[Discussion] How do I stop caring?

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How do I stop caring what people think about me? It seems like their opinions hold me back from my potent capabilities.
I wish there was a switch in the brain we could turn off to not care about others opinions. Sadly I don't know anything like that. I try my best to stay unaffected but it still has an impact. It's like taking a punch dead in the face. You can act like nothing happened but you're still bleeding from your nose with possible teeth knocked out.
 

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Do whatever makes you happy
In time you'll find personal happiness is a more powerful feeling than a strangers approval
 

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1. Be honest with yourself about what/where you are right now

2. Decide what/where you want to be a month from now

3. Focus like hell on getting from 1) to 2). Something about the act of setting a goal and moving toward it deliberately puts YOUR opinion ahead of everything else. YOU are in charge.

When you really empower yourself like that, what other people think becomes less important.
 

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Reiterate my sig in your own words to them
 

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Well that's pretty vague. Are these people whoa re offering their opinions strangers of people you know?
 

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First and foremost realise that you are not living for other people. They don't don't define you. You define yourself. Dare to be selfish. Dare to be confident. Rest will just follow. You'll do fine.
 

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How do I stop caring what people think about me? It seems like their opinions hold me back from my potent capabilities.
approval is the probably the one thing humans crave for the most, but letting it limit your capabilities tells you two things: you're not confident enough and need consistent validation

if you respond to the negative treatment, learn to cut back or not respond at all or perhaps throw in some facetious comment you might not otherwise have made
the second you practice this the less susceptible you will be for the need of excessive approval

secondly, ask yourself why their opinion matters to begin with and if their opinions are shaping your reality and creating the delusion that success and validation only comes from their perspective toward you

and realize everyone shapes you regardless if you're apathetic to their criticisms or not, the trick is in discovering that these criticisms don't become the only thing you focus on. they matter to an extent, yes, but to the point where it eats you alive is the moment you need to stop
 

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Smoke weed everyday

Damn ya beat me to the chase everyone else has good answers too. The only opinions that should matter are your own and those who you love or respect but I understand your pain took me a little bit to learn to not give af about what people thought of me smoking the odweeds did help though.
 

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Change, and change their opinion on you. But accept that not everyone will change their opinion. Some people just like being ignorant, there is nothing you can do about them.

Also, I saw a meme which reads something like 'those who try to pull you down, are already under you'.
 
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Very nice tips in this thread.

Prioritize
Whose opinions you should care about. Which places or events matter.
Should you listen to your parents telling you suck?
probably not if they are in real shit position.
You are a poor***.Should you act good,dress well and maintain an attitude in college or school?
May be not. because all these people will forget you. You are going to settle faraway some where so it does not matter whatever the retarded embarrassing shit happened or how you wore old clothes.

Just as much as you care about what other people think of you, they also do too. They may do as much at a level where they group together and talk shit about other people so there is no option where they can talk shit about each others. Use this information to exploit them or convince yourself.
 

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Realize that those who talk behind your back are irrelevant. Just live your life the best way possible.
 

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Just know that many doesn't care about what you say and do other than in that moment or just doing it for gossip .

and i normally doesn't care a damn about what others think of me ( speacially people that i don't know properly ) cause i know what i'm saying and doing and there's times i think a lot about what people i care about think of me probably make me look like a insecure guy to many as much as i hate that side of me, i stll won't mind showing it to people i'm closed to .
 

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My tip was the best. No this thread can be closed.
 
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