In order to live a happy life which should be more important: Others or Self???

[TenseiganFTW]

I think it is definitely self! When you are happy you make everyone else happy automatically! No efforts required!

Not really...
Alchoolists are happy to drink but they cause car accidents and rape womens...
Stealers are happy too...

 

[Kishi Uzumaki]

both are important so i guess finding a balance is a good idea .

personally i don't have lot of people in my life that i'm close to and ones i'm closest too, i care about them as much as i care about myself so you could say they're important as much as me

even though i try to be the best i can be i know that there will be short comings from me and from others and there will be arguments, fights or disagreements ( i guess i've these a lot for example i don't need lot of socializing but my family members need lot of socializing sometimes they even blame me for not been like them though i can try to be like them i think i'll never be like them ) so i guess one have to tolerate them so you can be happy as much as possible .

 

[Yubel]

Both, It's impossible to be happy with just one. Actually you can but it's fleeting.

 

[Nick01]

Both..

 

[Aquaglow]

Not really...
Alchoolists are happy to drink but they cause car accidents and rape womens...
Stealers are happy too...

You are saying two different things! Alcoholics are not at all happy! Happy to drink alcohol and happy with yourself are two different things. A happy person wouldn't want to be an alcoholic. He/She would want to live a clean healthy life!

 

[GinkgoLeaf Girl]

In order to live a happy life... Experiencing happiness (vicariously through others or not) involves the self one way or another because you are the one who is feeling it. Note that this does not address what the source of happiness is; I am merely saying that whether it is taking care of others or taking care of yourself that leads to happiness for you, ultimately, it is you (the self) who is experiencing it (others could be as well).

In my honest opinion, others are more important. I think making myself happy is okay, but making others happy is better. What is the point of being happy when you cannot or do not share it with others? Or, how long can you remain feeling happy when you know that others are not? As many people have pointed out, the answer is not strictly one or the other; there is a golden mean for everything.

Take care of others by taking care of yourself; take care of yourself by taking care of others *_*

 

[Aim64C]

^Title.

Others can include family, friends, country, humanity, etc.

Also ofc we all know that there needs to be a balance so this thread is basically talking about the direction u choose to live your life

Ultimately, most healthy people arrive at the idea that it is the other people in life that ultimately make life worth the experience. We choose to interact with others not purely out of self-interest - but out of a concern for others.

Of course, even the apparently selfless actions of people is tied to the reasoning that one's own contrived direction for others is superior. When you give of yourself to others - it is because you believe that you know what is proper to give them given their situation - that it is better than what would happen if you did nothing.

In the end - you don't really get to choose anything but yourself - you simply get to choose how you view yourself in relation to those around you. Even when you try to place others ahead of yourself - you are inherently placing your desire to see something done for others above their desire to see something done for you.

But, the framing of those types of outlooks is very important.