balance. There's a time where you're supposed to be intimate, a time where you're the guy and she's the girl. But there's also time be friends, share things 50/50 and behave like best friends, cause that's what you're supposed to be. I could never be with a girl if I felt uncomfortable all the time and feel I have to use 70% of my brain capacity to adapt to however she wants me to be.
At my school (just finished), there used to be this couple who were constantly in each others faces with their tongues all over the place, practically dry-humping on the tables in the cafeteria. I do that as foreplay when I'm going to sleep with a girl, not anywhere.
Rule of thumb, though: Never become her bitch.
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