[Discussion] Girls dating a guy with a child.. U_U

[Avani]

As men, we are brothers. Brotherly advise.

You are taking care the child. If she is getting child support, it would be the end of you. Get full custody if you have not already. Save your receipts for evidence to say your are the sole provider of your child. Have a job and a stable home. Child support is a no. We would not let that woman break you than she already has.

If you want her to hurt, you get child support. I think that is possible. I forgot.

I can understand if someone doesn't want to pay for the abortion and all that but you talk a woman in to keeping a child against her wishes because you want to for whatever reasons and then you need ideas about how to hurt her even more?

So now she is going to have to carry a child against her wishes, take all the risks and pains and medical and financial hazards coming with it along with future implications for herself and then giving up the baby to him - all the while when she is not even his girl friend anymore- and then she should be paying child support on top of it all...

What a first rate humane idea to give such an advice! That girl deserves to get hurt for letting the guy talk her into bed and then in to keeping the baby, isn't it?

@OP: Tell this to the new girl. She has a right to know especially since you plan to keep the baby in your life. That means the first girls is probably going to be around in some way as well and the second girl may have to put up with both, the baby and the ex GF. And this new girl should know how it's going to be if she ends up pregnant as well.

 

[Stark]

The struggle is real if you're resorting to NarutoBase for answers.

OP: Honesty is the best policy, she'll find out eventually if you stay with her.. man up.

and you thought the best place to ask this question was an anime fan site?

Lmao .

Such a nice advice. I can understand if someone doesn't want to pay for the abortion and all that but you talk a woman in to keeping a child against her wishes because you want to for whatever reasons and then you need ideas about how to hurt her even more?

So now she is going to have to carry a child against her wishes, take all the risks and pains and medical and financial hazards coming with it along with future implications for herself and then giving up the baby to him - all the while when she is not even his girl friend anymore- and then she should be paying child support on top of it all...

What a first rate idea to give such an advice!

@OP: Tell this to the new girl. She has a right to know especially since you plan to keep the baby in your life. That means the first girls is probably going to be around in some way as well. And this new girl should know how it's going to be if she ends up pregnant as well.

Ira has spoken

 

[NoMoreLove]

Im 20 years old.. :|



Umm..
Well, She wanted an abortion and she wanted 500 to get rid of it. I talked her out of it and told her im not doing that. If she dont want the baby give it to me. I begged her to keep it.. something most men wont do
So she dumped me and said she still gonna have it but she dont feel Im there for her cause I didnt give her money to abort the baby.. Smh

Wth kind of girl is she.. No offence. OP: I think you should tell the other girl the truth because if you want to get serious you will need to tell her eventually. Unless you lie and say your parents adopted lol. But that's never a good idea.

I'm 19 and if I was in your situation I would sit my girl down and tell her you know something this is how I feel about you and this is what's happening in my life. I'd still like to be together with you and you should know I have no feelings for my ex.

Give her time and dont rush things and see what happens! All the best and congrats on your baby!

 

[Klaroline]

I came into this thread with the intention of making a joke but decided not to. Anyway to answer your question, yes tell her. If she doesn't accept it well find someone else. I don't know I will never be in this situation.

 

[Kishi Uzumaki]

:Omg:For a twenty year old guy . you should be more responsible . should have use some protection but now it's too late . Use some protection before you make this new girl pregnant as well . If you tell her what you have done . she probably gonna think of you as a irresponsible guy .
If you are damn lucky . she wouldn't take it as much but tell her the truth and let her decide what she wants . good luck with raising the child .

 

[YowYan]

I dated a 25 year old girl not too long ago. She has a kid, which didn't bother me in the slightest.

 

[Tipsyglam]

I think it's a tough choice to let that girl love you back after finding out about the child.

youre not only a second hand but a recycled products in the eye of the girl. being a single independent woman. I would rather leave a guy who is a single father. I hate taking care of children which are not mine. whats the sense, I will act plastic whenever the real mother was there. you feel like you will be left out, whenever the two meets with their children? that awkward moment. you are the most martyr woman unless if the guys wife died. then I'll be okay being the 2nd wife but if the wife is still alive. heck! no way and gross

 

[Itachi Edo]

and you thought the best place to ask this question was an anime fan site?

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lol.

 

[FitzChivalry Farseer]

I dont think you have anything to worry about since shes the one that dumped you. Just dont bring it up until she does and if she gives you sh!t for not being with your kid then just tell her that your girl decided to leave and not you. Youll get points with her I assure you

 

[ArabianLuffy]

@Dionysos: Never lie. Just be honest with yourself and others.

You wouldn't know, but some women see a young father is sexy in manliness. Some women would adopt child rather than giving birth, because when it comes to commitment and responsibilities, not one is sure if they can keep raising a child or not. This is a matter of parenthood. Unfortunately, many youngsters don't want to be involved with raising children. Everyone wants to get laid without any consequences or responsibilities.

and you thought the best place to ask this question was an anime fan site?

Hey, nobody said this forums isn't social, right? Pretty sure there are married members in NB to help him.

 

[Nous]

Tell her.. That's all I will say.

 

[SavageDemon]

TBH i think its hot when a guy is in his childs life especially if he is a good dad. So that would just attract me more to him. But on the flip side I am a single mom and I don't tell guys i have kids until I know he is gonna be around for awhile. Why? Just because guys might be in and out of my life doesn't mean they have to be for my kids.