I'm in desperate need of advice! Help please!

[Ripple Hole]

Also just recalled you weren't asking for advice to change but telling everyone else to change for you lol.

 

[-Punk-]

Almost stopped reading when I read people looking at me but I kept going then because I'm good looking came and I stopped.


Good try tho, sips

 

[NineSNS]

no it's not rude... if you don't like people checking you out then wear something more concealing obviously staring much would be a whole different story.

Maybe it's just me. I feel like I'm being rude if I stare and don't have intentions of communicating with the person. Which is why I chose to be discreet about it. But I'll still look :snick:

 

[Nobel]

When i hear that OP finds himself as "attractive" and "good looking"

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[Guardian of the Rain]

People need to be more discreet when checking out your muscles. It's rude to disregard a person's privacy even if what they're looking at happens to be eye candy.

LMAO I didn't mean for you guys to picture me as some Calvin Klein model. Sheesh. I just have an athletic physique. Just enough muscle for me to be able to make dudes look away when I return their stare.
I'm an introverted nerd before I'm anything else, so people staring at me gives me some anxiety.

I'n all honestly, the same thing happens to me.

Girls keep looking at me....but I'm just not interested. Stop looking at me !!

It's hard to read sarcasm in text, but I think you're being serious. If you are being serious, then that's exactly how I feel!

This is why I simply don't make eye contact with anyone and haven't for years,
some people like you freak out about it, others enjoy, some just want it from friends
and tons more of stuff. It's annoying af to have to take in consideration if the person
you're about to look likes it or not, or if they'd get angry enough to attack you over it.

There's a broad amount of things it could mean. Personally though, if you're catching a lot
of eyes I'd say don't worry about it, people are gonna talk shit and in the case they're not
thinking anything negative about you, it doesn't hurt you at all.

Also I don't really think it makes anyone subhuman to look at a stranger lol.. I look/glance at people's
faces that I find attrative or odd(both good and bad) to a lesser extent though.

Very well, man. I try so hard not to make eye contact. With girls, I succeed. With dudes, I always fail because my ego won't allow me to disregard the fact that they're sizing me up, looking as though they're belittling me. I just have to give them the "You got a problem?" look. Yes, I'm very immature for this, but I can't help it, which is why I'm asking for advice lol
Everything you said makes sense. Looking at someone who's attractive is definitely forgivable, so I wouldn't insult you by calling you a "subhuman". You seem very smart and hell of a lot more mature than I am.
In honor of the time you took to give me that advice, I will try my best not to care when people, especially fellow young men, stare at me next time I'm out in public.
Thanks!

 

[CrimsonReaper]

Maybe it's just me. I feel like I'm being rude if I stare and don't have intentions of communicating with the person. Which is why I chose to be discreet about it. But I'll still look :snick:

people work out, wear more revealing clothes or just try to look good because they want to be the center of attention they want people to find them attractive which means they want people to check them out. it's not rude to check a girl or a boy out they look good what are you supposed to do, it's not your fault it's simple biology, acting against it is unnatural and uncomfortable.

 

[Guardian of the Rain]

Too many people are definitely reading my post wrong.
My problem is a common one and has little to do with looks. Google "Why do people stare?" for proof. Tons of people share my problem.
Just because you can't relate, you find me to be petty or trolling. lol wow

You people must be the ones who rudely stare at strangers. Guess I've struck some nerves

 

[Ripple Hole]

Too many people are definitely reading my post wrong.
My problem is a common one and has little to do with looks. Google "Why do people stare?" as proof. Tons of people share my problem.
Just because you can't relate, you find me to be petty or trolling. lol wow

You people must be the ones who rudely stare at strangers. Guess I've struck some nerves

I thought you were trolling because it's pretty much impossible to give any real advice, aside from ignore it(which isn't always
the right thing), because the situation varies so much lol. That being before you even started signaling nasty fingers at starers

 

[Fountain]

Are you a nightkin or something?

 

[Pyro NB]

If you notice them staring at you would you have to be equally staring at them?

 

[Guardian of the Rain]

If you notice them staring at you would you have to be equally staring at them?

Peripheral vision, man. I glance to see if they're staring, and if they are, this is what usually happens.
1st Glance: Ok, just looking at me for no apparent reason, I suppose.
2nd Glance: Wtf is this (some insulting word) looking at?
3rd Glance: WOW. Someone has an eye problem. *mean mugs*

Are you a nightkin or something?

I had to Google what that is and LMAO
You mean this?

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I thought you were trolling because it's pretty much impossible to give any real advice, aside from ignore it(which isn't always
the right thing), because the situation varies so much lol. That being before you even started signaling nasty fingers at starers

I definitely already say, "F*ck you!", with my eyes lol
I might try conveying that messaging with my middle finger instead haha

 

[Pyro NB]

Peripheral vision, man. I glance to see if they're staring, and if they are, this is what usually happens.
1st Glance: Ok, just looking at me for no apparent reason, I suppose.
2nd Glance: Wtf is this (some insulting word) looking at?
3rd Glance: WOW. Someone has an eye problem. *mean mugs*

I had to Google what that is and LMAO
You mean this?

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I definitely already say, "F*ck you!", with my eyes lol
I might try conveying that messaging with my middle finger instead haha

But you gave them enough attention to notice them staring. Advice Glance 1 "ok" glance two walk off...

 

[Pukkake Pokayo]

<div class="bbWrapper">Jesus. Of all the things to complain about.<br /> <br /> That is true/justified in one case, however and it's when lil kids just stare the **** out of you as if they've been possessed or something. What can you do?<br /> &quot;You got a problem?&quot;<br /> &quot;Take a picture. It'll last longer&quot;<br /> &quot;F@ck off&quot;<br /> Flip them off/make faces if their parents aren't watching?<br /> <br /> Anyway. People watching is completely natural and even a hobby. Particularly for elderly/city people.<br /> <br /> Was also just watching a documentary with Stephen Fry about manic depression and one woman has your problem XD</div>

 

[Guardian of the Rain]

But you gave them enough attention to notice them staring. Advice Glance 1 "ok" glance two walk off...

I don't give anyone attention until I notice them staring at me from my peripheral vision. They ALWAYS start it. I'm always looking forward or down, deep in thought and minding my own business. Then some impolite bastard staring at me would capture my attention.
Nevertheless, you are correct. I know ignoring it is the best and most mature thing to do. I just always feel the need to respond with a disgusted look.
Thanks for the tip. I'll try to utilize it. Been irritated by this for a while now and would like to end it in 2016.

 

[Cunning Linguist]

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[Guardian of the Rain]

Jesus. Of all the things to complain about.

That is true/justified in one case, however and it's when lil kids just stare the **** out of you as if they've been possessed or something. What can you do?
"You got a problem?"
"Take a picture. It'll last longer"
"F@ck off"
Flip them off/make faces if their parents aren't watching?

Anyway. People watching is completely natural and even a hobby. Particularly for elderly/city people.

Was also just watching a documentary with Stephen Fry about manic depression and one woman has your problem XD

I have many more serious things to complain about. They're just too complicated for the likes of most NBers to even be of any assistance for. I figured this particular problem is simple enough for some of you guys to be able to help me with.

But anyway, as a man, I'm big on respecting my elders and protecting children, so I can forgive their stares. Plus, kids just don't know any better and many old folks just stop caring about manners because many of their minds are so far gone lol

People watching shouldn't be considered a normal thing because it's weird and impolite.
Oh, and yes I'm depressed. lol thought I'd deny that? But that actually doesn't play a factor in this. My introversion and love of privacy is why I hate being stared at.

@Cunning Linguist LMAO whatever you say, buddy.
I'm humble about my looks, so if I try to convince you imbeciles that I'm attractive, you'd label me as "cocky", which I'm far from. You're likely the ugly one. Me stating that I'm decent looking caused you to reveal your envy. Sorry
I'm a nerd and proud. F*ck my looks. You sad creatures are the ones getting bent out of shape because I claim to not be ugly.

 

[~Ethereal~]

When i hear OP finds himself as "attractive" and "good looking"

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Well, there's nothing wrong with finding yourself attractive but that staring at me problem made my night.

 

[Pukkake Pokayo]

<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/goto/post?id=20157353" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-20157353">Guardian of the Rain said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent"> I have many more serious things to complain about. They're just too complicated for the likes of most NBers to even be of any assistance for. I figured this particular problem is simple enough for some of you guys to be able to help me with.<br /> <br /> <br /> @Cunning Linguist LMAO whatever you say, buddy.<br /> I'm humble about my looks, so if I try to convince you imbeciles that I'm attractive, you'd label me as &quot;cocky&quot;, which I'm far from. <br /> <br /> But anyway, as a man, I'm big on respecting my elders and protecting children, so I can forgive their stares. Plus, kids just don't know any better and many old folks just stop caring about manners because many of their minds are so far gone lol<br /> <br /> People watching shouldn't be considered a normal thing because it's weird and impolite.<br /> Oh, and yes I'm depressed. lol thought I'd deny that? But that actually doesn't play a factor in this. My introversion and love of privacy is why I hate being stared at. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink"><a>Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>Struck a nerve, have I? Mr. Irresistable. He's more intelligent than every user as well as having the superior the looks. I didn't even call you out on any of the bs in your post before but now I can't help myself.<br /> <br /> My God you're making yourself sound even more pretentious. &quot;They can't help their faults.&quot; XD<br /> <br /> I wasn't saying you were depressed but what you're experiencing at the level you are, is often a side effect of a mental illness. Just saying. :th:<br /> <br /> Staring for no reason is impolite, especially if you're looking at something abnormal/alien to you like a kid seeing a disabled person for the first time. Are you sure your body language is conveying the message you think it is? Because if it was people would think &quot;What's his frickin' problem&quot; and stop staring. Unless you look at them so menacingly they're afraid you might stab them <img src="/images/smilies/go.envolve.com.gif" class="smilie" alt=":lmao:" title="LMAO :lmao:" data-shortname=":lmao:" /><br /> <br /> You know you're no goblin looking mofo so why care?</div>

 

[DominiqueX]

Too many people are definitely reading my post wrong.
My problem is a common one and has little to do with looks. Google "Why do people stare?" for proof. Tons of people share my problem.
Just because you can't relate, you find me to be petty or trolling. lol wow

You people must be the ones who rudely stare at strangers. Guess I've struck some nerves

Well, you just overreact. ö.ö
You say you are in "desperate need". Do you even know what desperation is?
Then you subtly throw certain things in, like "I'm good looking, I have an athletic body, women look at me all the time but I don't want that". Don't you see how silly and kinda arrogant that sounds?
Also you act as if everyone would look at you like this:

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Seriously. Looking at other people is not a crime, we do it all the time. Eye-contact is also normal and I doubt that it is as excessive as you want to express. If it annoys you so much, then tell people that they should not look at you or at least ignore it, easy. It's really not a big problem.

 

[ZK]

Calm down, let them stare, and just do your own thing.

And maybe lay off the attitude.