In order to live a happy life which should be more important: Others or Self???

[ANiMUS]

^Title.

Others can include family, friends, country, humanity, etc.

Also ofc we all know that there needs to be a balance so this thread is basically talking about the direction u choose to live your life

 

[Funky Tiger]

self.

 

[Aquaglow]

^Title.

Others can include family, friends, country, humanity, etc.

Also ofc we all know that there needs to be a balance so this thread is basically talking about the direction u choose to live your life

I think it is definitely self! When you are happy you make everyone else happy automatically! No efforts required!

 

[ANiMUS]

I think it is definitely self! When you are happy you make everyone else happy automatically! No efforts required!

That isn't really true :| Ppl can be happy for u, but that doesn't really mean that those ppl are happy.

 

[LustyLover]

Personally I don't think I could be happy without my friends, so for me others, though I do have a balance of both.

 

[Hashirama Senjuu]

That isn't really true :| Ppl can be happy for u, but that doesn't really mean that those ppl are happy.

Its better than if you weren't happy, cause if you weren't happy than everyone who else isn't happy would just be unhappier

 

[ANiMUS]

Its better than if you weren't happy, cause if you weren't happy than everyone who else isn't happy would just be unhappier

Do you think that u can't be happy by putting others before yourself? :|

 

[Hashirama Senjuu]

Do you think that u can't be happy by putting others before yourself? :|

Yeah you could, only if you made sure you were happy before you did

 

[ANiMUS]

Yeah you could, only if you made sure you were happy before you did

Not really. Some ppl are miserable on their own but gain happiness by bringing happiness to others :|

They don't obsess about their own problems as much

 

[Aquaglow]

That isn't really true :| Ppl can be happy for u, but that doesn't really mean that those ppl are happy.

Then those people are really great in my eyes! However there are very few of those and i would love to meet them one day!

 

[Hashirama Senjuu]

Not really. Some ppl are miserable on their own but gain happiness by bringing happiness to others :|

They don't obsess about their own problems as much

You see them as happy by making others happy, but I can tell you from experience those are the saddest people.

 

[Gerkak]

Self, one must be happy and willing to live with others for everyone to be happy. By everyone I mean said person's family and friends. If one is not happy with themselves they can't make anyone happy.

 

[Tennis Robot]

I say others, but that is because I do not really care if I am happy or not. I know that, no matter how unhappy I am, I will not do anything dumb/bad, and I do not think that I deserve to be self-indulgent when I know that I have the ability to help people in the world who are suffering.

 

[ANiMUS]

You see them as happy by making others happy, but I can tell you from experience those are the saddest people.

I know ppl who actually do put others ahead of themselves and they are genuinely happy. :|

 

[Izou Xaxa]

Only myself

I am sick of other people

Friends often tell me they are my friends but they always lie and call me to get out of here

I think the way of life is for each individual different just like i tried to live like everyone else but it fails i think the way of life i was chosen for is to sit and rot in my house, work, drink coffee, eat, sports and everything alone

 

[Zee Seh]

One can say Self Or Others, it depends on what happiness actually means to you.. There are people this world have witnessed who spent all their lives working for the good of others by sacrificing all the leisures of life, Were they happy?
Or that guy who spent all his life being self centered and ignorant about everything in the world, and led a peaceful and Unbothered life?
If you ask me, I'm Self centered most of the times and caring for others is not one of my best traits, but i still think life is good for all it is, Am i happy? Thats still debatable tho Lol

 

[Hashirama Senjuu]

I know ppl who actually do put others ahead of themselves and they are genuinely happy. :|

You just think they are, but obviously you're just repeating me if they truly are happy as they made sure they were happy first, rather it be by helping others or not.

 

[Jazzy Stardust]

Props on the thread idea, nice.

But I'm gonna go with the neither option. I tried living for myself only, which works for a while, but in the end I felt lonely. Then I tried living more for others than myself, then people take advantage of you after a while.

So neither for me or both. I can't pick one honestly.

 

[ANiMUS]

You just think they are, but obviously you're just repeating me if they truly are happy as they made sure they were happy first, rather it be by helping others or not.

No I know one person that was disowned by her parents and then when she moved in with a friend the friend kicked her out leaving her no where to go. By staying positive and helping others something turned up and now she is living in this elderly guy I know's house as his care taker :|

Helping others is still her first priority in life and she is still happy with her life

 

[Sir Francis Drake]

It should be a mix of both. If you can't give a little to other people, what worth do you really have in the world? If you can't do things that benefit you, how could you respect yourself?