Is it better to be your self around women or be wat they want you to be?

[Jack Spicer]

Be yourself, in my opinion, unless your main goal is to score.

 

[sakuraaa]

you should treate the girl in a nice way & be your self

 

[Easyfathom]

EchoPain is somewhat right, best advice does normally come from the opposite ***

To be honest dude, it should just come natural. We are almost programmed to do certain things, or act in certain ways, just the way things happen. This is such a massive subject that doesn't get talked about often with humans. I mean you see it a lot with animals and actually if you strip it down to basics, it is kinda the same. You are looking for something that attracts you in certain ways.

Some guys only care about tits, some only care if they're intellectual, its about preferential's. Someone resenting you for being nice... Wow, there are people out there that frown on being nice :O That's like frowning to someone for being polite. Why would you try an be friends with someone like that (unless that is your preferential :|)

Dude ultimately be yourself... At the end of the day you will have a moment of realization and that would be either unhappiness or resentment towards yourself. Do what makes you happy and no one should make you change doing something you enjoy.

My one suggestion dude, is that you try and find someone that see's you for being just you, and that you do the same.

I think I got away from the point a bit, but I hope something in there helps xD

 

[Hawker]

At the point when you're not desperate about women and don't want their attention no matter what, then you will be as yourself around them just naturally. Women sense that and more than being yourself they find, "not giving a f*ck if girls like me" -attitude, sexy.

So you can't force yourself to act either of those ways..you just have to get used to girls and acknowledge the fact that you don't need them, they need you.

 

[shez]

Just be yourself, but not too much though, we all have our bad sides that we like to keep hidden or Private

I totally agree, there is a limit to how much you can be yourself around the opposite ***. You have to decide whether the girls your talking to can handle your personality. Although this only really matters if your trying to score. If not, you really shouldn't care, just relax and go with the flow.

 

[Gyakusetsu]

look im when im around girls i try to act like myself but i go immidiatly to being a poser and i hate doing that i really do is there any advice out there anyone can give me?
it would much appreciated

You should be yourself, but hopefully that includes showing her that you're intelligent enough to be deceptive when the situation calls for it.

 

[Kyuubikiller]

lmao Dude just be yourself. I had a time when meeting girls and trying to get with them was a game, so I always put on a front, and trust me, it's gets tiring really fast. Being someone you're not, you constantly have to put on facades, and the girl will soon catch pn to the games you're playing. Being yourself, you have nothing to worry about because she will like you for you whenever this girl comes along, and that makes it much easier. When someone likes you for you, it makes you feel special.

 

[Swizzik]

NEVER BE YOURSELF! lol Everyone more or less embellishes when trying to woo the females its natural. If I'm trying to get at a girl anime and manga never come out of my mouth that's not just cool.

 

[Naruto33]

B urself, becoz if you changed the way u act around her and the relationship develops in the end your going to get tired of being someone else all of the tym and this will only cause issues for her.

 

[Mai]

Be urself..

 

[Universal Enlightenment]

trust me be your self

 

[tunevstoon]

depends if u wanna be a player be what each gurl wants and run that game on them but if u wanna meet a gurl ur really gonna luv a be with then be urself at all times or ull never meet the right gurl

i agree i just wanted to add if its the latter for u then
sometimes u gotta be willing to change some of ur ways
to win that person over and if u do that u wont be a poser

 

[Fire fist]

Dont fake yourself dude