I was betrayed by a "friend"

Sakura Michiko

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(Sorry this might be kinda long but I tried to sum it up) My neighbor. I felt like we kinda had a bond because we are the same age and we would often talk and normally get along. She was dealing with depression because of traumatic events that happened it her life and one that just happened.My mom and I would often check on her and see how she was doing and watch her kids for her sometimes. Her big sister(a friend of mine since I was younger) did warn be about my neighbor and how she can sometimes get "outta hand", but I shrugged it off because my neighbor mentioned she has family issues. The weird thing is that this last past month she has be avoiding my mom and I. She wouldn't talk to us much and just stopped all together . So I though it was just her being depressed but my mom noticed her looking angry at us or slamming the door when my mom would try talking to her. My mom told me she notice this behavior after she got a new guy friend because she would pull him in the house when she saw us outside but I didn't wanna just assume that was the reason but a few days ago my boyfriend's sister talked to talk to my mom and I about our neighbor( she was friends with my neighbor up until all this stuff happened).

She was telling us the girl was upset at us but she never told my boyfriend's sister any valid reason. My boyfriend's sister told us she was going to fight our neighbor because she didn't like the girl talking bad about me but my mom told her no and stated that she was just going to ask the girl what was wrong. My mom did so and the girl got piss and started cursing at my mom than said "That's why I put your daughter's tires on a flat last month." This greatly pissed me off because I couldn't believe she would do that and I didn't understand why. We got into a mini fuss and my mom called the cops to file a report. Her ex boyfriend, whom she use to fight all the time for god knows what reason told us that she would just flip out on people for no apparent reason. We would see her fighting and she would do this in front of her two little kids.

Today she was tampering with stuff on our porch and my mom told me to go video the tampered stuff. So our neighbor was kinda watching me and I told my mom that someone was watching me. 30 minutes later the girl called the cops and said we was videoing her than she came outside cursing and fussing and we got into another argument but the cop told us stop so I stopped. He looked at my video and saw she wasn't in it and he left. After that she came outside talking about she was going to cut me and all kinds of other crazy stuff. She's also been texting/threatening my boyfriend's sister about fighting her and me but she still never tried anything yet. I currently have to walk outside all the time with a pocket knife...Geez this is annoying. :kk:
-I was talking to a co worker about this and she told me to contact her sister about this because she thinks my neighbor needs mental help and how this is not good for her kids. Should I get her sister involved or no?
 

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Drag that b!tch, that's the solution.
 

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Don't involve her sister you'll just put her in a hard spot. Avoid the lady as best as possible. If you feel like she is going to do something to you file a police report or have your friends file a police report showing the text with all the threats.

If she slashed my tires I probably would've shoved a potato in her rear muffler:pkun:
 

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I don't see betrayal as much as I see you accidentally befriending a lunatic.

Best thing to do is get dirt on her the next time she does something stupid so you can show the cops, and distancing yourself from her completely.
 

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Her depressions certainly seems to have taken a turn for the worse. Get her sister involved.

(And maybe get a restraining order against her. :| )
 

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I don't see betrayal as much as I see you accidentally befriending a lunatic.

Best thing to do is get dirt on her the next time she does something stupid so you can show the cops, and distancing yourself from her completely.
This is the second time this has happen. The first person was a lunatic "friend" threaten to shoot up our high school 6 years ago.
Don't involve her sister you'll just put her in a hard spot. Avoid the lady as best as possible. If you feel like she is going to do something to you file a police report or have your friends file a police report showing the text with all the threats.

If she slashed my tires I probably would've shoved a potato in her rear muffler:pkun:
She has no car and I'll ask my boyfriend's sister to file a report.
Drag that b!tch, that's the solution.

If she hits me first.
 

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u should shinra tensei that hoe
 

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Geez, that's a lot of pathetic drama. Some people really need a baseball bat meeting their head with full speed.
 

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Omg :(
I'm so sorry that happened.
I feel maybe you shouldn't get her sister involved because if more people are involved...things CAN get messy..
I honestly have no solution to your problem but don't worry too much kayy? :happy:
Be happy :bouncy:
 

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idk what happened to her but it seems like her depression is being vented , been there. of course not everyone is the same but she could be lashing out at you because you were the one who reached out and she may feel like you all are placing pitty on her

at least from my experience thats what it sounds like. i would try one last time to talk to her if i really liked her. if not leave them alone and tell her to leave you alone or youll have to file a restraining order against her
 

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Are you advocating for beating mentally ill people?
No, but suffering from depression is not a free ticket for being an offensive *******. I've been there myself and didn't behave like that at all.
 

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Omg :(
I'm so sorry that happened.
I feel maybe you shouldn't get her sister involved because if more people are involved...things CAN get messy..
I honestly have no solution to your problem but don't worry too much kayy? :happy:
Be happy :bouncy:

Yea right. Don't involve anyone who may get this depressed-verging-on- lunacy-girl, some medical help from professional for her issues, she seems to need badly.

@ OP: Is it the same girl you said who didn't care for her kids and you were reluctant to report but worried about?
 

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Girl, you've reached a whole other level of shitty neighbours.
 

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No, but suffering from depression is not a free ticket for being an offensive *******. I've been there myself and didn't behave like that at all.

people vent, think of it as involuntary response to their trauma. shes probably not aware that her behavior is steaming from that but is mad about something completely petty instead
 

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people vent, think of it as involuntary response to their trauma. shes probably not aware that her behavior is steaming from that but is mad about something completely petty instead

That's her own fault then. I assume the person is an adult and is not mentally disabled, so she has to face the consequences. No matter how traumatic an experience may have been, it doesn't give someone the right to be hostile towards other people who are not involved and did nothing wrong.

If she treated me like that for a certain period of time and even threatened my life, I'd tell her to back off, then make sure that officials take care of her children and that she gets professional help in a, if needed closed, psychiatric institution.
 

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Thank you everyone. I did talk to her sister and she doesn't wanna get involved because they have a rocky relationship. My mom and I are going to file a restraining order on Monday and the owners of our apartment said they are going to talk to her on Monday.
 

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No, but suffering from depression is not a free ticket for being an offensive *******. I've been there myself and didn't behave like that at all.

Not everyone is logical enough to behave like that and sometimes if you can't have time to recover from depression it gets worse i'm thinking it's the case with the op's neighbor

and hitting her with a baseball bat might kill her ( not a good idea ) so best way is to get involve someone of her family or authorities to get her some treatment and avoiding further involvement with her.
 

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Not everyone is logical enough to behave like that and sometimes if you can't have time to recover from depression it gets worse i'm thinking it's the case with the op's neighbor.
I don't really care tbh. We can't excuse every harmful behavior with a reason like "bo-ho, the person feels sooo bad."
 
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