My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me

[Jin Hayami]

But how can this just happen? How can a girl say such promising things and commit to you, then leave you in the dust?

I'd like to have a drink and move on. But I don't think it'll be that easy for me.

Because romance is chaos. You can kill yourself wondering why or you can take what happened and accept that it's simply something we all have to endure in our lives.

 

[Arian]

my personal advice: find stuff to keep you occupied. start drawing, play an instrument, do lots of sports, go clubbing, meet with friends etc. if you really wish to move on, i would delete her facebook, her number, all things that connect you two....

 

[N o i r]

First thing you need to know is that no matter what we say, it won't make your pain go away. Trust me, I feel the same pain even though I'm still with mine of 1 year but known her for 2. We're from different worlds, so there will be a time when it might be too much and it'll end. I'm preparing myself for that even though I don't like to think of it.

My advice is to find things to do,like do what can take your mind off her, get busy, workout, surround yourself with friends. Distract yourself the best you can m8, that's the best solution.

The only cure for love, is love.

 

[KGB Kakuzu]

That sucks. Well, to be honest, the best thing I can say is to do things that make you smile or laugh. Focus your attention on your goals/pursuits, and be around the people that matter the most to you (family close friends). When you have some free time, either be around some friends or if none are around, simply sit down and watch something that'll just make you laugh.

Time heals things.... this definitely sucks and will take time, but it can be done.

Because romance is chaos. You can kill yourself wondering why or you can take what happened and accept that it's simply something we all have to endure in our lives.

Pretty much this.

 

[Sageflash]

I'm sorry for you bro, you have to see other girls and have some fun, it will help trust me! You will forget her faster.

But does it really? Granted she just dumped me 6 hours ago and it's still super fresh, but it's so hard to picture myself with another girl.

well i been dump once and it did feel like your describing it what i did was i started to do excercise and it help or just let time pass and you will meet someone else i met someone else im sure you will too

Thank you very much, my friend. It seems the best thing to do is occupy yourself and wait for the storm to pass... which is quite frustrating.

the First love is something you will never forget! Just focus on your stuff, you got things to do then just crying for a women. Good luck! Friend.

I appreciate the post. Thank you.

Aaaaaahaaaaaaaaaa tough luck.

Quite... but dont be a jerk and rub it in, man. There's no honor in kicking a guy when he's down.

i am very sorry for you. happened to me too, i had a 6year relationship and within one day it was over. but to tell you the truth, when one door closes, like 3billion others get open to you..... i would say go out and do whatever you please! it could be either crazy *** adventures or another love story.... life goes on and sometimes its better things end.. now i sure am very happy it happened, even though back then i was crushed.

This is an outlook I want to adopt very soon. Keep hoping it's meant to be this way and I'm just stuck in limbo right now. Thank you for this, it helps to know I'm not alone in this struggle.

 

[Chihaya]

Just know that everything happens for a reason. Maybe this happened because she wasn't the right one for you. Maybe there's another girl out there, feeling the same thing, whose meant for you. You just were not meant to live your whole life with this girl. Your whole life. You'll find a different girl, who makes you happier and whose the right one. Break ups happen, you have to move on. Everyone goes through heartbreak. But who knows, maybe you'll get back together. Live is unpredictable.

 

[SSU]

Damn that sucks. My advise would be to take a break for a few months and just relax and attempt to move on. People always say that their first was their "one" but they rarely are. In time you will get over it and looks somewhere else. It won't be easy though and you have to remember that.

 

[UCE]

thats a stupid saying....any "true love" will never be forget tbh.... but whatever. i agree on the rest

It isn't stupid? Is a fact. the First love is something that you "wont" forget, you May move on, but that First love will always be in your mind, have you ever had a First love? Of course, you still remember? Answer that. But of course you wont forget, but as humans we can't leave on the past. We have a road/path to follow

 

[Derek1st]

I was about to make almost this exact thread. Here are my differences. My girlfriend was of 9 months, but i felt the exact same way about her. The feeling you're explaining, i'm feeling too.

The difference is, mine broke up with me because a few months ago, she woke up one morning and felt different. Depressed, uninterested in doing things, stressed. And she started feeling less affectionate. She started hanging out with her one guy friend more and more and doing it later and later.

She still promises that she doesn't love him, she doesn't even want to date him, but that she's been hanging with him because while she's feeling all disinterested, she doesn't want to put the effort into a relationship right now. She doesn't have the emotional enthusiasm to give 100% to the relationship and feels i deserve more than that.

She told me all the time how much she loved me, was IN love with me, sent me these wonderful love letters. But her feelings have been fading. not just towards me, but to everything. She still cares about me a lot, and still loves me, but just doesn't feel that overwhelming love she use to. We could keep trying, but she doesn't think she wants to be a relationship right now while she figures everything out. But she wants to be friends, because we've always been best friends. She even wants to still hold hands and cuddle.

That just makes things weird though

that we didn't break up because of a fight, or because someone cheated, or because we dont like each other anymore. She cares about me, and i care about her, i'm in love with her, and although she doesn't feel much of anything lately, I can tell that she still loves me too. Its just weird breaking up with someone but still being close to them

She said that when she gets over this weird depression and sorts things out, that we can be together again. I told her that there's no guarantee and that hurts, she said that if its meant to be, we'll find each other again.

The problem is, she hangs out with her guy friend literally 3-4 days a week now. I work all the time and never get to see her. How am i suppose to win her over if i never see her? Also he DOES like her. Even if she doesn't want to date him (or anyone right now), if he makes a move, she might get caught in the moment. They already hold hands and stuff

 

[AlphaMaleLion]

I'm sorry for you bro, you have to see other girls and have some fun, it will help trust me! You will forget her faster. She will think you will be sad all day, just be happy and tell her its good this way and that you already seeing other chicks, she will get jealous and she will try to get you back.

I did the same with my ex girlfriend, that was a year ago, she still wants me back lmao

But does it really? Granted she just dumped me 6 hours ago and it's still super fresh, but it's so hard to picture myself with another girl.

I edited my post ^^

 

[LustyLover]

You could kill yourself

 

[Europa]

True love doesn't exist, those Disney Movies lied. #scroogestatus

 

[Its sasukebase]

Thank you, my friend. I appreciate your words.

I'm just spitballing, but I think our relationship as a couple was taking over identity. I think she's scared of feeling like we're two halves of whole instead of two wholes coming together, if that makes sense. We're too close and it scares her kinda thing.

Just my conjecture because things have been magnificent from day 1, minus 2 rough patches that ended pretty quickly.

Good advice... but like I said, I was gonna propose. We were building our lives together, we shopping for homes together. I was prepared for everything with her. Now I'm just empty handed.

Your welcome. Just try to relax and talk to people to get you mind off of it.

 

[Trúth]

You could kill yourself

Reported and negged. enjoy

 

[Arian]

It isn't stupid? Is a fact. the First love is something that you "wont" forget, you May move on, but that First love will always be in your mind, have you ever had a First love? Of course, you still remember? Answer that. But of course you wont forget, but as humans we can't leave on the past. We have a road/path to follow

im just saying that the same could be said about every true love some1 experiences...when you truly love some1 that person gets a part of your heart(=your brain....) even if you break up, or hate each other afterwards, if it was true love it will always be remembered.

people keep saying that about the first love, only cause when its the first love its a completely new feeling and a huge sensation... but later loves are usually far more developped and deeper...in the end we remember them all....except they werent loves but just shallow relationships

 

[Sageflash]

Yeah it shocked me pretty bad. But i'm just about over it now. 2 years later and a new girlfriend.*_*

I'm glad to hear everything worked out for you. Just wish there was a fast forward button on my life right now.

Relationships come and go. Learn from your mistakes, and her mistakes. By her words its sounds like maybe you were too overbearing or controlling. I don't know, none of us know because we weren't there. I'd use this time to grow personally. The healthier you are, the better your next relationship will be. You don't want to keep plugging away at the same mistakes and treading down the same paths over and over. The pain will go away eventually.

It's ironic if that's it, because she was the more possessive one between us. I never pushed for anything that would separate us or harm us as a unit. It's a mystery where I went wrong.

Sell the ring, buy a jetski

This made me smile, thank you.

Because romance is chaos. You can kill yourself wondering why or you can take what happened and accept that it's simply something we all have to endure in our lives.

I guess so... shinobi are people who endure, after all.

In an unrelated note, this entire ordeal is making me appreciate Naruto even more.

my personal advice: find stuff to keep you occupied. start drawing, play an instrument, do lots of sports, go clubbing, meet with friends etc. if you really wish to move on, i would delete her facebook, her number, all things that connect you two....

Yeah, that was a critical first step that took a couple tries... I feel so empty without her.

First thing you need to know is that no matter what we say, it won't make your pain go away. Trust me, I feel the same pain even though I'm still with mine of 1 year but known her for 2. We're from different worlds, so there will be a time when it might be too much and it'll end. I'm preparing myself for that even though I don't like to think of it.

My advice is to find things to do,like do what can take your mind off her, get busy, workout, surround yourself with friends. Distract yourself the best you can m8, that's the best solution.

The only cure for love, is love.

I'm sorry to hear that my friend, I wish you and your girl all the strength in the world. I believe you can make it work if you try.

That sucks. Well, to be honest, the best thing I can say is to do things that make you smile or laugh. Focus your attention on your goals/pursuits, and be around the people that matter the most to you (family close friends). When you have some free time, either be around some friends or if none are around, simply sit down and watch something that'll just make you laugh.

Time heals things.... this definitely sucks and will take time, but it can be done.

Thank you. I'm sorry it has to be this way, I hate to just lay back and let this spiral after the 3 years of work and effort I put into our relationship.

I almost feel cheated.

 

[LustyLover]

Reported and negged. enjoy

Jimmies have been rustled.

 

[UCE]

You could kill yourself

That's mean you know? Dunno if it was a joke tho. But don't play like that, respect. But Meh is your choice you may feel good since your doing this on the internet.

 

[Its sasukebase]

You could kill yourself

This isn't funny. I dont see how you can make jokes on him losing someone he loved. Neg rep for you

 

[cigi]

Man if she doesnt come back your going to feel shitty for sometime U_U.... only another heart will heal your heart (pain) GL hope all goes well