[Discussion] Question for the Females

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Normally, I write walls-of-texts when it comes to the Discussion section, but I don't even know what to say other than: @ Ghostofthewind - True shit O_O
 

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You should know that girls don't know what they want.
This is the perfect answer. (and I read all three pages)

From my experience a lot of women are similar. They say they want a guy to be nice and respectful, introduce themselves, be friendly, tell a joke make them laugh, but the guys that do all of that get ignored or friend zoned with no chance of relationship.

Women don't know what they want, but how to approach a woman it all depends on the type of woman you're going for.
Some girls don't know what they want, but it can be said that some guys don't know what they want either. Just because you pull all the stops, and do everything that YOU think the women wants- doesn't mean your gunna get the girl. Even if the girl expresses to you what she wants and you do whatever that happens to be- it still is no guarantee. People can't help who they fall in love with/like. Sometimes coming from the friend zone can be a positive- if you ever get the kahunas to do something about your feelings. U_U
 

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Some girls don't know what they want, but it can be said that some guys don't know what they want either. Just because you pull all the stops, and do everything that YOU think the women wants- doesn't mean your gunna get the girl. Even if the girl expresses to you what she wants and you do whatever that happens to be- it still is no guarantee. People can't help who they fall in love with/like. Sometimes coming from the friend zone can be a positive- if you ever get the kahunas to do something about your feelings. U_U
this is a great counter arguement...

but if a girl says she wants "a,b and c" and you being a guy give her abc, than why wont she choose you still?! its baffeling

@Wildtangent and JikitsuSan: you have been chosen lol

"wipes their forehead with an unknown substance in my thumb and says "simbaa" "
lol good choices man..

and lol unknown substance is unknown
 

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LOL =DD
i love how this is directed to the guys trying to find dates on an anime forum..
anyways
i would never say yes if i just met him.. i need to know him first like be his friend
but thats me :)
as long as it's not on facebook right?!
Don't know why but ppl seem to jump to the: "do you have facebook" question!

You should know that girls don't know what they want.
Now, see... this guy knows stuff

Actually there are three ways. The first is using a long list of psychology tactics to make yourself attractive to women. It is very time consuming and requires a lot of effort. The second is to have a lot of money, the third is to have a huge penis.
See what i mean?!

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I personaly just talk to the girl just normally and joke around which i normally do.....but i actually can't help it i just talk to people in general...maybe sometimes too much
 

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this is a great counter arguement...

but if a girl says she wants "a,b and c" and you being a guy give her abc, than why wont she choose you still?! its baffeling



lol good choices man..

and lol unknown substance is unknown
I bet they're now "wtf are they talking about!?"
Because relationships aren't like buying cars... what you want may not be what you need. Sometimes only your heart knows what you need in your life.


I am now like "Wtf are they talking about?" :| what have i been chosen for?
 

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I've seen a couple of threads around here about guys wanting to find hot chicks and have girlfriends over nb lol.. soo to help these guys out i want to ask this question that every guy has asked himself at some point in their lives

to the females: If a guy was to meet you for the first time, how would you want him to approach you? What could he do or say to get your number or get a date etc?

How would you want him to speak to you? Where would be the best place for him to make his move? at a bar? at school? in a restaurant? anywhere? What would you want him to wear? If he had a puppy would that help? If he brought you roses, or a drink, or underwear garments would that help? etc etc

please elaborate

for people trying to find love online (especially nb) this is for you. so you can meet a girl in the real world..

edited: wanted to elaborate on the question

edited: Again this is for guys to meet girls in the real world. not cyber world
It depends on where exactly you are trying to meet girls. For example, I am a college student in a college town (I go to the University of Georgia. Go Dawgs!). I also work at a bank. If a man were to approach me on campus during school or after class, I would probably take him more seriously than I would at a bar Downtown. If a man were to ask me out at my workplace, I would be a little hesitant for obvious reasons.

This is what has worked on me in the past, as I have been "picked up," so to speak, at all locations:

1) On campus: I sat beside this guy in my accounting class for an entire semester. We would casually talk about our weekends, parties, homework, etc. I thought he may have been a little flirtatious, so I responded in the same way. We started studying for our exams together, texting each other, became FB friends, and went through the general getting to know each other stuff. He wasn't pushy or too assertive, and always kept it friendly and casual. After our final in that class, we went out Downtown that night, got drunk, and hooked up. But this was okay, because he took the time to get to know me for 10+ weeks, be my friend, and made me comfortable to be around him. Getting physical early on is dependent upon the situation, as he wasn't some random stranger to me nor was he a sketchball creep that just wanted to get into my pants. What he did right was that he wasn't in my face, "Let's date. Let's have dinner. You are so absolutely beautiful/you are the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. What are you doing right now? Where are you? Who are you with?" Being pushy and overly complimentary is a huge turnoff. Instead, just be real. Don't say things you normally wouldn't say or act differently to get a girl. If you are naturally an *******, find someone that doesn't mind that or is an *******, too.

2) At a bar: I like going out to the bars (Athens has a ridiculous amount of bars) and talking to people. But meeting guys at bars is something that typically turns me off. Just because you buy a girl a drink does not mean that you can expect her to go home with you. Buying a girl a drink, talking to her casually, and flirting a little is fine. Don't put the moves on her if you want her to be a "keeper." If you are looking for an easy lay, plaster her with drinks and make sure she is clean. If you want to have the possibility of a normal, functioning relationship, keep it light and ask for her number to text her a couple of days later. If she is leaving with her friends to go to another bar, do not follow her. For the guys that creep along with us for an entire night, we put their numbers in our phones and name them "CMF" for "creepy mother f-er." No joke. Huge turnoff. When they text us, we know not to respond because of the CMF title. If a girl invites you to come with her/her group of friends, by all means, follow. Don't just sketch around uninvited. That is creepy.

3) At a public place (like a bank, for this example): I have been asked out/hit on at my job before, and it is kind of hit or miss. My advice to guys when approaching a girl at her work, whether they be a coworker or someone waiting on you, don't rush into things. Build up a rapport, flirt a little (ask questions, make little jokes, ask them how their day is going, compliment very lightly -- "You look nice today." "You are always so nice when I come in." My favorite one has been, "I always see you smiling. You have a great smile."). After several interactions, maybe mention, "I go to this ____ (bar/restaurant/band) a lot. Have you ever seen/been there?" then move the conversation to, "We should meet up there sometime, lalala." Read the signals and body language. If she is interested, she will let you know! When I am interested in a guy, and he says something like that, I would readily supply him with my phone number. If a girl is being wishy-washy, more than likely she is uninterested and go on with your day.

I guess overall, my best advice to guys is don't be pushy. I can't speak for all girls, but I know for myself and my crew, we like subtlety. Be yourself, don't get nervous, don't get too aggressive or macho, and maybe even be a little vulnerable. Unless the girl you are trying to woo is a super b*tch, we are going to like to see imperfections, because we are not perfect ourselves. Get to know a girl. It will take you a long way. Just be patient, and go into it with no expectations for a relationship or anything. Now, that is not to say don't have standards or expectations for personality/looks, because it is fine to have a type. What I am trying to say is don't go into it thinking about a long-term relationship or becoming "Facebook Official," because all that will happen in a natural order of things.

Whew. I didn't really mean to type that much but I am currently evaluating my own personal dating procedures/habitats. I think that about sums it up.
 
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1) On campus: I sat beside this guy in my accounting class for an entire semester. We would casually talk about our weekends, parties, homework, etc. I thought he may have been a little flirtatious, so I responded in the same way. We started studying for our exams together, texting each other, became FB friends, and went through the general getting to know each other stuff. He wasn't pushy or too assertive, and always kept it friendly and casual. After our final in that class, we went out Downtown that night, got drunk, and hooked up. But this was okay, because he took the time to get to know me for 10+ weeks, be my friend, and made me comfortable to be around him. Getting physical early on is dependent upon the situation, as he wasn't some random stranger to me nor was he a sketchball creep that just wanted to get into my pants. What he did right was that he wasn't in my face, "Let's date. Let's have dinner. You are so absolutely beautiful/you are the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. What are you doing right now? Where are you? Who are you with?" Being pushy and overly complimentary is a huge turnoff. Instead, just be real. Don't say things you normally wouldn't say or act differently to get a girl. If you are naturally an *******, find someone that doesn't mind that or is an *******, too.
Being FB friends definite sign of going steady. LOL.
 

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Being FB friends definite sign of going steady. LOL.
LOL I hope that is not what the world is coming to. What I meant is that when you meet someone (in general) and you hang out with them or talk to them several times, or you see them on a regular basis, you add them as a friend on FB. That is just part of getting to know someone. I don't have a crazy amount of friends on FB. I decline people every day (people from high school I never talked to that added me, people from high school I did talk to but wouldn't ever care to talk to again, people from work, customers that add me, etc). I only add people that I talk to frequently and my family.

And I don't know about you, but my FB tells a good deal about myself and my personality. My likes, dislikes, my sense of humor, etc. I think looking at someone's FB can tell you a lot about that person. You can get to know people that way just by what they post or like or whatever.
 

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LOL I hope that is not what the world is coming to. What I meant is that when you meet someone (in general) and you hang out with them or talk to them several times, or you see them on a regular basis, you add them as a friend on FB. That is just part of getting to know someone. I don't have a crazy amount of friends on FB. I decline people every day (people from high school I never talked to that added me, people from high school I did talk to but wouldn't ever care to talk to again, people from work, customers that add me, etc). I only add people that I talk to frequently and my family.

And I don't know about you, but my FB tells a good deal about myself and my personality. My likes, dislikes, my sense of humor, etc. I think looking at someone's FB can tell you a lot about that person. You can get to know people that way just by what they post or like or whatever.
Lol I was just joking but yeah FB is like a sign of friendship nowadays. Me honestly I wish I was more social I'm kind of a loner but there's a very good reason behind it.
 

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Lol I was just joking but yeah FB is like a sign of friendship nowadays. Me honestly I wish I was more social I'm kind of a loner but there's a very good reason behind it.
Being social doesn't just have to be face-to-face. You have NB for friends (and enemies LOL). :)

I am not on the enemy side, FYI. LOL
 
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I would want the guy to approach me confidently ( but not arrogently) and respectfully. A way to get my number is to be funny and make me laugh/smile. Also if we find things in common in our conversations.

I would want him to speak to me in a respectful way: minimal swearing, no sexist/crude jokes, and isn't demeaning. It also wouldn't matter where he approached me and a puppy? haha it would probably get my attention because I love puppies but will it help you get my number? Probably not.

Gifts are always nice, but if its a first date/ we are just meeting probably flowers would be the best (however they aren't necessary). However, giving a girl ( at least me) lingerie in the first few days, even weeks, of the relationship isn't a good idea... it makes it look like your only into me because you want ***.
It depends on where exactly you are trying to meet girls. For example, I am a college student in a college town (I go to the University of Georgia. Go Dawgs!). I also work at a bank. If a man were to approach me on campus during school or after class, I would probably take him more seriously than I would at a bar Downtown. If a man were to ask me out at my workplace, I would be a little hesitant for obvious reasons.

This is what has worked on me in the past, as I have been "picked up," so to speak, at all locations:

1) On campus: I sat beside this guy in my accounting class for an entire semester. We would casually talk about our weekends, parties, homework, etc. I thought he may have been a little flirtatious, so I responded in the same way. We started studying for our exams together, texting each other, became FB friends, and went through the general getting to know each other stuff. He wasn't pushy or too assertive, and always kept it friendly and casual. After our final in that class, we went out Downtown that night, got drunk, and hooked up. But this was okay, because he took the time to get to know me for 10+ weeks, be my friend, and made me comfortable to be around him. Getting physical early on is dependent upon the situation, as he wasn't some random stranger to me nor was he a sketchball creep that just wanted to get into my pants. What he did right was that he wasn't in my face, "Let's date. Let's have dinner. You are so absolutely beautiful/you are the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. What are you doing right now? Where are you? Who are you with?" Being pushy and overly complimentary is a huge turnoff. Instead, just be real. Don't say things you normally wouldn't say or act differently to get a girl. If you are naturally an *******, find someone that doesn't mind that or is an *******, too.

2) At a bar: I like going out to the bars (Athens has a ridiculous amount of bars) and talking to people. But meeting guys at bars is something that typically turns me off. Just because you buy a girl a drink does not mean that you can expect her to go home with you. Buying a girl a drink, talking to her casually, and flirting a little is fine. Don't put the moves on her if you want her to be a "keeper." If you are looking for an easy lay, plaster her with drinks and make sure she is clean. If you want to have the possibility of a normal, functioning relationship, keep it light and ask for her number to text her a couple of days later. If she is leaving with her friends to go to another bar, do not follow her. For the guys that creep along with us for an entire night, we put their numbers in our phones and name them "CMF" for "creepy mother f-er." No joke. Huge turnoff. When they text us, we know not to respond because of the CMF title. If a girl invites you to come with her/her group of friends, by all means, follow. Don't just sketch around uninvited. That is creepy.

3) At a public place (like a bank, for this example): I have been asked out/hit on at my job before, and it is kind of hit or miss. My advice to guys when approaching a girl at her work, whether they be a coworker or someone waiting on you, don't rush into things. Build up a rapport, flirt a little (ask questions, make little jokes, ask them how their day is going, compliment very lightly -- "You look nice today." "You are always so nice when I come in." My favorite one has been, "I always see you smiling. You have a great smile."). After several interactions, maybe mention, "I go to this ____ (bar/restaurant/band) a lot. Have you ever seen/been there?" then move the conversation to, "We should meet up there sometime, lalala." Read the signals and body language. If she is interested, she will let you know! When I am interested in a guy, and he says something like that, I would readily supply him with my phone number. If a girl is being wishy-washy, more than likely she is uninterested and go on with your day.

I guess overall, my best advice to guys is don't be pushy. I can't speak for all girls, but I know for myself and my crew, we like subtlety. Be yourself, don't get nervous, don't get too aggressive or macho, and maybe even be a little vulnerable. Unless the girl you are trying to woo is a super b*tch, we are going to like to see imperfections, because we are not perfect ourselves. Get to know a girl. It will take you a long way. Just be patient, and go into it with no expectations for a relationship or anything. Now, that is not to say don't have standards or expectations for personality/looks, because it is fine to have a type. What I am trying to say is don't go into it thinking about a long-term relationship or becoming "Facebook Official," because all that will happen in a natural order of things.

Whew. I didn't really mean to type that much but I am currently evaluating my own personal dating procedures/habitats. I think that about sums it up.
these posts are money xd



on topic: be yourself, and don't try and be someone else, if you fake, you fail, now eat alone at taco bell U_U keep it real, and you can never fail

#simple as that
 

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to the females: If a guy was to meet you for the first time, how would you want him to approach you? What could he do or say to get your number or get a date etc?

How would you want him to speak to you? Where would be the best place for him to make his move? at a bar? at school? in a restaurant? anywhere? What would you want him to wear? If he had a puppy would that help? If he brought you roses, or a drink, or underwear garments would that help? etc etc
I would want him to approach me by being himself. Don't think you can approach me like you have with previous females who fell for your fake-charm by hiding your personality.

If I want him to have my number, I'll offer it before he has a chance to ask. Not assuming he is interested in me to begin with, but better than him having to go far as to kiss my ass to get it.

Again, he needs to be himself while speaking to me. Show me who you are now so I'll know if this is the man I truly want to be with.

I don't care where he makes the move.

He can be naked for all I care.

Puppy? Do females still fall for that? Laughable.

Spare me the garden that'll be tossed aside & just give me the alcohol. & for the love of god, never buy undergarments for a female even if you know her exact size. Wait until the 10th anniversary.


My advice? Don't take our advice only to use/practice on another girl. Just because one says she wants the guy to be nice to her & give her daisies, doesn't mean the chick you're wanting to approach has the same expectations. We're all different even if we're all on the same level of being complicated. So just scratch your balls like you always do & go with the flow.

Oh, this quote is true, unfortunately;
“Women cannot complain about men anymore until they start getting better taste in them.”
-Bill Maher
 
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