Girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me part 2

[Lady M]

Hey old friend, check your inbox when you have a moment. I have been worried about you. We should talk.

 

[Young Thug]

let it and her go. i'll give you the typical and cliche "yeah it hurts but you have to get past it" but it's really the truth. you don't want an outstanding relationship with someone who causes you to feel this amount of pain and hurt. from what you posted, her behavior is hot and cold and unacceptable. you have to want more for yourself and realize what you deserve.

 

[The Sach]

I think anyone else on the base can tell you I dont reveal my personal life much if at all. All people know is Im in school for engineering (if they even know that), but for you I'll make an exception. I have been through that similar situation bro about 4 or three years ago. It is possible to become addicted to a person, so at first it feels like the thought of living without that person feels strange, and makes you empty, but trust me time moves on and you will find someone much better you can share a joyful experience. It is my assumption when she started to "make things up" that they weren't really made up, or at least half of it. Most women (men too I guess) have a line of dudes waiting for them to become available. If you love someone it might have ups and downs but it should be overall a joyful experience not a tumultuous obssession to despair, anger, deceit, and lies. Love is indeed blind and requires work. Put your foot down and explore the unknown of a world without someone so close to you and eventual that dark path will become lighter my friend trust me. You will feel a lot better and see the past a lot more clearly. ^^

That is really cool post Omega.^^
I typically liked the bolded part.

 

[kickassjutsu]

I'm 24, she's 21.

Sorry, but there's a lot of important information that needs said. Otherwise an educated answer can't be given and that doesn't do any good. I did my best to cut it down...

Certainly don't want that.

Your gonna waste the best years of your young life on some one who has deep mental issues, lying and has some fling that you don't know about or is just dumb as bricks. No disrespect to this person you blindly care for but some one who plays with another's persons feeling doesn't deserve respect. Your young, go enjoy your self.

 

[Draw]

If my girl friend ever pulled the I think we need a break to mature and maybe see other people for a little id just be out. Like what are u suggesting we break up go fall in love again w someone else and mature from that and then have the intention of leaving that person to get back with me? Hell no it's not going to actually work that way. Listen life is very long this is a small percent of your life, your brain is just use to the sensation of being w her and u feel safe. But pride and self respect is not what is in a relationship, it's a quality a man has.

 

[kickassjutsu]

And going out with the boys bang her friends? Sounds like you hang out with an immature crowd, first it's not that easy to just sleep with girls unless you have no standards. You. Should master being contemp with being alone and doing things for your self, so. You can be a real blessing for the one that's supposed to be in your life. Remember the. Sa t in fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me? Don't be that guy.

 

[Akame]

It's hard but just move on. At this point it seems she's playing with your emotions and you should finish this off before you get really hurt, out of concern for you man. In the end it's you who decides, I wish you the best and hope you find what to do.

 

[The Sach]

I don't understand why can't you just stay away from this love thing for few days?
Getting numbers of other girls just for the sake of finding another one, because you lost first one isn't the right way of falling in love. I know, when you break up with someone who is that much important to you, it takes some time for you to settle down and move on with life, but you don't need to rush things, because you are still young and have a lot of life in your hands. Meanwhile you can focus on other things of your life, which you must had totally ignored when you were in relationship with her. Think about profession, try to learn different skills, try to focus on your family, your friends, enjoy your life.

 

[VJ87G]

It's best to let her be, yo.

 

[Derek1st]

Coming off of a very long, very painful breakup myself, i have one thing to tell you.

Whatever she SAYS, what ever she FEELS, anything that comes out of her mouth is a lie. Maybe not a lie to you, but a lie to her. If she says that she wants to be together, she is trying to sugar coat it. If she wanted you, she'd be with you. It hurts so bad i know, but a woman will twist anything to make her feel like a victim and a good guy. They'll play the martyr, they'll make themselves think they're worthless but in the end, if she's lied to you before, she will lie again. Its hard to think this way because it makes you a pessimist. I know, i'm going through it too. You want to feel like theres someone you can ALWAYS trust. maybe such a person exists, but if she's not true to HERSELF about her feelings, she can't be honest with another.

I'm so so sorry for whats happening to you. i know how bad it hurts. but the best course of action right NOW at least, is to remove her from your life. Unfriend her from anything you got. Get rid of ALL of her pictures. Try not to think about her. It is how i'm dealing with my own stuff. it still hurts when i hear her name, or when i see the guy in my college she left me for. But it helps. When i'm not thinking about her, she can't hurt me

 

[FunkyFatal]

I would right paragraphs to help you with your situation but I'm very sleepy. I just hope things work out for you. That's a dumb excuse to feel like you really have to stay away from someone because your obsessed with that person so much that don't know yourself apart from the other person anymore. XD

If someone really love another they won't make such dumb excuses. Love and like are two different words and they also mean two very different things. She must have mixed feeling about you and whether or not she really loves you. I just hope it all works out lol.

Read my sig and quote I understand what your going through :NO:

 

[FoxesInWonderland]

My advice is to let her go. Based on what youve said she seems childish and not not quite ready to be in a serious relationship with you. Sometimes girls start acting this way when they are in that experimental stage. She probably just wants to have fun and shes not taking you serious i guess. All in all id move on. Lifes too short for that you could be missing out on some other chick who is ready to be serious.

 

[shuma]

Hey old friend, check your inbox when you have a moment. I have been worried about you. We should talk.

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[shadedwonder]

If her actions indicate anything other than yes (as in yes she wants to be with you), then think of them as a no. It's one thing to care about someone but make honest mistakes. (ex: I'm sorry I was b***chy or mean, etc.) It's ANOTHER thing to claim to care about someone but give them mixed signals. ("we're still together, she's gonna come back to me soon, she just wants me" but shares photos with others that she said are just for you. <-- that's not loyal)

If the relationship doesn't find consistency, then how can it ever be stable?

Based on the bit of information you've given me, I'd suggest moving on-- at least at this point in time. Maybe later on in life after she's gotten it together mentally/emotionally and if you two are interested in each other again you can give it another shot.

 

[RoguePatriot]

Something mean is in this spoiler.

Spoiler

Your girlfriend sounds like a psychopath

 

[Sageflash]

let it and her go. i'll give you the typical and cliche "yeah it hurts but you have to get past it" but it's really the truth. you don't want an outstanding relationship with someone who causes you to feel this amount of pain and hurt. from what you posted, her behavior is hot and cold and unacceptable. you have to want more for yourself and realize what you deserve.

My knee-jerk reaction is to disagree, but I know you're right. If you can treat someone you claim to love this cruelly... well, that's unacceptable as you said. I just keep thinking it'll get better and if I leave it'll be a huge mistake and I'll always regret it.

Your gonna waste the best years of your young life on some one who has deep mental issues, lying and has some fling that you don't know about or is just dumb as bricks. No disrespect to this person you blindly care for but some one who plays with another's persons feeling doesn't deserve respect. Your young, go enjoy your self.

Hard truth to hear, but I know this is right. Before my father passed, he always instilled in me to never sell my soul or my nuts to any girl, to never be a doormat and walk with pride. And I know I'm not doing that right now, but a person can't help how they feel.

She's everything you said, but she can be soft, kind, fun, compassionate, inspiring... that's who I fell in love with and I'm afraid I'll miss the proverbial bus on that.

If my girl friend ever pulled the I think we need a break to mature and maybe see other people for a little id just be out. Like what are u suggesting we break up go fall in love again w someone else and mature from that and then have the intention of leaving that person to get back with me? Hell no it's not going to actually work that way. Listen life is very long this is a small percent of your life, your brain is just use to the sensation of being w her and u feel safe. But pride and self respect is not what is in a relationship, it's a quality a man has.

This is pretty much word for word what the homies say to me. All of them have said if they were in my spot they would've booted my girl a long time ago... but she's been a big part of my life for a long time. We were everything the other ever had, but something has changed and she's not that way anymore.

And going out with the boys bang her friends? Sounds like you hang out with an immature crowd, first it's not that easy to just sleep with girls unless you have no standards. You. Should master being contemp with being alone and doing things for your self, so. You can be a real blessing for the one that's supposed to be in your life. Remember the. Sa t in fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me? Don't be that guy.

They're well-intentioned, but you're right. You don't heal by becoming a giggolo.

 

[Hàdes1]

Love is Fake.

 

[Omega]

That is really cool post Omega.^^
I typically liked the bolded part.

Lol, thanks Sach. I felt like he needed a real honest moment. Its tough and is one of the things I keep in my dusty chest under my basement, under my steel safe, under my lazer sensors, under my trap door, behind my sliding book case all within the Kaguya acid dimension, within a acid proof bottle, inside a acid proof nike shoebox. LMAO, but I appreciate your feedback. ^^

 

[RoguePatriot]

Love is Fake.

Grow up. 10char

 

[Xlad]

I think anyone else on the base can tell you I dont reveal my personal life much if at all. All people know is Im in school for engineering (if they even know that), but for you I'll make an exception. I have been through that similar situation bro about 4 or three years ago. It is possible to become addicted to a person, so at first it feels like the thought of living without that person feels strange, and makes you empty, but trust me time moves on and you will find someone much better you can share a joyful experience. It is my assumption when she started to "make things up" that they weren't really made up, or at least half of it. Most women (men too I guess) have a line of dudes waiting for them to become available. If you love someone it might have ups and downs but it should be overall a joyful experience not a tumultuous obssession to despair, anger, deceit, and lies. Love is indeed blind and requires work. Put your foot down and explore the unknown of a world without someone so close to you and eventual that dark path will become lighter my friend trust me. You will feel a lot better and see the past a lot more clearly. ^^

This is one of the best answers I've seen. Like he mentioned, it does hurt to move on. But it's pretty much the only way to find what makes you truly happy. There is likely someone even better than her for that matter.