I'm in desperate need of advice! Help please!

[Guardian of the Rain]

Ok, so for years I've been struggling with people staring at me in public.

It's very distracting and irritating. Yes, I am good looking. Just about a 7 though, which is nothing special. So that rules out people staring at me because I'm attractive. Even if I were a 9 or 10, that wouldn't give people the right to have their ugly eyeballs on me. It's so beyond rude and indecent.

Rudely staring at strangers—for whatever reason—may not make you as bad a person as Hitler, but you're still a subhuman P.O.S. in my book.

When the staring begins whenever I'm out and about, it almost always puts me in a bad mood, or a worse one if I'm already having a bad day.

Thanks to my muscular physique, I'm able to divert people's stares when I mean mug them. But I'm still annoyed that I even have to do that in order for people to stop looking at me.

And to be honest, I don't even like when girls stare at me (unless they're smiling and giving me that "I want you" look).
If girls stare at me with an indifferent expression, then I just think to myself, Hoe, if you're not gonna say something, then you might as well not look at me at all. You're just another random chick in that case.

I searched Google and found some good advice on this old blog:

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Nickster said...

People stare because they are insecure, judgmental, or in some way surprised or shock. The human race is curious yet scared. We HAVE to create labels for people based on ***, race, etc. just so we can feel comfortable and safe in our environment. When people stare most often it is to judge in order to make themselves feel better, prettier, or cockier. Women are the worst, incredibly judgmental. People also stare for fun or if they have nothing better to do which is pathetic. "People watching" as they call it. They are insecure in some way. The only valid reason someone should stare is if they see something bizarre, dangerous, or awe inspiring. At that point they should compliment or react accordingly in such a way that they aren't just staring. In the end, people just need to grow the phuk up and accept themselves and others for WHO THEY ARE! Staring at good looking people is as pretentious as it gets, the more you stare the greater your insecurities and shallowness. My advise would be to stare back and give them the biggest smart ass smile you can.
Cool blog! Peace

Nickster's post is great, but isn't enough. Some additional advice would be much appreciated!

P.S. - Surely some of you members are the very kind of people I'm talking about. So, if you're an inconsiderate dipsh*t who stares at strangers in public, I hope you will change your ways. If not, then I truly wish the worst for you because many people, like myself, are sick and tired of being stared at by you trash.

 

[loj]

I would be flattered if girls looked at me but whatever XD

I'd be like:"*wink* suP gurl" hehehehe

 

[~Ethereal~]

XD First world problems.

 

[Desiigner]

This looks like a troll...

 

[Dark Sonic]

Wear geek glasses and dress unfashionable. Hamper your looks!

 

[Guardian of the Rain]

This looks like a troll...

In my long history on NB, I've only trolled once, and this sure as hell isn't another one. If you have no decent advice, then I prefer you just don't post, man.
Just because you can't relate, you think it doesn't make sense smh

Wear geek glasses and dress unfashionable. Hamper your looks!

I dress very bland. Not eccentric at all. Geek glasses seems like a good idea though lol might make me look "hipster" though

 

[Dark Sonic]

I dress very bland. Not eccentric at all. Geek glasses seems like a good idea though lol might make me look "hipster" though

Better to be hipster than a Casanova. I'd feel the same way if girls look at me like a piece of meat.

But you do what you do bro.

 

[Sizera]

Show us your muscles then ._.

 

[Guardian of the Rain]

Show us your muscles then ._.

Better to be hipster than a Casanova. I'd feel the same way if girls look at me like a piece of meat.

But you do what you do bro.

You guys have the wrong idea. I'M JUST AVERAGE LOOKING. Only 5'9". Too short to even be considered a "Casanova" lol
@Sizera a few people know how I look for the "Show yourself thread" when I posted as ItachiLeeHatake. I took my pics down though in paranoia of weirdos. I don't have to prove that I'm fit when I indeed am, and not even being arrogant about it.
I'm not claiming that people stare at me because I'm good-looking. I think it's because they're just weird, indecent, inconsiderate, lame, and/or insecure.

@Super Saiyan Blue thanks anyway

 

[CrimsonReaper]

What is wrong with people staring at you?? they might find you attractive or good looking?? isn't that what everyone wants? attention. Even if that's not the case people get stared at all the time you're not alone.

 

[Sizera]

You guys have the wrong idea. I'M JUST AVERAGE LOOKING. Only 5'9". Too short to even be considered a "Casanova" lol
@Sizera a few people know how I look for the "Show yourself thread" when I posted as ItachiLeeHatake. I took my pics down though in paranoia of weirdos. I don't have to prove that I'm fit when I indeed am, and not even being arrogant about it.
I'm not claiming that people stare at me because I'm good-looking. I think it's because they're just weird, indecent, inconsiderate, lame, and/or insecure.

You're ItachiLeeHatake? I remember you. cool guy

 

[System001]

Trolling and insecure. That's an impressive combo.

 

[Dark Sonic]

In that case, I don't know then lol

 

[Ripple Hole]

This is why I simply don't make eye contact with anyone and haven't for years,
some people like you freak out about it, others enjoy, some just want it from friends
and tons more of stuff. It's annoying af to have to take in consideration if the person
you're about to look likes it or not, or if they'd get angry enough to attack you over it.

There's a broad amount of things it could mean. Personally though, if you're catching a lot
of eyes I'd say don't worry about it, people are gonna talk shit and in the case they're not
thinking anything negative about you, it doesn't hurt you at all.

Also I don't really think it makes anyone subhuman to look at a stranger lol.. I look/glance at people's
faces that I find attrative or odd(both good and bad) to a lesser extent though.

 

[KingForever7]

I'n all honestly, the same thing happens to me.

Girls keep looking at me....but I'm just not interested. Stop looking at me !!

 

[Guardian of the Rain]

What is wrong with people staring at you?? they might find attractive or good looking?? isn't that what everyone wants? attention. Even if that's not the case people get stared at all the time you're not alone.

I'm very well aware that I'm not alone in this, and am very glad about it.
Reading of others like me on that blog was very pleasant. I guess you'd have to be someone like us to understand what the big problem is.
Different strokes for different folks, I guess *sigh*

In that case, I don't know then lol

lol at least you tried instead of falsely judging me like some idiots are. Even though you may not share this issue with me, you didn't insist on accusing me of trolling. I very much appreciate that. +rep for restoring my faith in humanity.

 

[NineSNS]

People need to be more discreet when checking out your muscles. It's rude to disregard a person's privacy even if what they're looking at happens to be eye candy.

 

[Dark Sonic]

lol at least you tried instead of falsely judging me like some idiots are. Even though you may not share this issue with me, you didn't insist on accusing me of trolling. I very much appreciate that. +rep for restoring my faith in humanity.

Thanks.

 

[DominiqueX]

Wow, you have such serious problems, dude.

 

[CrimsonReaper]

People need to be more discreet when checking out your muscles. It's rude to disregard a person's privacy even if what they're looking at happens to be eye candy.

no it's not rude... if you don't like people checking you out then wear something more concealing obviously staring much would be a whole different story.