Naruske Izuchiah
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Hello sir,
At the core of your questions, while putting aside any insecurities, fallacies, or miscommunications, on both sides of the coin, I couldn't help but to remember and research what the Bible says about *** and marriage. Also, I read somewhere in the first page of replies how you recently got back to the church. So with this in mind I want to reply to you as a follower of Christ.
In the New Testament the apostle Paul--a messenger and witness of the Christ sent out by Jesus Himself, a.k.a the Son of God, for those who don't know what is an "apostle" is--wrote to the early churches mentioning aspects of *** and marriage. Two that comes to mind are the churches of Corinthia and Ephesia. In 1 Corinthians chapter 7, Paul gives the church some guidelines and reminders regarding how *** and marriage should be within the Church, namely, because that kind of stuff wasn't happening prior his letters (you may even find verse 5 appealing but it's not meant to be used cunningly). Drama, tensions, and confusions where common, as you can image with their forms of communications back in the days.
And for the other, Paul also wrote to the city the Ephesians, more specially in Ephesians 5:22-33 in what manner one ought to love your wife\husband. Now these are the two examples that kind of jumped out of my head (and some epic Google searches for verification). There are more, I'm pretty sure. But hopefully it can be a start in getting some insight to your questions.
In more practical terms I'll bear repeating what others have already said about how important good and honest communications is, not just in marriage but all forms for relationships. From friends to family, and beyond. And when you need to express a concern do so with with humility, truth, and love. All in equal measure. The world, and more so the internet, dismisses humility and love because they are seen as weak or perhaps inconsequential to effective communication. But you sir reminded me that humility paves the way for greater wisdom. How? You may ask? Because you put this question in a forum where it probably isn't the most appropriate due to the maturity of some\many of the audience member in it. Still, you clearly felt that you needed to ask. And so, you received. Far be it from me to slight you. On the contrary, I'm complimenting you.
Sir, forgive me. I have already written too much but please bear with me just a little more. If I may suggest. It is good to find mentors in ones life. Around 3-5 is ideal. If you ever read secular books or just know highly effective and successful people you will find that they all have mentors in their lives. Handful of people who have values, or something, that can positively affect your growth development in life. If trust is an issue then become that trustful person so that trustful people enter your life. If you feel that you already that person then be even more humble than before. If still no progress it may be difficult but reassess the people whom you call friends in your life. But above all else, know, or relearn, who Jesus is, and His message. A Christian is a follower of Christ. Following involves not just believing, but doing too. It's a relationship. And you can't Do unless you Know. And you can't Know unless you spent time discovering and learning who. So that once you learn you truly believe, and then by that faith, do. Thus, it is by our Faith that we are made Righteous in God's eyes. In James 2:17 he talks about Faith without works is dead. And Hebrews 11, it talks about Faith by their works and how the mentioned ones were made righteousness; how they pleased God.
So, in the end. Will you take the time to know who the son of God is? Anyways, what you're doing is good, for no one who keeps asking remains a fool (not that I ever believed you were one to begin with, I'm just making a general statement). Thanks for reading. Peace!
At the core of your questions, while putting aside any insecurities, fallacies, or miscommunications, on both sides of the coin, I couldn't help but to remember and research what the Bible says about *** and marriage. Also, I read somewhere in the first page of replies how you recently got back to the church. So with this in mind I want to reply to you as a follower of Christ.
In the New Testament the apostle Paul--a messenger and witness of the Christ sent out by Jesus Himself, a.k.a the Son of God, for those who don't know what is an "apostle" is--wrote to the early churches mentioning aspects of *** and marriage. Two that comes to mind are the churches of Corinthia and Ephesia. In 1 Corinthians chapter 7, Paul gives the church some guidelines and reminders regarding how *** and marriage should be within the Church, namely, because that kind of stuff wasn't happening prior his letters (you may even find verse 5 appealing but it's not meant to be used cunningly). Drama, tensions, and confusions where common, as you can image with their forms of communications back in the days.
And for the other, Paul also wrote to the city the Ephesians, more specially in Ephesians 5:22-33 in what manner one ought to love your wife\husband. Now these are the two examples that kind of jumped out of my head (and some epic Google searches for verification). There are more, I'm pretty sure. But hopefully it can be a start in getting some insight to your questions.
In more practical terms I'll bear repeating what others have already said about how important good and honest communications is, not just in marriage but all forms for relationships. From friends to family, and beyond. And when you need to express a concern do so with with humility, truth, and love. All in equal measure. The world, and more so the internet, dismisses humility and love because they are seen as weak or perhaps inconsequential to effective communication. But you sir reminded me that humility paves the way for greater wisdom. How? You may ask? Because you put this question in a forum where it probably isn't the most appropriate due to the maturity of some\many of the audience member in it. Still, you clearly felt that you needed to ask. And so, you received. Far be it from me to slight you. On the contrary, I'm complimenting you.
Sir, forgive me. I have already written too much but please bear with me just a little more. If I may suggest. It is good to find mentors in ones life. Around 3-5 is ideal. If you ever read secular books or just know highly effective and successful people you will find that they all have mentors in their lives. Handful of people who have values, or something, that can positively affect your growth development in life. If trust is an issue then become that trustful person so that trustful people enter your life. If you feel that you already that person then be even more humble than before. If still no progress it may be difficult but reassess the people whom you call friends in your life. But above all else, know, or relearn, who Jesus is, and His message. A Christian is a follower of Christ. Following involves not just believing, but doing too. It's a relationship. And you can't Do unless you Know. And you can't Know unless you spent time discovering and learning who. So that once you learn you truly believe, and then by that faith, do. Thus, it is by our Faith that we are made Righteous in God's eyes. In James 2:17 he talks about Faith without works is dead. And Hebrews 11, it talks about Faith by their works and how the mentioned ones were made righteousness; how they pleased God.
So, in the end. Will you take the time to know who the son of God is? Anyways, what you're doing is good, for no one who keeps asking remains a fool (not that I ever believed you were one to begin with, I'm just making a general statement). Thanks for reading. Peace!
