Friends that get engagement/marriage and pregnancies young

[iNotorious]

They might regret in the future, don't become like them and go with the pace that you think is the best for you and the people that surround you.

I'm 21, and i'm going to be 22 next month and i'm not planning on having a son/daughter anytime soon.

 

[Tennis Robot]

Like I said I don't congratz immature actions and I'm not happy for that.

What do you know about maturity? And what do you know about how other people think? Maybe you are the immature one.

 

[paratise]

One of my closest friends and my sister are in dedicated relationships and them & their partners want to get married some day, but it is not something they planned it is like sorta happened. They are almost 23 and 22 respectively (with their bfs being a year younger than them) but there is no "marriage" in their schedule yet and they do not call each other engaged with their partners. It is like they see their future with them. It would not even happen before they finish university anyway; maybe even later if it would take a while to financially stabilize themselves to make their own living.

They are closest to "marrige" from people i know closely. Except for the ones above 24-25.

 

[Zee Seh]

Well, i'm 18 and i dont reckon any of my friends that are engaged or Married (forget about kids :|) I think an early engagement isn't a big issue , if you think that they're the one and you feel strong devotion to them then you can think about engagement, but getting married at such early age, for god sake you just came outta teenhood, Plus most of such marriages end up is a mess, after a few years you might think all of this was a mistake and then you realize you already got a kid and it becomes difficult to separate too.
My POV, take it easy, take it slow, don't end up doing something that might make you feel guilty or regretful later on in life.
I don't think most of the people who get married at this age can actually afford to have a family, You've not completed your education, you don't have a full time job, so i really wonder how people are able to manage it.

You decision is totally correct and i support it Don't let anyone pressurise you into something you might not be ready for

EDIT: Oh i guess i got a friend who got engaged at an early age ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) His name is P3IN, the same dude who liked this post ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) Apparently he thinks it was a good decision and he's good with it ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

 

[Sakura Michiko]

What do you know about maturity? And what do you know about how other people think? Maybe you are the immature one.

Oh so saying you that my friends who wasn't thinking about protection is mature. Oh please.I'm totally immature for not supporting poor choices and trying to make a career for myself..Totally immature.

 

[Tennis Robot]

Oh so saying you that my friends who wasn't think about protection is mature. Oh please.I'm totally immature for not supporting poor choices and trying to make a career for myself..Totally immature.

Poor choices in your opinion. Poor choices from your perspective, based on what you believe to be correct.

 

[Sakura Michiko]

Well, i'm 18 and i dont reckon any of my friends that are engaged or Married (forget about kids :|) I think an early engagement isn't a big issue , if you think that they're the one and you feel strong devotion to them then you can think about engagement, but getting married at such early age, for god sake you just came outta teenhood, Plus most of such marriages end up is a mess, after a few years you might think all of this was a mistake and then you realize you already got a kid and it becomes difficult to separate too.
My POV, take it easy, take it slow, don't end up doing something that might make you feel guilty or regretful later on in life.
I don't think most of the people who get married at this age can actually afford to have a family, You've not completed your education, you don't have a full time job, so i really wonder why people do it so early.

You decision is totally correct and i support it Don't let anyone pressurise you into something you might not be ready for

EDIT: Oh i guess i got a friend who got engaged at an early age ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) His name is P3IN, the same dude who liked this post ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) Apparently he thinks it was a good decision and he's good with it ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

I think my boyfriend is actually the one but marriage or engagment now just is too much and thanks you for understanding.

 

[Sakura Michiko]

Poor choices in your opinion. Poor choices from your perspective, based on what you believe to be correct.

Poor is general. How is tell someone that you wasn't think or forgot about using protecting a mature choice?

 

[Zee Seh]

I think my boyfriend is actually the one but marriage or engagment now just is too much and thanks you for understanding.

Everyone got their own pace of doing things, just do it when you feel mentally and physically ready for it, lol i can't imagine sharing my space with anyone at such an early age :V

 

[Tennis Robot]

Poor is general. How is tell someone that you wasn't think or forgot about using protecting a mature choice?

Because I'm not going to pretend like I am more mature than anyone else. Especially not someone who I don't know everything about.

 

[slayerdanger]

Getting married and having kids at 20-25 seems the best to me, so i don't see them as getting married too early. I don't agree with the whole getting married at 30 or above is the best option, sounds like some feminist propaganda.

 

[P3ĮÑ]

Oh i guess i got a friend who got engaged at an early age ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) His name is P3IN, the same dude who liked this post ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) Apparently he thinks it was a good decision and he's good with it ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

Yeah, go and tell the world dumbass ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

OT: Engagement is fine, Marriage on the other hand depends. If your financially capable and responsible of supporting your 'inbound" family, then it's reasonable. Marrying without a proper wage, settlement and instability is not a wise decision. Just my 2 cents.

 

[Zee Seh]

Yeah, go and tell the world dumbass ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

The World already knows your truth ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

 

[P3ĮÑ]

The World already knows your truth ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

Go to sleep ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

 

[Zee Seh]

Go to sleep ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

Nice idea, didn't sleep last night ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

 

[Conspirator.]

Well, i'm 18 and i dont reckon any of my friends that are engaged or Married (forget about kids :|) I think an early engagement isn't a big issue , if you think that they're the one and you feel strong devotion to them then you can think about engagement, but getting married at such early age, for god sake you just came outta teenhood, Plus most of such marriages end up is a mess, after a few years you might think all of this was a mistake and then you realize you already got a kid and it becomes difficult to separate too.
My POV, take it easy, take it slow, don't end up doing something that might make you feel guilty or regretful later on in life.
I don't think most of the people who get married at this age can actually afford to have a family, You've not completed your education, you don't have a full time job, so i really wonder why people do it so early.

You decision is totally correct and i support it Don't let anyone pressurise you into something you might not be ready for

EDIT: Oh i guess i got a friend who got engaged at an early age ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) His name is P3IN, the same dude who liked this post ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) Apparently he thinks it was a good decision and he's good with it ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

Good post. I agree.

 

[Hiraishin Stage 3]

21 is a bit too young.

 

[Bronze]

Being married isn't just about loving each other and all that. If you ended up having a kid, you will need a job that can pay you the bills to afford a house, daily food and drink, clothing etcetera.

I have a friend of mine whose not married but his girlfriend is pregnant (we know how, ), and he's 17 years old, 1st year studying Electrical Engineering, and currently works at McDonald's. I pretty much gave it to his face and said his current job isn't going to hand it out, and he will be in his 20s when he gets a certificate.

Get engaged and marry at the age when you have got a certificate, a job that will pay you the bills. I would say 24 is a good year to get married, as the majority finish their bachelor degree before that and would have already got their job by that age. Then you have a kid by 25.

 

[Saikyokami]

I don't congratulate immature actions. It's not in my nature.

you say its immature but if you had someone that you loved that much you too would like to marry them.
If anything you're the one being immature.

They're your friend and they're happy, be happy for them.

I do understand where you're coming from though.
Love is blinding and your friends are being naive they should sit down and think their future before trying to start a family.

 

[To Whatever]

I'd congratulate them because my friends aren't stupid. So if they were to have a kid young, they'd understand what it meant.

One pretty much helped his mom raise his little brother and sister.

The other doesn't like kids. lol