I think it's the second.That is either genius relationship advice or a wicked mean torture method.... I'd go with the first! xd
Are you f* serious? He can't tell her she is 'fat'! He CAN'T use that word. EVER.That's true love you have there. Go tell her you don't like her being fat, and express your "true" love.
I'll even buy you a wedding present.....