i found more this what cousin said on facebook
"everyone is going to have their own opinion but its basicly a sub-culture or a lyrical trait in alternative music. a lot of sub-metal genres are classed as 'emotive' in their nature so might be described as emo, its also a scene charicterised by certain dress eg...black skinny jeans, studded belts, heavy eyeliner even on guys etc... i listen to some music people might call emo but sometimes bands find the tag offensive because of its negative connotations such as self harm or very young rock fans who don't have a credible understanding of music yet. i was listening to some beautiful emotive songs today but anyhew...don't let folk on forums drag you into debates, it will never end." lol ....shes smart i shudnt have posted it lmao .....thanx cuzzie xD and she read the forum lol