[Discussion] How do you feel about being rejected by someone in terms of love?

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Everyone how do you all feel about being rejected by someone even though you are nice to them and pour your heart out to them?
-Do you think it is unfair?
-Do you think it can't be helped because love doesn't always mean that someone is going to date you because you are nice?
-Do you think it is flawed logic that someone thinks that someone should date a person only because they are nice? For example:If you are a heterosexual.You were rejected by someone you liked and you were upset because you were nice and cared for this person.Later someone of the same *** confessed to liking you but you rejected them (even though they are nice )because you are heterosexual.
-Do you think it's okay to wish that person the worst for rejecting you?
-Do you wish that person the best?
-If you are okay with answering these questions: Have you ever been rejected by someone you really cared for? How did you take it? Are you still close to that person?

I'm just curious on people's inputs on this topic. I'm going to stay neutral in this topic(I'm still going to like everyone's comment because I'm thankful for the inputs. ) because I'm rather interested it how you all feel about it?
 
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- Do you think it's fair?
Depends on the situation

- Do you think it can't be helped because love doesn't always mean that someone is going to date you because you are nice?
Of course it means no such thing lol. Love doesn't work like that.

- Do you think it is flawed logic that someone thinks that someone should date a person only because they are nice?

Absolutely. Nobody owes you anything for being nice. It's up to you alone.

- Do you think it's okay to wish that person the worst for rejecting you?
No, it's sick. If you truly like or even love somebody, you want them to be happy. Wishing them the worst means that it is anything but love.

- Do you wish that person the best?
It hasn't happened to me in a very long time as I'm in a very long term relationship (married now), but I don't think I cared much back when it happened. The best idea is to just move on lmao.

- Have you ever been rejected by someone you really cared for?

Not in romantic relationships, at least I don't remember such thing. I have been rejected by my half siblings at some point, though, despite caring for them a lot. We've settled it, though. Yes, I am.

- How did you take it?
It was hard

- Are you still close to that person?
Hell yeah.
 
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-Do you think it is unfair?
No it is their right
-Do you think it can't be helped because love doesn't always mean that someone is going to date you because you are nice?
yes. Love isn't not just for someone's inner self. I mean c'mon you judge someone by their look in the first few seconds you meet them.
-Do you think it is flawed logic that someone thinks that someone should date a person only because they are nice? For example:If you are a heterosexual.You were rejected by someone you liked and you were upset because you were nice and cared for this person.Later someone of the same *** confessed to liking you but you rejected them (even though they are nice )because you are heterosexual.
No wtf it is normal to reject people of the same *** when you are not gay
-Do you think it's okay to wish that person the worst for rejecting you?
Depends if they really hurt you in a bad way I could understand. If not then you should be an adult about it
-Do you wish that person the best?
Don't know. Have never really been rejected. Probably be neutral
-If you are okay with answering these questions: Have you ever been rejected by someone you really cared for? How did you take it? Are you still close to that person?
I was never in a relation with this girl but we were close and even made out and shit. And well she kinda became what you would call a **** so I don't really care about her tbh.

I'm just curious on people's inputs on this topic. I'm going to stay neutral in this topic because I'm rather interested it how you all feel about it?
 

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It's life. You just have to accept it and move on. Or you could keep trying to win their love. Even in nature if the female declines the male then he has no choice but to search for someone else. Overall it's a complicated topic
 

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-Do you think it is unfair?
Nope

-Do you think it can't be helped because love doesn't always mean that someone is going to date you because you are nice?
Nobody's obligated to date or be dated.

-Do you think it is flawed logic that someone thinks that someone should date a person only because they are nice?
Flawed

-Do you think it's okay to wish that person the worst for rejecting you?
Free will

-Do you wish that person the best?
Free will

-Have you ever been rejected by someone you really cared for?
Nope

Ignored. It's cool, though. I can only but cry in a corner.

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I move on I guess. Depends how you got rejected.
I stopped looking for Relationships after being cheated on. Guess that's also a way to get rejected.
 

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I move on I guess. Depends how you got rejected.
I stopped looking for Relationships after being cheated on. Guess that's also a way to get rejected.

Don't look for relationships and relationships will start looking for you :pkun:

Why is Fil a girl on the gif in your sig? Do I not know something important about him? >_>
 

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Don't look for relationships and relationships will start looking for you :pkun:

Why is Fil a girl on the gif in your sig? Do I not know something important about him? >_>

Well well well
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I guess that's true.

Filosoofis is officially my black lesbian waifu.
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There isn't one person on this planet that is loved by every one, it's just a fact. Just know there is a person for all of us, it'seems just the matter of taking the time to find them.
 

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I always believe that life is impartial to how we feel regardless if it is fair or not
 

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Well well well
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I guess that's true.

Filosoofis is officially my black lesbian waifu.
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Phil looks very nice :flirty:
 

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-Do you think it is unfair?
No. Why would it be unfair? It's just how someone else feels, you can't expect to get affection returned, nor do you have a "right" to get it returned.


-Do you think it can't be helped because love doesn't always mean that someone is going to date you because you are nice?
Being nice doesn't equally mean that you have a right to "be dated" or something. If the feelings for each other work out, fine. If not, fine as well. It's just how it is.


-Do you think it is flawed logic that someone thinks that someone should date a person only because they are nice?
Yes. Thinking that a person is really nice =/= having romantic feelings for this person.

-Do you think it's okay to wish that person the worst for rejecting you?
No, but I did it anyway. Not for the rejection tho, but for the way the person treated me, luring me with lies and promises, but then dropping me like a hot potato with the impudence to ask me if we could just stay friends. The person is dead for me since then.
 

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Don't look for relationships and relationships will start looking for you :pkun:

Why is Fil a girl on the gif in your sig? Do I not know something important about him? >_>

This is probably the best advice You can get.
These kind of things pop up on your path when You least expect it. Don't jinx it by stressing the thought of being in a relationship. It affects Your behaviour.
 

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It was just hyped up infatuation love is mutual
 

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Will be sad for being rejected but it's like riding a bike, you have to get back up again and continue living.
 
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