I've seen a couple of threads around here about guys wanting to find hot chicks and have girlfriends over nb lol.. soo to help these guys out i want to ask this question that every guy has asked himself at some point in their lives
to the females: If a guy was to meet you for the first time, how would you want him to approach you? What could he do or say to get your number or get a date etc?
How would you want him to speak to you? Where would be the best place for him to make his move? at a bar? at school? in a restaurant? anywhere? What would you want him to wear? If he had a puppy would that help? If he brought you roses, or a drink, or underwear garments would that help? etc etc
please elaborate
for people trying to find love online (especially nb) this is for you. so you can meet a girl in the real world..
edited: wanted to elaborate on the question
edited: Again this is for guys to meet girls in the real world. not cyber world
It depends on where exactly you are trying to meet girls. For example, I am a college student in a college town (I go to the University of Georgia. Go Dawgs!). I also work at a bank. If a man were to approach me on campus during school or after class, I would probably take him more seriously than I would at a bar Downtown. If a man were to ask me out at my workplace, I would be a little hesitant for obvious reasons.
This is what has worked on me in the past, as I have been "picked up," so to speak, at all locations:
1) On campus: I sat beside this guy in my accounting class for an entire semester. We would casually talk about our weekends, parties, homework, etc. I thought he may have been a little flirtatious, so I responded in the same way. We started studying for our exams together, texting each other, became FB friends, and went through the general getting to know each other stuff. He wasn't pushy or too assertive, and always kept it friendly and casual. After our final in that class, we went out Downtown that night, got drunk, and hooked up. But this was okay, because he took the time to get to know me for 10+ weeks, be my friend, and made me comfortable to be around him. Getting physical early on is dependent upon the situation, as he wasn't some random stranger to me nor was he a sketchball creep that just wanted to get into my pants. What he did right was that he wasn't in my face, "Let's date. Let's have dinner. You are so absolutely beautiful/you are the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. What are you doing right now? Where are you? Who are you with?" Being pushy and overly complimentary is a huge turnoff. Instead, just
be real. Don't say things you normally wouldn't say or act differently to get a girl. If you are naturally an *******, find someone that doesn't mind that or is an *******, too.
2) At a bar: I like going out to the bars (Athens has a ridiculous amount of bars) and talking to people. But meeting guys at bars is something that typically turns me off. Just because you buy a girl a drink does not mean that you can expect her to go home with you. Buying a girl a drink, talking to her casually, and flirting a little is fine. Don't put the moves on her if you want her to be a "keeper." If you are looking for an easy lay, plaster her with drinks and make sure she is clean. If you want to have the possibility of a normal, functioning relationship, keep it light and ask for her number to text her a couple of days later. If she is leaving with her friends to go to another bar, do not follow her. For the guys that creep along with us for an entire night, we put their numbers in our phones and name them "CMF" for "creepy mother f-er." No joke. Huge turnoff. When they text us, we know not to respond because of the CMF title. If a girl invites you to come with her/her group of friends, by all means, follow. Don't just sketch around uninvited. That is creepy.
3) At a public place (like a bank, for this example): I have been asked out/hit on at my job before, and it is kind of hit or miss. My advice to guys when approaching a girl at her work, whether they be a coworker or someone waiting on you, don't rush into things. Build up a rapport, flirt a little (ask questions, make little jokes, ask them how their day is going, compliment very lightly -- "You look nice today." "You are always so nice when I come in." My favorite one has been, "I always see you smiling. You have a great smile."). After several interactions, maybe mention, "I go to this ____ (bar/restaurant/band) a lot. Have you ever seen/been there?" then move the conversation to, "We should meet up there sometime, lalala." Read the signals and body language. If she is interested, she will let you know! When I am interested in a guy, and he says something like that, I would readily supply him with my phone number. If a girl is being wishy-washy, more than likely she is uninterested and go on with your day.
I guess overall, my best advice to guys is
don't be pushy. I can't speak for all girls, but I know for myself and my crew, we like subtlety. Be yourself, don't get nervous, don't get too aggressive or macho, and maybe even be a little vulnerable. Unless the girl you are trying to woo is a super b*tch, we are going to like to see imperfections, because we are not perfect ourselves. Get to know a girl. It will take you a long way. Just be patient, and go into it with no expectations for a relationship or anything. Now, that is not to say don't have standards or expectations for personality/looks, because it is fine to have a type. What I am trying to say is don't go into it thinking about a long-term relationship or becoming "Facebook Official," because all that will happen in a natural order of things.
Whew. I didn't really mean to type that much but I am currently evaluating my own personal dating procedures/habitats. I think that about sums it up.
