Thundergod123
Active member
If you guys want to read, then feel free to do it, no one is forcing.
Recently, I have been depressed. The reason might be because of stress and concerns. I feel empty, like there is nothing in life anymore.
Well, my problem is people surrounding me, also parents and grandparents. I study in college, but my grandparents tell me to study in my hometown because the largest and most popular university is located in my city. I can't apply for the university when I am still studying away from home? Anyway, I am 20 years old and now I like to be by myself, because I get the freedom which is important such as getting to know how the real world looks like, thinking about economy, what to buy and to use, cleaning, cooking food for myself when you are alone studying etc. instead of so called dependent on the family.
Yes, I understand that many people say that parents love their children and want them to be happy, but it is the same as doing things what they want, it is like desire.
I don't have anything issues with my family, also parents, grandparents and such, but the problem is that they decide what it is right for me? Yes, I am an asian, and typical stereotype. Adults support themselves, make their own decisions based on information from wide sources, including family, and take responsibility for those decisions. Their best intention in this case seems to be misplaced, and is causing me great psychological harm. I get headache of thinking about them and their words, and sometimes when I am about to cry I also get headache, and kind of breathing difficulty.
I am trying my best not to worry that I am bringing shame on anyone, and don't pay much attention to what other think, its my life and I need to chart my own path. However, it is still hard for me to tell them how hard it is to avoid this problem.
So, now I need your help:
1. How can I overcome this depression?
2. Asian parents are very protective, how can I interact with them to win their hearts?
3. How can I use my freedom wisely?
These are my questions based on what I have written above, and if anyone is interested in answering these questions, please let me know, I will appreciate it.
Recently, I have been depressed. The reason might be because of stress and concerns. I feel empty, like there is nothing in life anymore.
Well, my problem is people surrounding me, also parents and grandparents. I study in college, but my grandparents tell me to study in my hometown because the largest and most popular university is located in my city. I can't apply for the university when I am still studying away from home? Anyway, I am 20 years old and now I like to be by myself, because I get the freedom which is important such as getting to know how the real world looks like, thinking about economy, what to buy and to use, cleaning, cooking food for myself when you are alone studying etc. instead of so called dependent on the family.
Yes, I understand that many people say that parents love their children and want them to be happy, but it is the same as doing things what they want, it is like desire.
I don't have anything issues with my family, also parents, grandparents and such, but the problem is that they decide what it is right for me? Yes, I am an asian, and typical stereotype. Adults support themselves, make their own decisions based on information from wide sources, including family, and take responsibility for those decisions. Their best intention in this case seems to be misplaced, and is causing me great psychological harm. I get headache of thinking about them and their words, and sometimes when I am about to cry I also get headache, and kind of breathing difficulty.
I am trying my best not to worry that I am bringing shame on anyone, and don't pay much attention to what other think, its my life and I need to chart my own path. However, it is still hard for me to tell them how hard it is to avoid this problem.
So, now I need your help:
1. How can I overcome this depression?
2. Asian parents are very protective, how can I interact with them to win their hearts?
3. How can I use my freedom wisely?
These are my questions based on what I have written above, and if anyone is interested in answering these questions, please let me know, I will appreciate it.
Last edited:
