[Discussion] Is It Right For Women To Withold *** In A Relationship?

[JStar King]

Just listen out and give me your opinion on this. Now it's true that "SOME" women love to use *** as a weapon in a relationship, and they can use it to test you. They want to see how much power they have over you. And there are other women who just don't think about *** in a relationship, and it can get stale after awhile. Let's take this scenario:

If a man and a women get married and have been married for quite some time (For instance three years), and the man has been doing everything to treat his girl right (Pay the bills, cook, clean, has been a great listener, making sure the kids are taken care of, and is very caring) and has been to make a move for months or weeks, but the wife keeps withholding ***, is it right?

Or is a man and his wife hasn't had *** in months or years, and he's been doing everything to preserve their marriage, but the wife doesn't want to give up the goods, is it right?

If a man takes his women out to a nice dinner (After dating for a few months or weeks), pamper her, gets her three hour at a day spa hours prior, takes her out dancing and having fun, they go back to her house, and he makes a move, but she shrugs him off, is it right?​

I want to hear your opinions on this, because I would hate to be in that situation. I mean in my opinion, it's not all about ***. But if I treat a girl right, but we haven't had *** in MONTHS (6-8), and she keeps dodging me, I think it's time to break up.

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[bnfrando]

depends so much on the situation. don't punish someone just for not reciprocating sexual desires, but if it's truly being used as a "weapon" or a means of control, that means there are deeper issues that should be addressed

 

[Avani]

You are asking this question on a forum where most visitors are teenagers.. and you cannot figure out for yourself or ask the girl directly to find out the problem and reasons ... And asking the internet whether you should break up ... :|

....You seem to be heading for break up regardless of what other people say, since I do not see proper communication between the two of you and an unwillingness to confront it directly. I hope it would be face to face and not though SMS or linking this thread to her.

 

[Melanin]

You gotta ask yourself; why is she or he withholding..

Am I a quick pumper? Do my private parts have an odor? Was the dinner nasty? Does my breath stink? Is my mini me endowed enough? Questions of that nature.

On the flip side, this is a "family fourm"..

 

[Chikombo]

Why wouldn't it be?

 

[Cobwebby]

Look for intimacy in other ways, and do not see *** as a reward. *** is meant to make a child together lovingly. *** as i think you are referring to it, is lust and should be avoided in my understanding. Good luck! (On a side note, if you no longer desire ***, and look for genuine connection and love, you will see her attitude towards you shall change!)

 

[patrickscott]

Since I'm twenty I guess I have to speak for the grown ups. It's not right and *** should never be withheld in a relationship especially if you as a man are doing everything in your power to stay faithful and keep the relationship interesting. In addition, i think we as men should have access to *** with our partner at anytime that is convenient. She does belong to you and you to her after all, keep in mind I'm referring to serious relationships.

 

[brownbear]

Dude, relationships can get complicated. Some people aren't sexual but still want someone to love and be loved by. My advice to you would be to make sure your with someone who has a *** drive similar to your own. All people are different, as a result all relationships are as well.


And to directly address your question. Yes,the woman is in her right to not have *** if she doesn't want to,same goes for the male but that's rarely the case.

 

[Ansatsuken]

Intimate/sexual relation is base on mutual agreement or if that woman want it(***).

Is not like you given a care to something and get a reward after as example: cleaning your school toilets and later on be accept by your school football coach to train with your team mates. Like a done deal.

Women are not cheap toy/tools to be used anytime you(man) want.

 

[brownbear]

Since I'm twenty I guess I have to speak for the grown ups. It's not right and *** should never be withheld in a relationship especially if you as a man are doing everything in your power to stay faithful and keep the relationship interesting. In addition, i think we as men should have access to *** with our partner at anytime that is convenient. She does belong to you and you to her after all, keep in mind I'm referring to serious relationships.

Dude,I'm 26 and married with a kid so I can assure you your views on a "serious relationship " are vastly askew and immature.

 

[Desiigner]

Since I'm twenty I guess I have to speak for the grown ups. It's not right and *** should never be withheld in a relationship especially if you as a man are doing everything in your power to stay faithful and keep the relationship interesting. In addition, i think we as men should have access to *** with our partner at anytime that is convenient. She does belong to you and you to her after all, keep in mind I'm referring to serious relationships.

You're not grown up with 20.
Also, obviously each woman has the right to deny ***. Whether it'll be a deal breaker or not is another question.

@OP this is kind of a weird question to ask, especially on an anime forum with a lot of members under 21. I don't really know what reply you were searching for either, because obviously no man that's not asexual would like to be in a situation like this. However, it won't change the fact that it's her body and she can do whatever she wants with it.

 

[jiraiya lives]

So basically you're saying that the man should only do nice things for his women in hopes of her having *** with him.

If she's not ready to have *** then she isn't ready, there's no right or wrong about it... she's just not ready

This applies to men as well

 

[patrickscott]

Dude,I'm 26 and married with a kid so I can assure you your views on a "serious relationship " are vastly askew and immature.

Okay bro, I'm not telling you how to live your life or anything, but what are you doing on NB you shouldn't have any time to even be browsing the web.

You're not grown up with 20.
Also, obviously each woman has the right to deny ***. Whether it'll be a deal breaker or not is another question.

@OP this is kind of a weird question to ask, especially on an anime forum with a lot of members under 21. I don't really know what reply you were searching for either, because obviously no man that's not asexual would like to be in a situation like this. However, it won't change the fact that it's her body and she can do whatever she wants with it.

Age doesn't gurantee maturity, and yes this generation of women seem to know exactly what they want, or at least they think they want. A woman saying no to *** after a certain period of time in a relationship raises a question, why is she withholding it. Perhaps she was sexually molested and it scares her, or maybe she doesn't want to be seen as "Easy". All of these may play a deciding role in the choice but when it comes down to it. It's not the man's fault that she has these insecurities and she like every other human on this Earth needs to learn to grow above insecurities and look at *** the way it should be looked at. A blessing

 

[JStar King]

You gotta ask yourself; why is she or he withholding..

Am I a quick pumper? Do my private parts have an odor? Was the dinner nasty? Does my breath stink? Is my mini me endowed enough? Questions of that nature.

On the flip side, this is a "family fourm"..

That'll hurt. Plus, I'm not in a relationship. I just got back into the church and waiting for God to send me the one.

Since I'm twenty I guess I have to speak for the grown ups. It's not right and *** should never be withheld in a relationship especially if you as a man are doing everything in your power to stay faithful and keep the relationship interesting. In addition, i think we as men should have access to *** with our partner at anytime that is convenient. She does belong to you and you to her after all, keep in mind I'm referring to serious relationships.

From man to man, I can agree with this.

 

[Ansatsuken]

From man to man, I can agree with this.

Selfish.

 

[brownbear]

Okay bro, I'm not telling you how to live your life or anything, but what are you doing on NB you shouldn't have any time to even be browsing the web.

Well sir I have the time to spare atm due to being my grandmothers personal care taker. I'm at an odd point in my life were I can't take a job as I'm attempting to let her die comfortably and surrounded by family instead of strange hospital staff. Kinda trapped at home 6 days a week. On the bright side,I get to watch as my kiddo grow up at the same time. A complaint I hear from many dad's is missing these moments due to work. I'm practically a house husband lol

 

[brownbear]

From man to man, I can agree with this.

You mean from boy to boy ey mate?

 

[Laraib]

People say it is the duty of a woman to keep her husband happy in every way, and if she displeases her, God is displeased with her. I think that makes a tad sense, considering how these relationship end up in first world countries.

 

[patrickscott]

Well sir I have the time to spare atm due to being my grandmothers personal care taker. I'm at an odd point in my life were I can't take a job as I'm attempting to let her die comfortably and surrounded by family instead of strange hospital staff. Kinda trapped at home 6 days a week. On the bright side,I get to watch as my kiddo grow up at the same time. A complaint I hear from many dad's is missing these moments due to work. I'm practically a house husband lol

That is one of the most honorable thing I've seen a man in this age do. I hope people show you the appreciation you deserve. That's an amazing feat. Keep going and best wishes!

 

[brownbear]

That is one of the most honorable thing I've seen a man in this age do. I hope people show you the appreciation you deserve. That's an amazing feat. Keep going and best wishes!

Well thank you sir and I appreciate your kind words far more than you know. I wish you all the best as well and remember to treat the people in your life and rela t ions hips with respect and understanding the likes of which you have shown me. I was almost certain my comments had fallen on the screen of an angry opinionated key board warrior, thank you for proving me otherwise